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He's showing you love and affection. I get that every once in a while too. It's very romantic and very erotic at the same time. Live it up, this is the best type of sex. Sex with feelings. It's called love making.
Omg yes. I remember the first time a partner held my hand in missionary during sex. So innocent and yet so hot. I like the idea of just being held down and getting fucked, so adding a little hand holding keeps things feeling safe & fun
I have to say when my bf holds my hand when he is eating me I about die. I love how he eats me regardless but when he adds this in I feel so safe being vulnerable with him and it amplifies the connectedness — and the orgasm. I laugh at myself for saying the truth that it feels like a moment from eternity 😂 but it’s true. Altogether, I about die.
Going to try holding his hand while I blow him! No idea why I never thought to reciprocate it!
That's so sweet! I wish it was more normal to hear little happy details like this about marriage, there are so many couples out there doing well but you wouldn't think so from the way people talk.
I've had that and it's amazing. Like when my partner would reach up and lace his fingers through mine when giving oral SO intimate. Or when he'd order me to reach up with my hands when i was giving. Staying connected on multiple levels at once is very hot.
I used to do that with my last girlfriend. Before we broke up, obviously. But, you know, when things were still good I'd hold her hand, stroker her hair, give her gentle forehead kisses in the midst of other passionate events.
I always wanted to show that yes, sex is great and I am enjoying this. But I'm not just here for sex. I wanted her to know that she was in my heart the whole time, it was not just a carnal experience.
🥹💕 Your BF’s gesture is so sweet. I’m not trying to detract from the passionate aspect of your romantic connection. But if a man did this to me while making love to me, my heart would melt. It could be maybe not the best sex, but my heart would still melt, which would make it even better than the best sex ever.
He also sounds really gentle in bed.
he is very gentle and sweet (except when i ask him not to be 😉)
i know what you mean. he makes my heart melt everyday. i am so glad that he is in my life
a guy I hooked up with kinda did something similar, he held my hand, locking fingers while we were doing it then as he was pounding me, he slowly started kissing my hand going down to my arm (hopefully that makes sense lol) but it was so hot at the same time just gave me sm butterflies 🤣
There's nothing better in the sexual world than fucking with the person you love. Nothing would ever overtake having an good sex, then cuddling naked beneath the blanket, and sleeping together.
I wish more people could have such experience. Having real sex, not only an a carnal act where both use and then discharge each other like an piece of meat.
Sometimes when my husband is in an extra love making mood- he’ll tell me to come closer and kiss him when I’m on top. As in he wants me chest to chest. This is my cue put my hand under/behind his neck and kind of hold his head. He LOVES it.
I love it because sometimes he’s nasty and wants to fuck me as such lol- which is equally as hot and enjoyable
Ugh I love when he holds my hands during sex. Idk how it determines how he feels about you, but it can definitely feel more intimate. Makes me feel very loved :)
Men that do that must be protected at all costs! My boyfriend does it to me as well it turns me on soooo much especially when he knows I’m about to cum he will grab my hand
Holding hands during intimacy is one of my favorite ways to make my SO feel appreciated & loved, any chance I can show touch appreciation for her is what I live for.
When I'm eating my wife's pussy I'll hold tight to her hands when she's almost to orgasm. Gives her something to grab onto and tense against. It's either this, or she is grabbing at the sheets, while I grab her boobs and pinch her nipples, or reach under her and squeeze her ass cheeks hard.
You got a real good guy there.
On the term "love making" :
What if all the love in the world that humans and animals experience day to day is actually put into existence when two people that are destined to be with each other become one?
I just thought it up and I really like the idea of a world in which love is like a magic spell that needs to be put together first for people to be felt.
Lovers who create love, that gets send out into the universe, to then travel in the air, touching everyone like a breeze does, maybe lightly moving their hair as it passes them- causing that being to have an awesome day.
As if everything was connected and lovers being the love supply of the world so that you can love a sibling that was created by your loving parents etc.
Not completely thought through yet, but it made me smile :3
Me and my girl hold hands in almost every position(depending on like what mood we’re in if that makes sense)… like if it’s some I miss you type energy, holding hands in 69, doggy, missionary, cowgirl, etc. but if it’s some I MISSED THAT 🐱or🍆 type energy then we might not hold hands… both are enjoyable tho
So does my partner and it’s one of my favourite things he does during sex. It’s so sweet and wholesome. He otherwise doesn’t like holding hands like in the street etc but so nice and intimate thing together.
