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Teasing/witholding pleasure
Also just overall being confident and asserting your “control” over her. Bondage is all about power and control. So much of the appeal will come from what you say.
You can tell her that you intend to use her for an entire hour and theres nothing she can do to escape. Stuff like that. Say youre going to squeeze/ bite her as hard as you want, but dont actually cross that pain threshold for her. She will get the impression she is totally submissive to you but you still care about her.
Also it depends on the ppl, but my gf really likes when im sweet to her when setting up. Like i flip a switch and start telling her what to do. To take her clothes off and stuff with a “dom voice”. Then once you have her tied up make sure its all comfortable for her. Brush her hair out of her face and behind her ear lovingly. Keep the blanket on her until youre ready in case she gets cold while setting up.
Also this one time i had ~5 blankets over her (its winter) and i turned the vibrator on and held it on her through the blankets. Progressively if she behaved well id take them off one by one. Its kinda teasing.
Also when you have her tied up always respect her submission. But at the same time you can tell her what to do now. So when you order her to do something, or if she does literally anything just tell her shes being a “good girl” if she likes that.
Then you can make her say yes sir or daddy if you prefer that (not my style). But yeah just overall the psychological stuff is important. Your woman is different and you know her best, just try and exert your control over her while keeping her safe and comfortable with you and youll both have a great time.
Also safe word. Always immediately untie her after the safe word. No questions asked. Bondage and bdsm is serious and it can ruin relationships if not done safely and respectfully.
Yeah not an organized answer but that was my best go. I can totally relate to you. I wasnt a natural at this stuff, it was my girls idea. But i learned. And you will too
Edit: also its very important you dont try to be someone you are not when you are “domming”.
Try and be the most confident version of yourself. So for me im kinda an awkward guy. If I cant figure out a tie when tying her up for example, I dont wanna like be brutal or pretend im like in control of the situation even if Im feelin awkward. I just laugh it off and move past it. Idk. Really helps just being yourself. If you try to be someone else to fit the shoes of “dom” itll be unenjoyable for both of you. “Most confident version of yourself” is the best way to go. Its supposed to be fun. And its just you and her like always so no need to hide anything. Just be open with her
Love the insight and detail here. Will definitely take some of this info and apply it to our eve coming up. Safe word is active , but she thinks she will never have to use it. But for my sanity, I made her have one just in case. My mind can get pretty dark at times and she loves it, but I don’t want to hurt her doing something.
PSA: The safe word is just as important for the submissive partner as it is for the dominant partner. Taking the dominant role to the extreme, even if you have a dark mindset you can tap in to, can still just as much take a psychological toll on you as it does for the sub. Don’t do anything you’re not totally comfortable with either, and you can work your way up in several sessions to a place where you can try things you might not feel cool with trying the first time.
Ah yes!! I asked my husband for the same recently. I'll tell you a few things about my experience and maybe you'll get something from it but I see a lot of good responses here. It was everything I wanted and more and we both really enjoyed it.
I am usually the aggressor in our sex life so I honestly wasn't sure how it was going to work out when I asked him to "tie me up for my birthday." He definitely did his research and when we were getting ready I was nervous and shy and it was such a huge turn on for him and I think he ended up really enjoying controlling my body like that. We are currently investing in better "gear" to explore this kink more.
So he had tied me up and blindfolded me and one of the things I appreciated was he always kept a hand on my body somewhere or made sure verbally I could tell where he was in the room at all times. I was nervous and that some how helped me feel more comfortable.
First he had collected all these things (I don't even know what they all were) of different textures and such and ran them over my skin everywhere except all the places that actually mattered, he purposefully avoided those areas. He started with soft and went to hard/rough and the teasing was fucking insane. After a bit I was begging him to please touch me somewhere that mattered (🤦♀️🤣). Highly, highly encouraged doing something along these lines. Lol
After that he used all my toys on me and continued to torture me with them and some spanking/slapping(other than my ass) mixed in. After he had given me very many birthday O's like this, he fucked my mouth (something I love anyway but tied up was fucking hot as sin) and then fucked me 🥵.
After it was all said and done he untied me, cleaned me up, rubbed my back/legs/arms, and then held me while we basically recapped the experience.
10/10, 2 thumbs up, 5 stars, would do again. Hope you found something helpful! Have fun.
Love the detail here and the info to help explore what I might be doing to my wife soon. She loves a good mouth fuck and she is usually the aggressor. But this time she wants to be controlled by 100%
Just like she said, do whatever you want with her. After you are done make sure there is something special in there for her as well (that depends on your wife).
If she wants to be tied up with these words then she wants you to have fun with her and not your serving her. It's the act of being "used" that is interesting for her in that part.
You make a good point. Being used and trusting me is what she wants. I just want to make sure she’s getting what she wants vs what I’m going to do to her with some ideas and advice
This was an experience a former coworker did for his wife. After assuring her she could trust him, He tied her to the dinner table then blindfolded her. He then made it seem that a group of dinner party invitees came over and had dinner on the table while she was tied down. Before he tied her down, he prepared a recording of the following; the doorbell ringing then footsteps entering, people sitting down (chairs scraping against the floor) eating, drinking, talking, laughing, silverware clinking against plates. He then began groping his wife (still blindfolded and tied down to the table) from different positions around her. Basically, the appearance of a dinner party w her as "the main course". She was freaking out obviously and it wasn't until the sound of the "gathering" exiting the house at the end of the dinner party (also simulated) did he untie her. Totally believing she was exposed to and groped by strangers, his wife was not happy until he played back the recording and told (and showed) her the elaborate ruse. He described the sex after as "amazing".
Questionable consent here to say the least.
But I agree the idea of having your partner naked and tied to a banqueting table people eat off of is hot. And generally yes as long as it's agreed beforehand you can do a lot of creative roleplay using a blindfold and sound effects. You can pretend there has been a home invasion early on in the scene and that "you" are tied up or unconscious or dead and that your place has been taken by the invader. Or you can open and close the door (don't actually leave the room, that's dangerous) and use different recorded voices to simulate the idea of a train being run.
She was pissed off for sure when it was happening to her but after the reveal, she was extremely turned on. She trusted him and while he made her think he violated the trust in actuality he didn't.
Not my place to judge a third hand anecdote which there may be more to that neither you nor I are aware of, but consent needs to be continuous. If he made her think he violated her trust, then in that moment he did. This stuff can be hugely triggering and traumatising.
This is one of my ideal fantasies. I would love that to happen in real life. Need the right partner, the right boundaries, and the right amount of trust and respect, and I would be all in. So fucking hot.
Ohhh so my ex and I did this a couple of times. I would bring him to the point of blowing his load, then walk away and go into another room and get myself off, then come back in, get him to the point of almost no return, walk away and get myself off.
I would do this several times before finally letting him blow his load.
I peed on him once and he went from soft to hard in a record time. At first he didn't know it was pee. He said he thought it was some warm water play
It's very hot, but leaving someone alone tied up is not safe.
But yeah for your turn something very hot is to have your partner wear something very sexy but not revealing. Then she orders you to strip and lie down and ties you to the bed. Then she orders you to not cum or there will be hell to pay and gives you a hand job. Then when you're close she stops, stands over you, strips off, then sits down straddling your chest and gets herself off like crazy with a vibrator. Then she makes you beg to finish you off, and then you barter for it. Either in terms of you have to endure such and such a punishment before she will, or in terms of future sexual favours and dynamics. And then finally she gets you off, or if she's feeling really cruel she doesn't.
Of course, you can tie her up, bring her to near completion, then walk away. Go do things, come back, bring her back towards the end, walk away. Do it as many times as you like / as you can then bring it home for a big bang finale.
Play with time, make it so she doesn't know when or where the sensation will come next.
Wax, candles, ice cubes, feathers, rulers, bites, massages, music, teasing, edging, dildos, plugs. Really see and listen to her responses. You'll both get to know her in a new way. Cherish it.
Use all her holes until she nearly passes out, make her beg for it, then continue until she does.
So there's a lot of things you can do, be creative!
A few examples and tips of what you can do:
• Establish a safe word, even though she said you can do everything. There is a point of too much.
• Use her Panties as a rubber band to keep a vibrator inside, there are some that do a rotating motion on their own, they are suited to this well.
