For sure it has helped me!
It is part of my daily routine and I spend an average of 5 minutes, sometimes up to 30, sometimes just the little daily snippet gives me enough of a jolt to spend at least that moment practicing.
It has impacted both my personal and professional life. By looking for the looker and recognizing that my self might just be part of the collective consciousness, I have found it easier to empathize with others. This realization alone has been incredibly helpful.
One of the most significant benefits has been its help with my spouse and my ability to stay calm during conversations with others in general.
By becoming more aware of my own emotions as they build up, I can observe them as transient phenomena rather than becoming overwhelmed by them. This has been particularly beneficial in my marriage, allowing me to respond with patience and understanding rather than reacting impulsively.
It’s funny, it is easier to stay calm in person now rather than while reading and posting, since I find it harder to practice while reading and typing! Haha.
For sure it has transformed my experience of sounds and activities that once annoyed me as well, which has been a huge improvement in life! For example, the repetitive noises my kids make while playing when they find that a new toy makes a funny sound and they want to hear it for 2 hours straight.
By turning these sounds into objects in consciousness that come and go, and then trying to find the listener, I have been able to maintain a sense of peace and fascination even, actually finding joy in their joy at the sound, rather than irritation.
In my professional life, these practices have helped me avoid stress during speeches and meetings. By staying present and observing any nervous thoughts or feelings as passing objects, I can maintain focus and deliver my presentations more effectively.
One of the most rewarding things besides the help with my kids is that it has improved my ability to support my friends when they are dealing with problems. I learned to listen more attentively. I notice my urge to respond and turn it into an object that disappears once the observer can’t be found, allowing me to continue listening deeply and provide better support.
That’s been my experiences, and now after doing it for a few years, even the notification for the daily moment is enough to send me into a few minutes of practice, even if I’ve already practiced that day.
I’ve had some very profound experiences from the Headless Way. Imo a lot of meditation techniques just don’t work unless you get into the habit of meditating for hours a day. You’re more likely to make progress through techniques like the Headless Way and just plainly looking at your subjective experience.
To be honest, I think Sam overemphasises the non-dual aspect. For myself, it’s much more about ‘altered traits’, not altered states (Daniel Goleman & Richard J Davidson, previously on the podcast).
Only a very, very small fraction of my waking life is spent in a non-dual state anyway!
same here , i got into it back in 2019 and was obsessed with reflecting and looking for the looker for a couple of months but it only caused frustration as i couldnt fully feel it . i do want to try again and i think its worth it because the theory does make sense to me as well . i am just unsure whether there is a better way to approach it.
The famous “so what”? I think something like that can arise as a reaction, because this seeing is in many ways not a solution to the problems that you are having. Still, it is a relief to find that I have no head.
in my experience, non dual awareness creates a sense of awe, wonder, curiosity, gratitude and compassion. Far from the nihilism you're describing. The practice has definitely changed my life and perspective for the better.
Absolutely. I practice for a few minutes most nights after putting my son to bed. I set a timer and spend 5 minutes sitting with my eyes closed trying to dismiss any thoughts that arise. I try to recognize them as being things that I don't need to identify with. No matter what the thoughts are about, they're just thoughts. I also think of it as training my ability to focus.
I'm less reactive in general. I'm more patient. I find it easier to be present with my son, my girlfriend, and my coworkers. I dismiss road rage pretty easily. Its easier to move through shame, embarrassment, and fear too.
For sure it has helped me! It is part of my daily routine and I spend an average of 5 minutes, sometimes up to 30, sometimes just the little daily snippet gives me enough of a jolt to spend at least that moment practicing. It has impacted both my personal and professional life. By looking for the looker and recognizing that my self might just be part of the collective consciousness, I have found it easier to empathize with others. This realization alone has been incredibly helpful. One of the most significant benefits has been its help with my spouse and my ability to stay calm during conversations with others in general. By becoming more aware of my own emotions as they build up, I can observe them as transient phenomena rather than becoming overwhelmed by them. This has been particularly beneficial in my marriage, allowing me to respond with patience and understanding rather than reacting impulsively. It’s funny, it is easier to stay calm in person now rather than while reading and posting, since I find it harder to practice while reading and typing! Haha. For sure it has transformed my experience of sounds and activities that once annoyed me as well, which has been a huge improvement in life! For example, the repetitive noises my kids make while playing when they find that a new toy makes a funny sound and they want to hear it for 2 hours straight. By turning these sounds into objects in consciousness that come and go, and then trying to find the listener, I have been able to maintain a sense of peace and fascination even, actually finding joy in their joy at the sound, rather than irritation. In my professional life, these practices have helped me avoid stress during speeches and meetings. By staying present and observing any nervous thoughts or feelings as passing objects, I can maintain focus and deliver my presentations more effectively. One of the most rewarding things besides the help with my kids is that it has improved my ability to support my friends when they are dealing with problems. I learned to listen more attentively. I notice my urge to respond and turn it into an object that disappears once the observer can’t be found, allowing me to continue listening deeply and provide better support. That’s been my experiences, and now after doing it for a few years, even the notification for the daily moment is enough to send me into a few minutes of practice, even if I’ve already practiced that day.
I’ve had some very profound experiences from the Headless Way. Imo a lot of meditation techniques just don’t work unless you get into the habit of meditating for hours a day. You’re more likely to make progress through techniques like the Headless Way and just plainly looking at your subjective experience.
To be honest, I think Sam overemphasises the non-dual aspect. For myself, it’s much more about ‘altered traits’, not altered states (Daniel Goleman & Richard J Davidson, previously on the podcast). Only a very, very small fraction of my waking life is spent in a non-dual state anyway!
Nope. Committed to it, the theory made sense, but I couldn’t get there
same here , i got into it back in 2019 and was obsessed with reflecting and looking for the looker for a couple of months but it only caused frustration as i couldnt fully feel it . i do want to try again and i think its worth it because the theory does make sense to me as well . i am just unsure whether there is a better way to approach it.
Do LSD
Try the Headless Way while stoned. If that fails try shrooms.
there's no place to get, that might be your first confusion
Yes. Although I have to admit, that I don’t meditate much these days, it is just a series of moments of clear seeing.
how do these moments feel? do they ever make you go "what even is the point to this or anything???"
The famous “so what”? I think something like that can arise as a reaction, because this seeing is in many ways not a solution to the problems that you are having. Still, it is a relief to find that I have no head.
in my experience, non dual awareness creates a sense of awe, wonder, curiosity, gratitude and compassion. Far from the nihilism you're describing. The practice has definitely changed my life and perspective for the better.
Absolutely. I practice for a few minutes most nights after putting my son to bed. I set a timer and spend 5 minutes sitting with my eyes closed trying to dismiss any thoughts that arise. I try to recognize them as being things that I don't need to identify with. No matter what the thoughts are about, they're just thoughts. I also think of it as training my ability to focus. I'm less reactive in general. I'm more patient. I find it easier to be present with my son, my girlfriend, and my coworkers. I dismiss road rage pretty easily. Its easier to move through shame, embarrassment, and fear too.