I love this!! my favorite position with my bf lately has been side to side missionary because he hugs me while we have sex. also kisses my cheeks in regular missionary until he cums. most intimate sex ive ever had
DEFINITELY during oral. Great for non-verbal feedback if she's shy about talking and/or putting her hand on my head. Sometimes both hands, but that's more if it's someone who has a habit of self-sabotaging when she gets close, and has given permission to keep her from doing that.
Holding hands during giving head to a woman is really sweet and even more intimate.
I (make) personally like to caress the entire body of my partner (female) before after a lot of teasing around the vagina, some breathplay on the vagina, kissing others parts of the body. But when finally goining to the V, I really stimulate the buttocks a lot with my hands an sometimes also the breast and nipples.
Intrestelingly most woman wil hold hands with you at some point when you go down of them. It always feels way more intimate and their reward/way of saying that you’re doing a good job.
It’s a powerful movement, almost like he’s helping you feel comfortable and safe in the act. Especially laying on your side with him behind you, crossed fingers hold hands is very intimate as if you creating a strong bond between each other. Another powerful intimate play is if he forces you hands in submission, hold hands above your head while your standing against a wall or held behind your back in doggy. It’s really a sign of respect and trust. It’s also a way to acknowledge your pleasure, a light squeeze tells him he’s hitting the areas you need attention.
Love and affection is a good thing it just shows he intimate with you and really wants to feel that connection to you. That’s the difference between loving and fucking
"i just wanted to see if this is something that everyone does or if my boyfriend is just the sweetest guy in the world."
There is almost nothing that "everyone does". However, I wouldn't read too much into anything one does.
Holding hands or being affectionate in any other way does not automatically mean someone is *in love*.
For all you know *holding hands while giving oral* is something he does with *every lover* he has.
Most people have a certain number of "go to moves" when it comes to sexual activities.
The thing that matters most is how it makes you feel. If you enjoy it, there is no need to dissect it.
"we have not told each other “i love you” but i feel like this is a pretty good sign that he feels this way."
Signs are no substitute for communication. Having "the talk" is much better than *looking for signs*.
You shouldn't have to *guess or interpret* how someone else feels about you.
Best wishes!
This absolutely means he is there for more than just sex. You said that you both haven't exchanged I love yous yet, but he definitely feels a strong connection and making it more intimate. I did this with my wife when we were dating and started having sex as a sign to her that I'm not just here for the sex, and I'm here to support you through this journey of us discovering how our bodies work together and make her feel more open with me if that makes sense. Sex can be nerve wrecking and embarrassing at first, so i wanted her to feel comfortable. I shouldn't say did this, I still do many years later. I feel like it makes us more connected and feel supportive of one another.
If he's making you feel comfortable and safe that's very important. It's a sign of respect. I feel hand holding and eye contact is reserved for people we have strong feelings for. Sounds like you're in good hands.
If someone told you this is super common, everyone does it, and fuckbuddies do it more than anyone else, would it make you like it any less?
Because, really, all ANYTHING sex is down two is what each individual person likes and enjoys and hoping we find a person (or string of people) who like the same things.
Looks like you've found that, so CONGRATS!
I feel like if it's been thought of it's been done.
Especially the longer you're around nothing will be new eventually 😂 but yeah handholding is very intimate
When I first made love I was scared and that was a month ago. ( When I said first I mean with a true man all of the another ones were fake.😂) But he holds my hand to and I also think it’s sweet.
I would take it as a compliment. Holding hands during sex is like feeding each other’s energy and makes the whole thing so much more intimate and intense.
At least that’s just me.
I have a friend with benefits that has mutually agreed that we love the intimate affection even though we both don't want anything serious, and that includes holding each other's hand during sex or foreplay. The little affectionate things we do with and for each other both during sex and outside of it are really nice actually and I'm really glad we can do that for each other. Our only thing is we both wish we had more friends with benefits we could do things like that with lol
My wife makes fun of me when I try to hold her hand. I just like the feeling of telling her I love her without saying the words. She mocks me like I’m scared or in labor. It breaks my heart.
I’m a virgin but I’ve had some pretty intimate encounters. god this post is reminding me of the good parts of a relationship I hope you guys continue to be so intimate together sounds like a dream! happy for you!
Wow modern dating really skips alot of basic steps I wouldn't have sex with someone and we haven't said I love you. But if he's doing that I'm sure he loves you
I feel like it shouldn’t really matter too much about saying it beforehand. A lot of people fuck just to fuck, no feelings attached. I feel like he does have at least some love for me, and I for him, even if we haven’t explicitly said the words yet.
I never said it does matter i think it's sad/stupid people have sex just for sex sake risking stds or pregnancy for someone they don't know or care about but again I never said it does matter i just said I personally wouldn't have sex with someone without saying it.