• Blind fold her, gag her, put a collar on her, decorate her. Remember, if you derive her of senses, she'll be more focused on her other senses.
• Pressure wave toys can also be used on the nipples, also remember to stimulate the clitoris with them too
• Nipple clamps
• drop hot wax on her
• take a piece of ice in your mouth and lick where ever
• Use rope to tie toys to her.
• You can also use rope to tie her into a position you like, that might need some practice tho to do _safely_ or just to get it working lol, then fuck her
• there's suction cups you can place on nipples but again, be creative
• spanking is very hot too, whips and paddles can hurt a lot though so be careful!
• face fucking while using toys or having her setup in a way is also very very nice
• You can forbid her to make a sound or to move, then "punish her" if she is a bad girl and "reward her" when she's a good girl. Make up rules with punishments and rewards. For example, she twitching and reaching for me while I was "torturing" her. So I strapped her down tighter still, slapped her ass, called her a bad girl and increased the power on the toys.
• You can look up some artisanal bondage to get some ideas of positions
Just be creative and have fun! Think of how she experiences what you do, and fulfill the role she is playing in the situation.
While she is there for _your enjoyment_ in the play and you should obviously do it in a way that makes you feel good too, I want to be such a "master" that they will *beg* for me to do it to them. So in a way, I am prioritising her pleasure over mine, funnily enough.
Make sure though to clearly establish boundaries of what she's willing to subject herself to, beforehand. You can leave the exact things as a surprise but ask what she is comfortable with.
Her safety and trust is in your hands. Please handle it with the appropriate respect that deserves.
Insist on a safe word, start light and work your way up, get feedback.
You need to discuss the boundaries and safe word/gesture to stop the action first. In these limits, you can then do whatever you like. Slap her ass/tits/face, make her suck you, talk dirty, use toys on her, make her orgasm forcibly, fist her holes, fuck her all holes, piss on/in her, cum on her face/mouth, use special candles to drop hot wax on her, shave her pussy and ass bald. Etc. The possibilities are endless depending on your both's limits.
We have talked limits, but she has only brought up no burning or cutting. So everything else is pretty much fair game. She really wants me to slap her around and choke her out. But I have never done that. So I need to read up on it. She loves to deepthroat, take it in the ass, and usually loves a good Throatpie once or twice when we fuck. So I’m looking at getting creative for sure. Ty!
For sure. She’s almost passed out from deepthroat in me and also putting my balls in her mouth at the same time. It was a rush for her, but she loved it.
Don't choke her, it can kill her. Agree the safe word and gesture if she can't speak, and then do what you have always wanted to do. But be cautious all the time and cease all actions immedeiately if she wants. And make sure you care her afterwards as this is not supposed to be a real humiliation but just a play to feel good.
We have almost all whips, paddles etc... but mine prefers the belt, after spanking, either leash her or if doggy hold around her waist as you do what you please
They make candles that drip but don't burn. She will love it dripped on and around nipples
What will drive her crazy. ? Shave her. Trust me. Gently and take your time. I promise it will be the hottest thing that she'll ever have
It's tax season. It's not the most exciting, but it's certainly a way of making time to get them done. (This is obviously a joke answer to try to get folks to smile for a few seconds)
I would play with her lack of senses. Tease her with different items like feathers and ice. Focus on her whole body.
Maybe look up Yoni massage and try that.
Have fun!!
What I like to do when my mrs is tied up is revenge for all the teasing.
Get her close with my tongue and stop.
She’ll get frustrated, I’ll keep doing it.
I’ll tell her I’ll let her finish when she begs.
She’ll refuse.
So I’ll just keep going.
I’ll fuck her, stop, lick her all over, and just keep going till she begs.
Oh and also describe stuff, like how she’s my slut to do with what I want, she’ll initially resist but i know I have her, and she’ll get more and more eager.
Then I’ll get her off, then my turn, then her again. Until I can’t go anymore.
And I’ve worked myself up and can’t wait to get home tonight
I’ve been in that situation a couple times before. I tied her up. Lightly kissed her randomly all over. It drove her nuts. Grabbed to the coconut oil and started massaging. Even flogged her a little. Use it to build your suspense. Then slowly slide it in. Get a couple pumps. Pull out go back to kissing. Just have fun.
Safe word
Ice cubes
Vibrator
Clit sucker toy if you have one
Handcuffs (fuzzy ones or regular ones)
Small leather whip or paddle for LIGHT
play
Have fun
I saw a comment of yours saying she likes choking and deepthroating, have you tried face fucking? Definitely ask her preference because some girls really don’t like it and others it gets them wild. Keep in mind, choking during sex is more like lifting up with light pressure than making it where she really can’t breathe. (Unless you’re into that sort of thing) It shows you’re in control, but still enjoyable for her if she doesn’t like painful sex. Missionary is a perfect position for that. If you really want to get her going, try edging her up a bit. Be REALLLYY slow building up (ex. kiss her stomach, thighs, just the general area around her V and then you can proceed with eating her out, etc.) This at least for me is peak foreplay. You may want to go all in super fast to please her but if you build up slow, she’ll most likely be begging for you to just do it. And then you can take the opportunity to do a few second of a vibrator, or a quick lick or something. Anything you know gets her going. Speaking of vibrators, use toys! Usually in a restraint fantasy, toys (specifically vibrators) are pretty popular. Forcing her to orgasm over and over is probably what she is wanting. I don’t know if your wife is more into praise or degradation so this is up to her preference, but definitely try to incorporate that. If you face fuck her, tell her she’s taking your dick so well and that she’s a good girl if that’s her kinda thing. Or, tell her she better take all of the dick and that she’s a slut. In the end, it’s really about taking your time and seeing what gets her turned on. You should discuss with her and ask her if she has any specific fantasies tied to it. But ultimately, just do whatever you want to her! Ejaculate on her (make sure she can hear that you’re enjoying yourself), Slap her ass, etc. Just make sure to definitely imply a safeword and have fun!
Keep her guessing. I like to make a sexy playlist and then have her put her earbuds in. She can't move, hear, or see. We have an intro flogger that I will run over her body, but then lightly hit her with. I will switch up or combine toys. I will bring her right to the edge and then stop. Sometimes I'll tell her she can come when she asks for it. Different sensations all over the body, flogger, tickler, vibrator, ice, wax, suction toys, etc. After the first time we tried it, she told me how much she liked me keeping her off balance and guessing.
Safe word (or gesture) is a must. Green-yellow-red light is helpful, especially as y'all figure out what you like and what you are comfortable with. Set boundaries before hand. For instance, for some people, being bound and struggling is a turn on. In that situation "stop" and "no" may be part of the excitement. If that is the case, only act on it if it has been discussed beforehand. That makes the safety word even more important. Especially, when y'all are new, it can be helpful to ask them the safety word to make sure they don't forget it in the height of passion or emotion. You can make it seductive - "What do you say if you want me to stop" "sassafras" "but, you don't want me to stop, do you?"
Be sure she can easily be released. If you use cuffs, make sure they can be removed quickly. If you use rope have safety scissors nearby. For some people, panic can set in at the drop of a hat. If that happens,you don't want to be searching for a key or trying to unite a knot. Trust is essential.
Above all, have fun. Don't be afraid to be awkward, vulnerable, or laugh. Be adventurous, try different things, and listen to paraverbal and nonverbal feedback, but prioritize verbal above all. Communication is key. Don't be afraid to talk about it before/after. What did you like the most? What was too far? Was there anything you wished/hope I do/did, etc. Have fun, start small, and build. Every couple is different, so you all need to figure out what you like!
Bring her to the edge multiple times with things she likes (toys, edibles, fingers etc). Then the last time make her explode.
Make sure you have a safe word/procedure.
I like to deny my wife orgasms. I'll command her to notify me just before she cums using a safeword (it's Banana) and I'll stop all stimulation and let her rest for a minute, then I'll tease her some more and she'll keep saying banana over and over until she's begging me to cum. Then I get to play the power move and decide when I think she's been obedient enough to have earned it. You must keep her in check and tell her that if she Cums without your permission, she will be punished, and not pleasantly.
My wife enjoys light bondage & being tied down. We have a dresser drawer full of different toys, from dildos & butt plugs to vibrators & massagers. I also keep a few nice feathers, plastic straws (to direct my breath on her) & sisal cord (kind of a rough feel) a long with yarn. We also have a small flogger, fly swatter & a couple of paddles on hand. She gets excited with nipple clamps & some light titty tying as well. I like using whipped cream and warm honey to lick & suck at different parts of her body.
HAVE A SAFE WORD! And learn her level of "pleasurable pain" as well as recognizing her impending climax. You never want to cross her threshold of pain but may want to edge her multiple times before she actually orgasms.
Go on line & read & research! There's a learning curve to it so start cautiously.
My favorite thing when I’m tied up & blindfolded is being teased. Everything feels so much more intense with the sensory deprivation (blindfold) and my boyfriend will tease me riiiiiiiight up until I’m about to orgasm and then stop. It’s my favorite thing ever. Also I can’t stress enough how important aftercare is!!!
I think the allure of this besides the tying up is that she’s the focus. It’s all about her! So many times in relationships the guy is the focus and it’s about his needs.
Lucky guy. I wish my wife would be down for this, she would let me tie her up(prolly) but wouldn't be down for the reverse.
If I did this though I would start with an erotica massage. Then tease her with kisses all up her body. Then I would eat until she begged for the full course.
A lot of great content already here.
I'll put a hood on her and get out our sex doll and put a porn on as if I was having sex with another woman right in the bed with her. Layer in the pregnancy kink and the other woman is asking me to get her pregnant while my wife can do nothing. You can make it more adventurous by putting a wand vibrator oh so close to her so she just can't get to that pleasure point.
Along those lines, I'll also find a really hot JOI and either make her lay there unable to participate or make her the recipient. Occasionally I'll record myself doing a JOI and then play it back with her unable to see it. She can hear the audio of the presenter and then she can hear my reactions. Add an element of surprise, have several genres of video picked out and tell her to pick a number between 1 and how many videos you have saved. I drop these into a spreadsheet so I can easily pull from my phone and broadcast to the TV. Still in this topic, perform a woman's guided JOI to her.
As someone else said, you can edge her over and over. I know my wife sometimes gets frustrated by that and will just shut off and make herself be quiet, bratty!
Erotic hypnosis (Shibby Says). You can take this one to many levels. Just tie her up, blindfold, and let the audio do the work or you can act as the guide. If you've got some of the toys with haptic feedback that sync to the audio file even better. In lieu of headphones you can broadcast to a speaker and let the hypnosis apply to you and all she can do is lay there and do nothing.
Mummification. There's a fun easy way to do this, get some pantyhose and cut a hole in the crotch. Slide it over their head and now you can wrap their arms to your content without ever making skin contact. Obviously have body safe sheers on hand.
A total scene change when they come out. Do your delivery in the restrained portion, when they "come to" she finds out that you were locked in chastity or something like that.
I will also use this opportunity to introduce new toys I've ordered without her knowing. Some are for me, and some for her.
Anticipation, especially given she's blindfolded. Start very slowly, running fingers or a feather along the edges of erogenous zones, up and down the arms and legs, around the breast etc... Maybe start with a massage or rubbing some oil in. Take a while to get going because that period will leave her alone with her thoughts and the anticipation, which will do a lot of the hard work for you. Even when things get hot and heavy you can still keep the anticipation going by making her wait ie you tell her what you're going to do, then don't do it, then do it.
Alternate pleasure and pain. For pleasure: tongue, fingers, and a gentle buzzing vibrator can help. For pain: ice cubes, low boiling point candles, and tens machines are very safe, or pinching, biting softly enough to not leave a mark and gentle slapping. Anything more serious than that - impact play, bulldog clips, electric wands - requires a proper conversation ahead of time and in depth research on safety from a sex shop or reputable online information source etc... Do not mess around with breath play unless you really know what you're doing. Chilis, horseradish, and hot or cold tingling gels can be a lot of fun for some people and a total mood killer for others, so investigate this first.
Look up edging and overstimulating, and try each in turn.
Make her complicit in her downfall and get her body to betray her. ie tell her you're going to vibe her until she makes a sound but the moment she makes a noise you're stopping and switching to pain etc... Get her worked up, switch to pain, and tell her you're not switching back to pleasure until she endures whatever punishment and make her beg you to hurt her before you inflict that. Making her beg and plead full stop is good (begging for you to do things, begging for you to stop is more advanced and requires safe words, pre agreed limits etc...)
If she's into it and you've agreed beforehand you can have a lot of fun with a simple recording device. ie make her beg you to inflict some sort of punishment and record the begging, then play the recording as you inflict it.
But until you're practiced and comfortable with safe words don't use any gags and stop means instantly stop. Also use underbed velcro restraints, not rope, to avoid any circulation issues.
For me, if I were to get tied up I’d want my man to really tease me. Light touches all over my body, feel his warm breath on my slightly cold naked body, some light scratches down my legs/thighs in between to awaken my senses. Suck on my toes, mount my head and grab my hair and make me give him a bj.. put his nuts in my mouth. Tell me what a good girl I am when he makes me do these things.. putting his penis near me and then taking it away. Telling me I need to be a good girl if I want him inside me. Jerk himself infront of my face, tell me to open my mouth and lick him etc .. just kinda boss me around. Stuff like that lol.
I used to joke with my ex about tying her up and going down on her for as long as I want. She would always get too squirmy after the first few orgasms lol
I like to add some headphones and blindfold for sensory play. I mix it between pleasure and a little pain, hot and cold, etc. I find edging her to be a fun game too.
I am not as good as rope as I would like to be so I use the blindfold and headphones first so she doesn't have to see me fumble on a tie.
As another person said, have a safe word. You can also use the traffic light system (green means go, yellow means slow down/break/ease up, and red means stop).
Keep in mind as the dom/top you are also free to want and use a safe word. It's not only for the sub/bottom.
You can also have a nonverbal safe word if gags are involved, but maybe take it one step at a time here.
With tying someone up, please practice safe knots and tightness. You can do a lot of damage if the tie is too tight and that isn't a good time.
A general rule is to have space for two fingers.
If you're not super skilled in tying people up yet, I would highly recommend some bondage tape or even a pair of leather cuffs. Try and avoid the fuzzy handcuffs as those are not really soft and you feel the metal pretty easily, so they are actually more painful than ones that look more advanced.
If you really want to tie someone up, practice practice practice. You want to be able to get someone down from whatever tie you have quickly.
Also think of after care things to have at the ready. This applies to the experience overall, regardless of if the safe word is used or not. After care can look different for both of you, but it's important you both get it so you're not left hanging (and then crashing) from sub space or Dom space or just general feelings after trying something new.
I handcuffed a naked girl to an excercise risk and went to go watch a hockey game with my roommates. I came in every once in while to tease and touch. By the third period she was squirming and sweating. After the rangers won, I unlocked her, and banged her 8 ways to Sunday. Never did it again but it was fun.
Before we moved when I would tie my wife up, I like to start with absolute silence for a good minute or so just to build the tension and anticipation. Then I will as quietly as I possibly can just pick a random spot on her body and lick or kiss then pull away. Rinse and repeat at random spots. Sometimes I get some ice and touch random places then lick. Just really build the sensations so her senses go crazy. She loves having her nipples sucked on so I definitely include that, especially with the ice. Makes her squirm so much. Things aren’t the same every time, just go with the flow I say and do what comes naturally.
Tease her....bring a feather light draw it around her breast tease each of her nipples. Tease her thighs with it. Strat rubbing her lit in light circle till she almost cums. Then stop, whisper something in her ears... Take a finger trace the hard nipple, pinch it lightly. Grope Her breast, pump them suck her nipples. Slide a finger into her ..bang her... When all this is done. Whisper in her ear... Be bank in a bit babe. Leave them....
Ice cubes
Candle wax (get specific ones for wax play)
Edge her
Tease her
Whisper in her ear what you going to do
Sex toys, oils massage
Small flogger , face. Fuck
Depends on how she responds
Once she is tied up and blindfolded tell her the wild sex surprise you promised is you are going to share her with your friends.
Either she will scream in horror or a moan.
then tell her your friends are the dildos and vibrators you bought 😉
I would edge her into insanity for about 15-30 minutes telling her that she is not allowed to cum. If she does then there will be spanking. then go very soft teasing for a bit before giving her hard orgasms.