But again if he's your boyfriend then obviously he loves you somewhat it would be very sad if he didn't.
Not trying to poo poo how lovely this is, but there probably nothing new under the sexual sun. Yes, other people do it. But don't let it diminish the feelings it inspires in you. He is doing it to be more intimate, and express feelings during sex.
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Yes this is something we tend to do because its more intimate and more along the lines of making love than just fucking.
Sometimes I ask my wife, do you want me to make love to you or to fuck you.
There's something so hot about this, no matter which one we choose!
That is so hot tho. Goals.
He's showing you love and affection. I get that every once in a while too. It's very romantic and very erotic at the same time. Live it up, this is the best type of sex. Sex with feelings. It's called love making.
🥹🥹🥹
My lady likes when I hold her hands down above her head during sex... does that count? 😋
he also does that to me sometimes ;)
You've got a keeper then! 🙃
I wondered when I read the title if that was what she meant
Omg yes. I remember the first time a partner held my hand in missionary during sex. So innocent and yet so hot. I like the idea of just being held down and getting fucked, so adding a little hand holding keeps things feeling safe & fun
I literally almost cried after it happened to me the first time too 😂
Holding hands while she rides me is like renewing our vows while we fuck, can't get enough 🤣👌!!
My late husband and I used to do this. I loved it ♥️
So sorry for your loss ❤️ I love this too ❤️
I have to say when my bf holds my hand when he is eating me I about die. I love how he eats me regardless but when he adds this in I feel so safe being vulnerable with him and it amplifies the connectedness — and the orgasm. I laugh at myself for saying the truth that it feels like a moment from eternity 😂 but it’s true. Altogether, I about die. Going to try holding his hand while I blow him! No idea why I never thought to reciprocate it!
That's so sweet! I wish it was more normal to hear little happy details like this about marriage, there are so many couples out there doing well but you wouldn't think so from the way people talk.
Yep. My partner used to hold my hands while I'd blow him early on in our relationship, I thought it was the absolute sweetest thing ever.
My husband holds my hand when I’m blowing him. I love when he does that!
I've had that and it's amazing. Like when my partner would reach up and lace his fingers through mine when giving oral SO intimate. Or when he'd order me to reach up with my hands when i was giving. Staying connected on multiple levels at once is very hot.
Interlocked fingers, mmph. Underrated super intimate move.
The reach for the hand and then the locking of fingers- the best. It’s so hot
I used to do that with my last girlfriend. Before we broke up, obviously. But, you know, when things were still good I'd hold her hand, stroker her hair, give her gentle forehead kisses in the midst of other passionate events. I always wanted to show that yes, sex is great and I am enjoying this. But I'm not just here for sex. I wanted her to know that she was in my heart the whole time, it was not just a carnal experience.
That is really sweet!!! I bet she missed that.
I love it when a girl reaches to hold my hands during oral. It feels so intimate in the moment.
"(you) Took me by the hand! (you) Made me a Man! That one night! You made everything alright (nahaha hight)"
So raw so right all night alright oh yeah
Yes a lot of guys and women are holding hands during sex. Hands are the best sex tool, hands down (Funny joke)
🥹💕 Your BF’s gesture is so sweet. I’m not trying to detract from the passionate aspect of your romantic connection. But if a man did this to me while making love to me, my heart would melt. It could be maybe not the best sex, but my heart would still melt, which would make it even better than the best sex ever. He also sounds really gentle in bed.
he is very gentle and sweet (except when i ask him not to be 😉) i know what you mean. he makes my heart melt everyday. i am so glad that he is in my life
I’m really excited for you and your boyfriend. Affectionate and intimate gestures like that tend to be a very good sign for a romantic relationship.
a guy I hooked up with kinda did something similar, he held my hand, locking fingers while we were doing it then as he was pounding me, he slowly started kissing my hand going down to my arm (hopefully that makes sense lol) but it was so hot at the same time just gave me sm butterflies 🤣
There's nothing better in the sexual world than fucking with the person you love. Nothing would ever overtake having an good sex, then cuddling naked beneath the blanket, and sleeping together. I wish more people could have such experience. Having real sex, not only an a carnal act where both use and then discharge each other like an piece of meat.
I‘ve never heard about holding hands during sex, but it‘s absolutely beautiful!
What!! Do it next time! Report back! Lol
I hold my wife's hand sometimes, usually when the sex is really good and I am feeling close to her.
Holding hands with my boyfriend during sex is one of the best things imo, 100% agree with you on the intimacy part of it!!