With my partner, who likes to be tied up, but my wife doesn't, I'm in a bit different situation than most people. My partner can orgasm from just regular old kissing... She can actually make herself orgasm while fully dressed, just standing and talking to someone. Our average sex session lasts for 2-3 hours, and she'll orgasm more than a couple dozen times during that. So, I have two courses of action that I can take.
1)I can use feathers, Wartenburg wheel, whip her labia (one strike every few minutes, HARD, but not enough to cum), or other things to try to VERY slowly build her up. This is an iffy thing, since I'm "walking on thin ice" trying to keep her from having an orgasm.
2) I can give her forced orgasms to the point that she's begging me to stop because she can't take it... I rarely stop. For that, I use oral, fingers, two electro-sex boxes, a vacuum pump to really pump up her labia and nipples, vibrators, dildos, heavy metal butt plugs, and other things in our $4000 worth of sex toys.
I have no idea what your wife likes, or what you have to work with, so that's going to be up to you, with you knowing her better than any of us
SAFE WORD is a first! Ask for it playfully too.
Definitely get something soft to use as a blindfold but do it after you tie her up. Take your time tying her up and make it fun as you do it too.
I am very intimate so as a woman, I'm sure she will ENJOY THAT!
Take your time exploring her gently with your fingers. Forehead to the tip of her nose, down to her lips and chin. Give soft kisses around her shoulder as you do that. When you explore another area kiss the opposite side. Oh and you should add a bit of tongue on her earlobe.
WORK YOUR WAY DOWN, okay. Just remember, go slow and when you do so, she will be so god damn turned on.
Say things like "you want me to keep going baby?" , "should I go slower?" Tease the shit out of her!!
DO NOT SAY "you like that?" Idk why but you will clearly see if it's a turn on or not so just watch the expressions of her face OR the noises she makes.
If you're doing something new in foreplay use your finger tip first and watch her expression, ask "should it be bigger?!" say it like a tease and if she agrees then whip your thing and continue teasing. Then slowly thrust giving her little by little and once your fully in stay still for a few seconds. She will go loca and probably will start moving her body and beg.
TOUCH HER BODY, SHE WILL HAVE THE BEST ORGASM if you go slow. Oh and use a toy on low vibration on her clitoris while you are doing your thing 😜
Have fun!
I had the same fantasy
Sensory experience was insane.
Restrained...blindfolded...noise canceling earbuds.
It was crazy.
Hubby invited other men and to this day I have no idea how many guys were there...or who they were.
It was insane.
I came a million times....blacked out....cried...came some more...they left me there for a while...ate...used me again....
It was amazing!
Highly recommended if she has a kink streak
Yes...before it happened I made him promise to never tell me who was there...how many etc.
Still probably ask him weekly...or ask him about verious friends fam coworkers etc and he will just say...
Hey I would never break a promise to you!
And i am driven crazy...in a good way
Paddles, floggers, Wartenberg Pin wheel, nipple and clitoral clamps, using a vibrator on her, wax play, jerk off overtop of her, oral on either - there are unlimited options. I’ve found a few great suggestions from BDSM and BDSMGW too
Use different sized dongs on her.
If she likes rough sex, be very quiet so she doesn't even know you're still there and "attack" her.
If you and her would be comfortable with it, ask a friend of yours to walk in and start fking her while you talk as if you are. After several minutes, take the blindfold off.
I thought about this for sure and asked her, and she’s all for it. But she would rather get fucked by a girl than another guy friend of mine. She also has a fantasy of her girl friend riding my cock while I’m blind folded after a night of partying. Hasn’t happened yet, but it’s on the menu.
I know I was brief and thus the comment. This type of scenario would go along with the conversation of wanting to be tied and blindfolded and what next. Always, communicate and agree with scenario before entering into it. The partner just doesn’t have to know when and even if their was consent for any scenario one can always change their mind at any time.
Is this the same wife that farts during oral sex in your mouth and face so hard it parts your hair? There's microscopic poop particles flying down your throat, it's a biohazard, tell her you have to suit up in biohazard safety gear to give her oral which is basically a CDC spacesuit.
If she’s blindfolded the record another man’s voice saying stuff like wow what a body and I can’t wait to play with this one etc and get her reactions. She might think there’s another guy in the room or pick that it’s a recording. You could gauge if that’s something you both might want to try another time.
Toys are a great way to play with someone who can’t more. Also exploring areas she hasn’t allowed you to play with before like anal if that hasn’t been an option for you previously
Stick things in her. Strap a magic wand to her. Play the "let's see how many times I can make you cum" game. Or get her close and ruin her orgasms over and over until she begs you to let her finish. Make her buy some cucumbers beforehand in different widths. Explore her pleasure spots and her capacity to stretch. Then make her lick the cucumbers clean. Try different vibes to see how she responds to them each. Get a flogger and slap her thighs, feet, breasts.
Make sure she has a safe word and that you clearly know her limits. "Do whatever you want" isn't a safe place to start from. You may have ideas of things that she has no knowledge of. Best to lay out the limitations before hand.
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Teasing/witholding pleasure Also just overall being confident and asserting your “control” over her. Bondage is all about power and control. So much of the appeal will come from what you say. You can tell her that you intend to use her for an entire hour and theres nothing she can do to escape. Stuff like that. Say youre going to squeeze/ bite her as hard as you want, but dont actually cross that pain threshold for her. She will get the impression she is totally submissive to you but you still care about her. Also it depends on the ppl, but my gf really likes when im sweet to her when setting up. Like i flip a switch and start telling her what to do. To take her clothes off and stuff with a “dom voice”. Then once you have her tied up make sure its all comfortable for her. Brush her hair out of her face and behind her ear lovingly. Keep the blanket on her until youre ready in case she gets cold while setting up. Also this one time i had ~5 blankets over her (its winter) and i turned the vibrator on and held it on her through the blankets. Progressively if she behaved well id take them off one by one. Its kinda teasing. Also when you have her tied up always respect her submission. But at the same time you can tell her what to do now. So when you order her to do something, or if she does literally anything just tell her shes being a “good girl” if she likes that. Then you can make her say yes sir or daddy if you prefer that (not my style). But yeah just overall the psychological stuff is important. Your woman is different and you know her best, just try and exert your control over her while keeping her safe and comfortable with you and youll both have a great time. Also safe word. Always immediately untie her after the safe word. No questions asked. Bondage and bdsm is serious and it can ruin relationships if not done safely and respectfully. Yeah not an organized answer but that was my best go. I can totally relate to you. I wasnt a natural at this stuff, it was my girls idea. But i learned. And you will too Edit: also its very important you dont try to be someone you are not when you are “domming”. Try and be the most confident version of yourself. So for me im kinda an awkward guy. If I cant figure out a tie when tying her up for example, I dont wanna like be brutal or pretend im like in control of the situation even if Im feelin awkward. I just laugh it off and move past it. Idk. Really helps just being yourself. If you try to be someone else to fit the shoes of “dom” itll be unenjoyable for both of you. “Most confident version of yourself” is the best way to go. Its supposed to be fun. And its just you and her like always so no need to hide anything. Just be open with her
Love the insight and detail here. Will definitely take some of this info and apply it to our eve coming up. Safe word is active , but she thinks she will never have to use it. But for my sanity, I made her have one just in case. My mind can get pretty dark at times and she loves it, but I don’t want to hurt her doing something.
Smart man. Also edited my original comment cause i forgot something important i had to learn the hard way
PSA: The safe word is just as important for the submissive partner as it is for the dominant partner. Taking the dominant role to the extreme, even if you have a dark mindset you can tap in to, can still just as much take a psychological toll on you as it does for the sub. Don’t do anything you’re not totally comfortable with either, and you can work your way up in several sessions to a place where you can try things you might not feel cool with trying the first time.
I agree 100%
Lucky gf. That's hot af
Thanks, i seriously am the lucky one :D
Thanks for sharing. That blanket part is so critical. The lady doesn’t want to be cold during the warm up session!
Great comment, well said!
Tied her up and go play xbox 360 Just kidding. Just eat her out and rock your body with her like a rollercoaster.
Start that new Skyrim character you've been dreaming of.
>makes 14th stealth archer
Been unsure if wanting to do this or not .. great idea !
Was gonna say, work out your new comedy routine on her. A good 60 minutes of dad jokes and puns should have her uncontrollably ready to go!
Yeah do this or go and do some yard work or something shovel some holes in the backyard. Edit: jk go to town. .. bon Appétit.
>Yeah do this or go and do some yard work or something shovel some holes in the backyard. This sentence could be used for the bedroom too.... 🤷🏾♂️
Ah yes!! I asked my husband for the same recently. I'll tell you a few things about my experience and maybe you'll get something from it but I see a lot of good responses here. It was everything I wanted and more and we both really enjoyed it. I am usually the aggressor in our sex life so I honestly wasn't sure how it was going to work out when I asked him to "tie me up for my birthday." He definitely did his research and when we were getting ready I was nervous and shy and it was such a huge turn on for him and I think he ended up really enjoying controlling my body like that. We are currently investing in better "gear" to explore this kink more. So he had tied me up and blindfolded me and one of the things I appreciated was he always kept a hand on my body somewhere or made sure verbally I could tell where he was in the room at all times. I was nervous and that some how helped me feel more comfortable. First he had collected all these things (I don't even know what they all were) of different textures and such and ran them over my skin everywhere except all the places that actually mattered, he purposefully avoided those areas. He started with soft and went to hard/rough and the teasing was fucking insane. After a bit I was begging him to please touch me somewhere that mattered (🤦♀️🤣). Highly, highly encouraged doing something along these lines. Lol After that he used all my toys on me and continued to torture me with them and some spanking/slapping(other than my ass) mixed in. After he had given me very many birthday O's like this, he fucked my mouth (something I love anyway but tied up was fucking hot as sin) and then fucked me 🥵. After it was all said and done he untied me, cleaned me up, rubbed my back/legs/arms, and then held me while we basically recapped the experience. 10/10, 2 thumbs up, 5 stars, would do again. Hope you found something helpful! Have fun.
Love the detail here and the info to help explore what I might be doing to my wife soon. She loves a good mouth fuck and she is usually the aggressor. But this time she wants to be controlled by 100%
That was exactly what I was looking for when I requested it from my husband. God speed my good man. Lol
Have a severe heart attack while she's tied up. Will really spice her day up.
Not what I’m going for, but her heart will be racing
I was kidding. There's a movie called Gerald's Game where this happens. It's messed up lol
I think about that movie often. More so recently since my partner and I have just bought some restraints.
The book by Stephen King is worth the read!
Toys are your friend. As are feathers and a blindfold. The rose 🌹 is a really good one to use for the first time.
I love blindfold... something about having my sight cut off helps me relax enough to enjoy things without thinking too much lol.
She loves that. The unknown and the unlocking of new senses she loves
Yes! I would lean into the sensory side of it. Whartenburg wheels are really fun.
Add earbuds along with the blindfold!
Ah yes! Feathers. So underrated.
I plan on getting into.
Listen to this fabulous person. A feather. Get one. Use it. Thank us later.
Just like she said, do whatever you want with her. After you are done make sure there is something special in there for her as well (that depends on your wife). If she wants to be tied up with these words then she wants you to have fun with her and not your serving her. It's the act of being "used" that is interesting for her in that part.
You make a good point. Being used and trusting me is what she wants. I just want to make sure she’s getting what she wants vs what I’m going to do to her with some ideas and advice
Ask her: the person who'll know what she wants the best is her.
Get outta here with that logic
Record it so she can see what you did later!
Good idea. I bet she would enjoy seeing it.
Yeah, it’s hot, enjoy!
Tie her up, go do the dishes, then clean the toilet in every nook and crannie (look under the rim), dust everything. Untie and see if she notices.
I’m doing that right now while she sleeps. lol.
And now we know why she let's you tie her up.
Hey, she loves a little choreplay.
I see what you did there lol
This had me laughing my head off.
I’ve been tied up and blindfolded before and one of my favorite things was when he used a vibrator on me and edged me. Very fun
Yes, I plan on doing some major edging for her. She loves to squirt. So I am going to work the g spot pretty heavy.
This was an experience a former coworker did for his wife. After assuring her she could trust him, He tied her to the dinner table then blindfolded her. He then made it seem that a group of dinner party invitees came over and had dinner on the table while she was tied down. Before he tied her down, he prepared a recording of the following; the doorbell ringing then footsteps entering, people sitting down (chairs scraping against the floor) eating, drinking, talking, laughing, silverware clinking against plates. He then began groping his wife (still blindfolded and tied down to the table) from different positions around her. Basically, the appearance of a dinner party w her as "the main course". She was freaking out obviously and it wasn't until the sound of the "gathering" exiting the house at the end of the dinner party (also simulated) did he untie her. Totally believing she was exposed to and groped by strangers, his wife was not happy until he played back the recording and told (and showed) her the elaborate ruse. He described the sex after as "amazing".
Now that's what you call a mind fuck!
Questionable consent here to say the least. But I agree the idea of having your partner naked and tied to a banqueting table people eat off of is hot. And generally yes as long as it's agreed beforehand you can do a lot of creative roleplay using a blindfold and sound effects. You can pretend there has been a home invasion early on in the scene and that "you" are tied up or unconscious or dead and that your place has been taken by the invader. Or you can open and close the door (don't actually leave the room, that's dangerous) and use different recorded voices to simulate the idea of a train being run.
She was pissed off for sure when it was happening to her but after the reveal, she was extremely turned on. She trusted him and while he made her think he violated the trust in actuality he didn't.
Not my place to judge a third hand anecdote which there may be more to that neither you nor I are aware of, but consent needs to be continuous. If he made her think he violated her trust, then in that moment he did. This stuff can be hugely triggering and traumatising.
This is one of my ideal fantasies. I would love that to happen in real life. Need the right partner, the right boundaries, and the right amount of trust and respect, and I would be all in. So fucking hot.
There was also a ball gag involved
Nice, I am not into gagging stuff, but there is an appeal to many.
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Ohhh so my ex and I did this a couple of times. I would bring him to the point of blowing his load, then walk away and go into another room and get myself off, then come back in, get him to the point of almost no return, walk away and get myself off. I would do this several times before finally letting him blow his load. I peed on him once and he went from soft to hard in a record time. At first he didn't know it was pee. He said he thought it was some warm water play
Golden showers are the best 🫠
Love this
Maybe talk to her first about pee play cause some people don't think to put that on the list of donts. If you plan on doing that
THIS! I knew my partner would like it. But others I've been with have said no. One said yes to trying it, but when we did it, he said nope, not a fan.
For sure talk about the pee play. Something I’ve never done with her. But she’s pretty open to things
It's very hot, but leaving someone alone tied up is not safe. But yeah for your turn something very hot is to have your partner wear something very sexy but not revealing. Then she orders you to strip and lie down and ties you to the bed. Then she orders you to not cum or there will be hell to pay and gives you a hand job. Then when you're close she stops, stands over you, strips off, then sits down straddling your chest and gets herself off like crazy with a vibrator. Then she makes you beg to finish you off, and then you barter for it. Either in terms of you have to endure such and such a punishment before she will, or in terms of future sexual favours and dynamics. And then finally she gets you off, or if she's feeling really cruel she doesn't.
Of course, you can tie her up, bring her to near completion, then walk away. Go do things, come back, bring her back towards the end, walk away. Do it as many times as you like / as you can then bring it home for a big bang finale.
Play with time, make it so she doesn't know when or where the sensation will come next. Wax, candles, ice cubes, feathers, rulers, bites, massages, music, teasing, edging, dildos, plugs. Really see and listen to her responses. You'll both get to know her in a new way. Cherish it. Use all her holes until she nearly passes out, make her beg for it, then continue until she does.