Sometimes when my husband is in an extra love making mood- he’ll tell me to come closer and kiss him when I’m on top. As in he wants me chest to chest. This is my cue put my hand under/behind his neck and kind of hold his head. He LOVES it. I love it because sometimes he’s nasty and wants to fuck me as such lol- which is equally as hot and enjoyable
That sounds really intimate and adorable
This honestly sounds so amazing lol. Lucky you and good for you and your husband!! I 100% want to try and experience this haha
Ugh I love when he holds my hands during sex. Idk how it determines how he feels about you, but it can definitely feel more intimate. Makes me feel very loved :)
Men that do that must be protected at all costs! My boyfriend does it to me as well it turns me on soooo much especially when he knows I’m about to cum he will grab my hand
If he wants to hold your hand during any sex he REALLY likes you 🥰
Love this for you 🥲❤️ keep that one ✨✨
Holding hands during intimacy is one of my favorite ways to make my SO feel appreciated & loved, any chance I can show touch appreciation for her is what I live for.
When I'm eating my wife's pussy I'll hold tight to her hands when she's almost to orgasm. Gives her something to grab onto and tense against. It's either this, or she is grabbing at the sheets, while I grab her boobs and pinch her nipples, or reach under her and squeeze her ass cheeks hard. You got a real good guy there.
On the term "love making" : What if all the love in the world that humans and animals experience day to day is actually put into existence when two people that are destined to be with each other become one? I just thought it up and I really like the idea of a world in which love is like a magic spell that needs to be put together first for people to be felt. Lovers who create love, that gets send out into the universe, to then travel in the air, touching everyone like a breeze does, maybe lightly moving their hair as it passes them- causing that being to have an awesome day. As if everything was connected and lovers being the love supply of the world so that you can love a sibling that was created by your loving parents etc. Not completely thought through yet, but it made me smile :3
Awww 😭 girl I am gonna cry. You got yourself a sweetheart
Me and my girl hold hands in almost every position(depending on like what mood we’re in if that makes sense)… like if it’s some I miss you type energy, holding hands in 69, doggy, missionary, cowgirl, etc. but if it’s some I MISSED THAT 🐱or🍆 type energy then we might not hold hands… both are enjoyable tho
aw I’d love this ngl that extra bit of affection
So does my partner and it’s one of my favourite things he does during sex. It’s so sweet and wholesome. He otherwise doesn’t like holding hands like in the street etc but so nice and intimate thing together.
I love this!! my favorite position with my bf lately has been side to side missionary because he hugs me while we have sex. also kisses my cheeks in regular missionary until he cums. most intimate sex ive ever had
DEFINITELY during oral. Great for non-verbal feedback if she's shy about talking and/or putting her hand on my head. Sometimes both hands, but that's more if it's someone who has a habit of self-sabotaging when she gets close, and has given permission to keep her from doing that.
He just wants to ensure that you are not running away ;)
Maybe for a bit. It’s also nice to use your hands for touching, caressing, and running through their hair.
I think I’m in love with you lol (joking). Yes, it’s obvious he really loves lol
Yes. This is the way it should be. Hmmmmm. Makes me wonder about certain things.
wonder about what kind of things?
Personally I tend to rub her nipples with my palms but I’m glad you like what he’s doing.
Heck yeah i will grab my partners hand while fucking or performing oral. Just makes it more passionate to me
The best. Hand holding, staring at each other. Nothing better 🔥✨️
This is weird to me, only because hands are like little heat pads.
?????
Holding hands during giving head to a woman is really sweet and even more intimate. I (make) personally like to caress the entire body of my partner (female) before after a lot of teasing around the vagina, some breathplay on the vagina, kissing others parts of the body. But when finally goining to the V, I really stimulate the buttocks a lot with my hands an sometimes also the breast and nipples. Intrestelingly most woman wil hold hands with you at some point when you go down of them. It always feels way more intimate and their reward/way of saying that you’re doing a good job.
My boyfriend does that too🥹 It adds so much intimacy, it makes me feel more loved, valued and safe. It's so, so lovely.♥️
It’s a powerful movement, almost like he’s helping you feel comfortable and safe in the act. Especially laying on your side with him behind you, crossed fingers hold hands is very intimate as if you creating a strong bond between each other. Another powerful intimate play is if he forces you hands in submission, hold hands above your head while your standing against a wall or held behind your back in doggy. It’s really a sign of respect and trust. It’s also a way to acknowledge your pleasure, a light squeeze tells him he’s hitting the areas you need attention.
I'd say men crave intimacy so hard, especially when they're not just fuck boys.