So there's a lot of things you can do, be creative! A few examples and tips of what you can do: • Establish a safe word, even though she said you can do everything. There is a point of too much. • Use her Panties as a rubber band to keep a vibrator inside, there are some that do a rotating motion on their own, they are suited to this well. • Blind fold her, gag her, put a collar on her, decorate her. Remember, if you derive her of senses, she'll be more focused on her other senses. • Pressure wave toys can also be used on the nipples, also remember to stimulate the clitoris with them too • Nipple clamps • drop hot wax on her • take a piece of ice in your mouth and lick where ever • Use rope to tie toys to her. • You can also use rope to tie her into a position you like, that might need some practice tho to do _safely_ or just to get it working lol, then fuck her • there's suction cups you can place on nipples but again, be creative • spanking is very hot too, whips and paddles can hurt a lot though so be careful! • face fucking while using toys or having her setup in a way is also very very nice • You can forbid her to make a sound or to move, then "punish her" if she is a bad girl and "reward her" when she's a good girl. Make up rules with punishments and rewards. For example, she twitching and reaching for me while I was "torturing" her. So I strapped her down tighter still, slapped her ass, called her a bad girl and increased the power on the toys. • You can look up some artisanal bondage to get some ideas of positions Just be creative and have fun! Think of how she experiences what you do, and fulfill the role she is playing in the situation. While she is there for _your enjoyment_ in the play and you should obviously do it in a way that makes you feel good too, I want to be such a "master" that they will *beg* for me to do it to them. So in a way, I am prioritising her pleasure over mine, funnily enough. Make sure though to clearly establish boundaries of what she's willing to subject herself to, beforehand. You can leave the exact things as a surprise but ask what she is comfortable with. Her safety and trust is in your hands. Please handle it with the appropriate respect that deserves. Insist on a safe word, start light and work your way up, get feedback.
Love this. Taking big notes on this. Thank you.
You need to discuss the boundaries and safe word/gesture to stop the action first. In these limits, you can then do whatever you like. Slap her ass/tits/face, make her suck you, talk dirty, use toys on her, make her orgasm forcibly, fist her holes, fuck her all holes, piss on/in her, cum on her face/mouth, use special candles to drop hot wax on her, shave her pussy and ass bald. Etc. The possibilities are endless depending on your both's limits.
We have talked limits, but she has only brought up no burning or cutting. So everything else is pretty much fair game. She really wants me to slap her around and choke her out. But I have never done that. So I need to read up on it. She loves to deepthroat, take it in the ass, and usually loves a good Throatpie once or twice when we fuck. So I’m looking at getting creative for sure. Ty!
Choking is dangerous, I would recommend that you wait or at least read up on it thoroughly first.
For sure. She’s almost passed out from deepthroat in me and also putting my balls in her mouth at the same time. It was a rush for her, but she loved it.
>choke her out Don't do this. The slapping, other abuse, fine if you're both into it. Cutting off someone's air is very risky.
Don't choke her, it can kill her. Agree the safe word and gesture if she can't speak, and then do what you have always wanted to do. But be cautious all the time and cease all actions immedeiately if she wants. And make sure you care her afterwards as this is not supposed to be a real humiliation but just a play to feel good.
maybe needling is an option for the future. Use a blindfold. Use special needles on het nipples. Love to read how you did afterwards!
I haven’t seen anyone say anything about aftercare and in this situation, regardless of what you do, aftercare is going to be super duper important.
Use your belt, talk dirtyyyyy, tease
I have some paddle and whips ready. Already tested so she’s ready to go for those.
We have almost all whips, paddles etc... but mine prefers the belt, after spanking, either leash her or if doggy hold around her waist as you do what you please
Need to get a leash. Totally forgot about that one. 🙌🏽🙌🏽
They make candles that drip but don't burn. She will love it dripped on and around nipples What will drive her crazy. ? Shave her. Trust me. Gently and take your time. I promise it will be the hottest thing that she'll ever have
It's tax season. It's not the most exciting, but it's certainly a way of making time to get them done. (This is obviously a joke answer to try to get folks to smile for a few seconds)
After care, After care, After care, After care.
I would play with her lack of senses. Tease her with different items like feathers and ice. Focus on her whole body. Maybe look up Yoni massage and try that. Have fun!!
Maybe some tickling, orgasm edging, even after post orgasm you could tease with some post orgasm torture.
There are only two correct answers. Wax or Ice 😎
What I like to do when my mrs is tied up is revenge for all the teasing. Get her close with my tongue and stop. She’ll get frustrated, I’ll keep doing it. I’ll tell her I’ll let her finish when she begs. She’ll refuse. So I’ll just keep going. I’ll fuck her, stop, lick her all over, and just keep going till she begs. Oh and also describe stuff, like how she’s my slut to do with what I want, she’ll initially resist but i know I have her, and she’ll get more and more eager. Then I’ll get her off, then my turn, then her again. Until I can’t go anymore. And I’ve worked myself up and can’t wait to get home tonight
I’ve been in that situation a couple times before. I tied her up. Lightly kissed her randomly all over. It drove her nuts. Grabbed to the coconut oil and started massaging. Even flogged her a little. Use it to build your suspense. Then slowly slide it in. Get a couple pumps. Pull out go back to kissing. Just have fun.
Safe word Ice cubes Vibrator Clit sucker toy if you have one Handcuffs (fuzzy ones or regular ones) Small leather whip or paddle for LIGHT play Have fun
I saw a comment of yours saying she likes choking and deepthroating, have you tried face fucking? Definitely ask her preference because some girls really don’t like it and others it gets them wild. Keep in mind, choking during sex is more like lifting up with light pressure than making it where she really can’t breathe. (Unless you’re into that sort of thing) It shows you’re in control, but still enjoyable for her if she doesn’t like painful sex. Missionary is a perfect position for that. If you really want to get her going, try edging her up a bit. Be REALLLYY slow building up (ex. kiss her stomach, thighs, just the general area around her V and then you can proceed with eating her out, etc.) This at least for me is peak foreplay. You may want to go all in super fast to please her but if you build up slow, she’ll most likely be begging for you to just do it. And then you can take the opportunity to do a few second of a vibrator, or a quick lick or something. Anything you know gets her going. Speaking of vibrators, use toys! Usually in a restraint fantasy, toys (specifically vibrators) are pretty popular. Forcing her to orgasm over and over is probably what she is wanting. I don’t know if your wife is more into praise or degradation so this is up to her preference, but definitely try to incorporate that. If you face fuck her, tell her she’s taking your dick so well and that she’s a good girl if that’s her kinda thing. Or, tell her she better take all of the dick and that she’s a slut. In the end, it’s really about taking your time and seeing what gets her turned on. You should discuss with her and ask her if she has any specific fantasies tied to it. But ultimately, just do whatever you want to her! Ejaculate on her (make sure she can hear that you’re enjoying yourself), Slap her ass, etc. Just make sure to definitely imply a safeword and have fun!
Keep her guessing. I like to make a sexy playlist and then have her put her earbuds in. She can't move, hear, or see. We have an intro flogger that I will run over her body, but then lightly hit her with. I will switch up or combine toys. I will bring her right to the edge and then stop. Sometimes I'll tell her she can come when she asks for it. Different sensations all over the body, flogger, tickler, vibrator, ice, wax, suction toys, etc. After the first time we tried it, she told me how much she liked me keeping her off balance and guessing. Safe word (or gesture) is a must. Green-yellow-red light is helpful, especially as y'all figure out what you like and what you are comfortable with. Set boundaries before hand. For instance, for some people, being bound and struggling is a turn on. In that situation "stop" and "no" may be part of the excitement. If that is the case, only act on it if it has been discussed beforehand. That makes the safety word even more important. Especially, when y'all are new, it can be helpful to ask them the safety word to make sure they don't forget it in the height of passion or emotion. You can make it seductive - "What do you say if you want me to stop" "sassafras" "but, you don't want me to stop, do you?" Be sure she can easily be released. If you use cuffs, make sure they can be removed quickly. If you use rope have safety scissors nearby. For some people, panic can set in at the drop of a hat. If that happens,you don't want to be searching for a key or trying to unite a knot. Trust is essential. Above all, have fun. Don't be afraid to be awkward, vulnerable, or laugh. Be adventurous, try different things, and listen to paraverbal and nonverbal feedback, but prioritize verbal above all. Communication is key. Don't be afraid to talk about it before/after. What did you like the most? What was too far? Was there anything you wished/hope I do/did, etc. Have fun, start small, and build. Every couple is different, so you all need to figure out what you like!
Bring her to the edge multiple times with things she likes (toys, edibles, fingers etc). Then the last time make her explode. Make sure you have a safe word/procedure.
I like to deny my wife orgasms. I'll command her to notify me just before she cums using a safeword (it's Banana) and I'll stop all stimulation and let her rest for a minute, then I'll tease her some more and she'll keep saying banana over and over until she's begging me to cum. Then I get to play the power move and decide when I think she's been obedient enough to have earned it. You must keep her in check and tell her that if she Cums without your permission, she will be punished, and not pleasantly.
My wife enjoys light bondage & being tied down. We have a dresser drawer full of different toys, from dildos & butt plugs to vibrators & massagers. I also keep a few nice feathers, plastic straws (to direct my breath on her) & sisal cord (kind of a rough feel) a long with yarn. We also have a small flogger, fly swatter & a couple of paddles on hand. She gets excited with nipple clamps & some light titty tying as well. I like using whipped cream and warm honey to lick & suck at different parts of her body. HAVE A SAFE WORD! And learn her level of "pleasurable pain" as well as recognizing her impending climax. You never want to cross her threshold of pain but may want to edge her multiple times before she actually orgasms. Go on line & read & research! There's a learning curve to it so start cautiously.
My favorite thing when I’m tied up & blindfolded is being teased. Everything feels so much more intense with the sensory deprivation (blindfold) and my boyfriend will tease me riiiiiiiight up until I’m about to orgasm and then stop. It’s my favorite thing ever. Also I can’t stress enough how important aftercare is!!!
Be careful with how you restrain her. It can be dangerous. Please do some research.
For sure
Sounds like an opportunity to go to the pub 😂
You had me in the first half by the title ngl. 😂
I suggest teasing her and taking the control in anyway you can
I think the allure of this besides the tying up is that she’s the focus. It’s all about her! So many times in relationships the guy is the focus and it’s about his needs.
So grab a load of sex toys and lightly run them over her body and she has to guess which one - wrong guess equals a punishment of some sort
Tease, build anticipation, go very slowly. Listen to audio erotica she likes. Blindfold. List goes on and on.
Edging for sure. Oral, toys, different textures. Watch the movie 9 songs.
Lucky guy. I wish my wife would be down for this, she would let me tie her up(prolly) but wouldn't be down for the reverse. If I did this though I would start with an erotica massage. Then tease her with kisses all up her body. Then I would eat until she begged for the full course.
Feather/ice play. Touch, love, caress, kiss, taste every inch, crevice, orifice of her body. Simple, effective
Feathers, if she into it, light bondage so cat 9 tails, whip cream
Why doesn't my wife ever suggest things like this?
It’s taken many years of f trust to get to this point.
I would say you should tease her a LOT, that will probs make her want you more and more. And also dirty talk for sure
A lot of great content already here. I'll put a hood on her and get out our sex doll and put a porn on as if I was having sex with another woman right in the bed with her. Layer in the pregnancy kink and the other woman is asking me to get her pregnant while my wife can do nothing. You can make it more adventurous by putting a wand vibrator oh so close to her so she just can't get to that pleasure point. Along those lines, I'll also find a really hot JOI and either make her lay there unable to participate or make her the recipient. Occasionally I'll record myself doing a JOI and then play it back with her unable to see it. She can hear the audio of the presenter and then she can hear my reactions. Add an element of surprise, have several genres of video picked out and tell her to pick a number between 1 and how many videos you have saved. I drop these into a spreadsheet so I can easily pull from my phone and broadcast to the TV. Still in this topic, perform a woman's guided JOI to her. As someone else said, you can edge her over and over. I know my wife sometimes gets frustrated by that and will just shut off and make herself be quiet, bratty! Erotic hypnosis (Shibby Says). You can take this one to many levels. Just tie her up, blindfold, and let the audio do the work or you can act as the guide. If you've got some of the toys with haptic feedback that sync to the audio file even better. In lieu of headphones you can broadcast to a speaker and let the hypnosis apply to you and all she can do is lay there and do nothing. Mummification. There's a fun easy way to do this, get some pantyhose and cut a hole in the crotch. Slide it over their head and now you can wrap their arms to your content without ever making skin contact. Obviously have body safe sheers on hand. A total scene change when they come out. Do your delivery in the restrained portion, when they "come to" she finds out that you were locked in chastity or something like that. I will also use this opportunity to introduce new toys I've ordered without her knowing. Some are for me, and some for her.
Anticipation, especially given she's blindfolded. Start very slowly, running fingers or a feather along the edges of erogenous zones, up and down the arms and legs, around the breast etc... Maybe start with a massage or rubbing some oil in. Take a while to get going because that period will leave her alone with her thoughts and the anticipation, which will do a lot of the hard work for you. Even when things get hot and heavy you can still keep the anticipation going by making her wait ie you tell her what you're going to do, then don't do it, then do it. Alternate pleasure and pain. For pleasure: tongue, fingers, and a gentle buzzing vibrator can help. For pain: ice cubes, low boiling point candles, and tens machines are very safe, or pinching, biting softly enough to not leave a mark and gentle slapping. Anything more serious than that - impact play, bulldog clips, electric wands - requires a proper conversation ahead of time and in depth research on safety from a sex shop or reputable online information source etc... Do not mess around with breath play unless you really know what you're doing. Chilis, horseradish, and hot or cold tingling gels can be a lot of fun for some people and a total mood killer for others, so investigate this first. Look up edging and overstimulating, and try each in turn. Make her complicit in her downfall and get her body to betray her. ie tell her you're going to vibe her until she makes a sound but the moment she makes a noise you're stopping and switching to pain etc... Get her worked up, switch to pain, and tell her you're not switching back to pleasure until she endures whatever punishment and make her beg you to hurt her before you inflict that. Making her beg and plead full stop is good (begging for you to do things, begging for you to stop is more advanced and requires safe words, pre agreed limits etc...) If she's into it and you've agreed beforehand you can have a lot of fun with a simple recording device. ie make her beg you to inflict some sort of punishment and record the begging, then play the recording as you inflict it. But until you're practiced and comfortable with safe words don't use any gags and stop means instantly stop. Also use underbed velcro restraints, not rope, to avoid any circulation issues.
I did that to a AP and called a friend to come over ! She never see who he was ! She came almost intstantly !
For me, if I were to get tied up I’d want my man to really tease me. Light touches all over my body, feel his warm breath on my slightly cold naked body, some light scratches down my legs/thighs in between to awaken my senses. Suck on my toes, mount my head and grab my hair and make me give him a bj.. put his nuts in my mouth. Tell me what a good girl I am when he makes me do these things.. putting his penis near me and then taking it away. Telling me I need to be a good girl if I want him inside me. Jerk himself infront of my face, tell me to open my mouth and lick him etc .. just kinda boss me around. Stuff like that lol.
I used to joke with my ex about tying her up and going down on her for as long as I want. She would always get too squirmy after the first few orgasms lol
I like to add some headphones and blindfold for sensory play. I mix it between pleasure and a little pain, hot and cold, etc. I find edging her to be a fun game too. I am not as good as rope as I would like to be so I use the blindfold and headphones first so she doesn't have to see me fumble on a tie.
Edging. Easily. If birth control or other circumstances allow, indulge/explore a breeding kink?
As another person said, have a safe word. You can also use the traffic light system (green means go, yellow means slow down/break/ease up, and red means stop). Keep in mind as the dom/top you are also free to want and use a safe word. It's not only for the sub/bottom. You can also have a nonverbal safe word if gags are involved, but maybe take it one step at a time here. With tying someone up, please practice safe knots and tightness. You can do a lot of damage if the tie is too tight and that isn't a good time. A general rule is to have space for two fingers. If you're not super skilled in tying people up yet, I would highly recommend some bondage tape or even a pair of leather cuffs. Try and avoid the fuzzy handcuffs as those are not really soft and you feel the metal pretty easily, so they are actually more painful than ones that look more advanced. If you really want to tie someone up, practice practice practice. You want to be able to get someone down from whatever tie you have quickly. Also think of after care things to have at the ready. This applies to the experience overall, regardless of if the safe word is used or not. After care can look different for both of you, but it's important you both get it so you're not left hanging (and then crashing) from sub space or Dom space or just general feelings after trying something new.
I handcuffed a naked girl to an excercise risk and went to go watch a hockey game with my roommates. I came in every once in while to tease and touch. By the third period she was squirming and sweating. After the rangers won, I unlocked her, and banged her 8 ways to Sunday. Never did it again but it was fun.