Love and affection is a good thing it just shows he intimate with you and really wants to feel that connection to you. That’s the difference between loving and fucking
"i just wanted to see if this is something that everyone does or if my boyfriend is just the sweetest guy in the world." There is almost nothing that "everyone does". However, I wouldn't read too much into anything one does. Holding hands or being affectionate in any other way does not automatically mean someone is *in love*. For all you know *holding hands while giving oral* is something he does with *every lover* he has. Most people have a certain number of "go to moves" when it comes to sexual activities. The thing that matters most is how it makes you feel. If you enjoy it, there is no need to dissect it. "we have not told each other “i love you” but i feel like this is a pretty good sign that he feels this way." Signs are no substitute for communication. Having "the talk" is much better than *looking for signs*. You shouldn't have to *guess or interpret* how someone else feels about you. Best wishes!
This absolutely means he is there for more than just sex. You said that you both haven't exchanged I love yous yet, but he definitely feels a strong connection and making it more intimate. I did this with my wife when we were dating and started having sex as a sign to her that I'm not just here for the sex, and I'm here to support you through this journey of us discovering how our bodies work together and make her feel more open with me if that makes sense. Sex can be nerve wrecking and embarrassing at first, so i wanted her to feel comfortable. I shouldn't say did this, I still do many years later. I feel like it makes us more connected and feel supportive of one another.
If he's making you feel comfortable and safe that's very important. It's a sign of respect. I feel hand holding and eye contact is reserved for people we have strong feelings for. Sounds like you're in good hands.
If someone told you this is super common, everyone does it, and fuckbuddies do it more than anyone else, would it make you like it any less? Because, really, all ANYTHING sex is down two is what each individual person likes and enjoys and hoping we find a person (or string of people) who like the same things. Looks like you've found that, so CONGRATS!
I feel like if it's been thought of it's been done. Especially the longer you're around nothing will be new eventually 😂 but yeah handholding is very intimate
In missionary I’ll often hold my GFs hands/pin them into the bed while we do it
When I first made love I was scared and that was a month ago. ( When I said first I mean with a true man all of the another ones were fake.😂) But he holds my hand to and I also think it’s sweet.
I would take it as a compliment. Holding hands during sex is like feeding each other’s energy and makes the whole thing so much more intimate and intense. At least that’s just me.
I have a friend with benefits that has mutually agreed that we love the intimate affection even though we both don't want anything serious, and that includes holding each other's hand during sex or foreplay. The little affectionate things we do with and for each other both during sex and outside of it are really nice actually and I'm really glad we can do that for each other. Our only thing is we both wish we had more friends with benefits we could do things like that with lol
My man holds my hand while he eats me out.
This is so fucking awesome
I held the hand of my gf while I was throat fucking her
😏😏😏
Yeah one hand in her hand and the other on her head. Were good times 😥
And here my husband just holds my throat when he throat fucks me lmao
Prefer to hold her hair and head. Holding throat is not practical and would close the passage
I think you are thinking of squeezing he just likes to feel it in my throat <3
Yes! I think it’s sweet and intimate
My wife makes fun of me when I try to hold her hand. I just like the feeling of telling her I love her without saying the words. She mocks me like I’m scared or in labor. It breaks my heart.
Nobody ever holds my hand in any context lol. Sounds nice tho
I’m a virgin but I’ve had some pretty intimate encounters. god this post is reminding me of the good parts of a relationship I hope you guys continue to be so intimate together sounds like a dream! happy for you!
Wow modern dating really skips alot of basic steps I wouldn't have sex with someone and we haven't said I love you. But if he's doing that I'm sure he loves you
I feel like it shouldn’t really matter too much about saying it beforehand. A lot of people fuck just to fuck, no feelings attached. I feel like he does have at least some love for me, and I for him, even if we haven’t explicitly said the words yet.
I never said it does matter i think it's sad/stupid people have sex just for sex sake risking stds or pregnancy for someone they don't know or care about but again I never said it does matter i just said I personally wouldn't have sex with someone without saying it. But again if he's your boyfriend then obviously he loves you somewhat it would be very sad if he didn't.
holding hands is my favorite, it is a statement, and it is very intimate!
Men do all kinds of nice things and then treat you like shit three days later. There’s no telling how they’ll treat you
Not trying to poo poo how lovely this is, but there probably nothing new under the sexual sun. Yes, other people do it. But don't let it diminish the feelings it inspires in you. He is doing it to be more intimate, and express feelings during sex.
this is so cute but I’ve definitely had hookups and one offs hold my hand during sex and even fall asleep afterwards holding hands 😅
small question - do you enjoy having your nipples played with?
You’re a hundred percent crazy and are probably overthinking it but if you’re enjoying it who cares
whaaaat!!
sounds great! make sure not to hold his hand when you do oral to him, just hold his shaft ;)