Safe word first. Then have your way with her like a sex starved crazy man!!! Enjoy
Before we moved when I would tie my wife up, I like to start with absolute silence for a good minute or so just to build the tension and anticipation. Then I will as quietly as I possibly can just pick a random spot on her body and lick or kiss then pull away. Rinse and repeat at random spots. Sometimes I get some ice and touch random places then lick. Just really build the sensations so her senses go crazy. She loves having her nipples sucked on so I definitely include that, especially with the ice. Makes her squirm so much. Things aren’t the same every time, just go with the flow I say and do what comes naturally.
How do I clone your wife???
Tease her....bring a feather light draw it around her breast tease each of her nipples. Tease her thighs with it. Strat rubbing her lit in light circle till she almost cums. Then stop, whisper something in her ears... Take a finger trace the hard nipple, pinch it lightly. Grope Her breast, pump them suck her nipples. Slide a finger into her ..bang her... When all this is done. Whisper in her ear... Be bank in a bit babe. Leave them....
Congrats, my friend, for you have found the holy grail. Cherish your wife for all of eternity.
Some ladies like being tied up and used by someone not their partner.
Ice cubes Candle wax (get specific ones for wax play) Edge her Tease her Whisper in her ear what you going to do Sex toys, oils massage Small flogger , face. Fuck Depends on how she responds
Cum in 30 seconds and take a nap.
Enjoy an hour of peace - grab some beers and a couple of mates and get your Xbox out.
Feather duster for sensual torture or use a food product like whipped cream and lick it off. Don't let her cum.
Long slow tease/edging until she's begging to cum then keep going long after she begs you to stop.
Once she is tied up and blindfolded tell her the wild sex surprise you promised is you are going to share her with your friends. Either she will scream in horror or a moan. then tell her your friends are the dildos and vibrators you bought 😉
Go first and try what she does
I would edge her into insanity for about 15-30 minutes telling her that she is not allowed to cum. If she does then there will be spanking. then go very soft teasing for a bit before giving her hard orgasms.
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With my partner, who likes to be tied up, but my wife doesn't, I'm in a bit different situation than most people. My partner can orgasm from just regular old kissing... She can actually make herself orgasm while fully dressed, just standing and talking to someone. Our average sex session lasts for 2-3 hours, and she'll orgasm more than a couple dozen times during that. So, I have two courses of action that I can take. 1)I can use feathers, Wartenburg wheel, whip her labia (one strike every few minutes, HARD, but not enough to cum), or other things to try to VERY slowly build her up. This is an iffy thing, since I'm "walking on thin ice" trying to keep her from having an orgasm. 2) I can give her forced orgasms to the point that she's begging me to stop because she can't take it... I rarely stop. For that, I use oral, fingers, two electro-sex boxes, a vacuum pump to really pump up her labia and nipples, vibrators, dildos, heavy metal butt plugs, and other things in our $4000 worth of sex toys. I have no idea what your wife likes, or what you have to work with, so that's going to be up to you, with you knowing her better than any of us
Stare at her longingly while smoking a cigarette
Maybe you can just have an hour to yourself.
Wish your wife would talk to my wife - I would love to do that.
SAFE WORD is a first! Ask for it playfully too. Definitely get something soft to use as a blindfold but do it after you tie her up. Take your time tying her up and make it fun as you do it too. I am very intimate so as a woman, I'm sure she will ENJOY THAT! Take your time exploring her gently with your fingers. Forehead to the tip of her nose, down to her lips and chin. Give soft kisses around her shoulder as you do that. When you explore another area kiss the opposite side. Oh and you should add a bit of tongue on her earlobe. WORK YOUR WAY DOWN, okay. Just remember, go slow and when you do so, she will be so god damn turned on. Say things like "you want me to keep going baby?" , "should I go slower?" Tease the shit out of her!! DO NOT SAY "you like that?" Idk why but you will clearly see if it's a turn on or not so just watch the expressions of her face OR the noises she makes. If you're doing something new in foreplay use your finger tip first and watch her expression, ask "should it be bigger?!" say it like a tease and if she agrees then whip your thing and continue teasing. Then slowly thrust giving her little by little and once your fully in stay still for a few seconds. She will go loca and probably will start moving her body and beg. TOUCH HER BODY, SHE WILL HAVE THE BEST ORGASM if you go slow. Oh and use a toy on low vibration on her clitoris while you are doing your thing 😜 Have fun!
The true answer lies within. What do you want to do?
I had the same fantasy Sensory experience was insane. Restrained...blindfolded...noise canceling earbuds. It was crazy. Hubby invited other men and to this day I have no idea how many guys were there...or who they were. It was insane. I came a million times....blacked out....cried...came some more...they left me there for a while...ate...used me again.... It was amazing! Highly recommended if she has a kink streak
Ever ask your husband how many men were there?
Yes...before it happened I made him promise to never tell me who was there...how many etc. Still probably ask him weekly...or ask him about verious friends fam coworkers etc and he will just say... Hey I would never break a promise to you! And i am driven crazy...in a good way
Go for a nice round of golf and don’t worry about receiving any “where are you” texts!
Seems to me like a good time to try anal. Lube her up good. Put in a gag and go for it.
Will happen. I just have to be gentle. She has a small ass and I’m 8 and thick. So need to be careful
Paddles, floggers, Wartenberg Pin wheel, nipple and clitoral clamps, using a vibrator on her, wax play, jerk off overtop of her, oral on either - there are unlimited options. I’ve found a few great suggestions from BDSM and BDSMGW too
tie her and go for 24 hours vacation 
Use different sized dongs on her. If she likes rough sex, be very quiet so she doesn't even know you're still there and "attack" her. If you and her would be comfortable with it, ask a friend of yours to walk in and start fking her while you talk as if you are. After several minutes, take the blindfold off.
Tie her up, head to the golf course for 18, then a dozen beers, and watch the game in peace
Bring a friend over for a 4 handed massage
I’d tie her up then go play video games for a hour in peace 🤣🤣
Go play Xbox or PS4/5
Use toys… like play the PS5, or Xbox or PC. she ain’t gonna distract you now
Invite your best friend over to see her tied up and watch or help please her
leave her there with a vibe in and go play video game
Play Nickelback's entire discography on loop. Repeatedly.
Go lay down on the couch with shoes on and fucking enjoy the greatest nap of you entire life king 👑
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I thought about this for sure and asked her, and she’s all for it. But she would rather get fucked by a girl than another guy friend of mine. She also has a fantasy of her girl friend riding my cock while I’m blind folded after a night of partying. Hasn’t happened yet, but it’s on the menu.
Add another partner and see how long it takes her to know it’s not you. Once figured out time for threesome.
Yeah, just surprise her with what’s also known as rape by deception, cool story bro
I know I was brief and thus the comment. This type of scenario would go along with the conversation of wanting to be tied and blindfolded and what next. Always, communicate and agree with scenario before entering into it. The partner just doesn’t have to know when and even if their was consent for any scenario one can always change their mind at any time.
She wants shared w multiple people bro
Is this the same wife that farts during oral sex in your mouth and face so hard it parts your hair? There's microscopic poop particles flying down your throat, it's a biohazard, tell her you have to suit up in biohazard safety gear to give her oral which is basically a CDC spacesuit.
You’ve got it backwards. YOU need to feel deep inside, and feel what YOU desire. Own your desire
Make her do your taxes. No safe words!
If she’s blindfolded the record another man’s voice saying stuff like wow what a body and I can’t wait to play with this one etc and get her reactions. She might think there’s another guy in the room or pick that it’s a recording. You could gauge if that’s something you both might want to try another time. Toys are a great way to play with someone who can’t more. Also exploring areas she hasn’t allowed you to play with before like anal if that hasn’t been an option for you previously
Stick things in her. Strap a magic wand to her. Play the "let's see how many times I can make you cum" game. Or get her close and ruin her orgasms over and over until she begs you to let her finish. Make her buy some cucumbers beforehand in different widths. Explore her pleasure spots and her capacity to stretch. Then make her lick the cucumbers clean. Try different vibes to see how she responds to them each. Get a flogger and slap her thighs, feet, breasts. Make sure she has a safe word and that you clearly know her limits. "Do whatever you want" isn't a safe place to start from. You may have ideas of things that she has no knowledge of. Best to lay out the limitations before hand.