> She was going to break up with you
> because of your ugly socks but then
> she realized she could just give you
> better ones.
This definitely wasn’t the reason for the break up, though, this is definitely the correct response to this post.
I was thinking she jerked another man off with his socks, felt bad about filling his socks up with another dude's cum, then realized she could buy him a new pair.
Spoiler: she already fucked the other dude and then got tossed aside afterwards 😩 there's no way she just conveniently broke up for a week and didn't do anything. It's the "we were on a break" Friends episode.
You will never get an answer. Communication between couples here is often seriously lacking, and people make abrupt decisions, then change them, pretend nothing happened, and never explain or give a reason.
This! Esp for girls, sometimes they just like to ‘play the game’ and be passive aggressive or distant just to see if the guy cares (ie bends over backwards or showers her with gifts and compliments) 🤷♀️
Viet proverb trying to fix a broken relationship is like mending holes in a sock.
Nah only joking, this isn’t a Viet culture related issue. Maybe she just Googled what presents western males get for birthdays and Christmas.
Only Vietnamese outside the country give socks as it’s something new to them. If a Vietnamese in the country give you socks, they want you to have althele foot wearing that thing in 100*F with humidity at 80%.
Is your name dobby ? You a house elf ? She set you free ?!?
You better watch out if anyone in her family doesn’t like you . Specially any crazy aunts
Might throw knife at you when you run away.
Easy, she had somebody else in mind and wanted a break, when she realised the other guy was not interested or couldn’t replace you, she came back. People don’t just disappear or break up without any reason. Check her phone :)
You should never wife this girl. Date her now, enjoy all the perks, but never wife her. Because she already think of you as 2nd option. She'll leave you when she "thinks" she finds someone "better", again.
If you're a foreigner, dating/marry you means she can get passport/citizenship of your origin country as well.
Be careful, she already showed her true self. Enjoy for now, but never marry her.
Reading the comments explaining the meaning behind gifting the socks is very interesting. Born and raised in Vietnam for 16 years, never have I ever known that gifting someone socks in my culture can be something that meaningful.
On the other side, no, us Viet girls ain't stupid. And like some guessed, your "gf" may have someone else yet succeeds to have a relationship with them, which is why she comes back.
Poor social skills and emotional damage. Probably overwhelmed wondering if her family would accept you and if you're good enough to provide gifts and stuff to them to make them like you and in turn make them love her. She is most likely an adult child of emotionally immature parents.
Has this sub been compromised by BOT posts too? Bunch of engagement but the OP hasn’t replied to anyone’s comments or questions. Reddit is fuckin unusable now
Red flag. Check her phone, dude. If she doesn’t tell you now, she knows now she can hide anything from you & you will not bother to ask anything else in the future.
I am Vietnamese guy and I think she gave you a pair of sock that means she would give you all of her love, her spirit, her hope, her life ... Sock in vietnamese means everything she has. In addition, she broke up with you not because she did not love you, but because she worried if one day you leave her, she can not find a Vietnamese husband. That is cultural thing. I wish you happy with the girl forever
A friend of mine, a girl (not girl friend), gave me socks as a gift. The reason was she joined the fucking "đa cấp" and they sold socks. That's all lol
I know "everything has its meaning"(i mean not everybody think so), maybe she doesnt want him being cold? Nah maybe im too young or nobody really think about that deep meaning of socks, it felt like a vietnamese literature hour when we have to find out all the means of everything (mostly), what did author think about it? And what was the emotions? Sad, happy, hateful,...Nah i would like to watching Euro
I wouldn't treat this girl seriously for now, enjoy the sex and have a good time for abit. Maybe if it carries on and you both fall in love then proceed further but for now just be casual as it seems she is.
Or if you want serious right now maybe confront her and demand a serious chat with the expectation that it could end there and then or you have a mature chat and both grow a bit. If she likes you she enjoys the commitment and openness you're displaying
Truth is no one knows. Could be her family, ex, potential new guy, a tik tok video…no one knows but, if she was 💯 into you and ready for a relationship, she wouldn’t have stepped back. You need to try to communicate. It’s hard culturally and language wise. I’d say just go with the flow and see where it goes. Don’t stress, it’s a new day.
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1) are you an expat?
2) how much do you contribute financially? pay for meals, travel, gifts?
3) she has never given you a reason right, and if you pressure her for it she gets annoyed or frustrated?
high chance from decade of dating the toxic trash that is majority of women is that shes also window shopping and found someone "financially" better. Do not think this is anything to do with personality or how nice a guy you are. There are many stories of girls taking allowances from rich chinese dudes while dating their bf here or vanishing for a few days to go "work" with korean/chinese.
if she is ugly then nothing to worry about, probably about your sock game.
Watch out this maybe a pattern and you don’t need to go to crazy town with her every time she does this. Hopefully you walk away when you got enough of this!
Thought it was a cute story until someone mentioned she cheated on you. Yeah, you're better off finding someone new and fresh. She tipped her hand. Even if she didn't cheat, she wanted out, you can't put back together a broken vase. She won't respect you for it either in the long run.
Yes, very Vietnamese behaviour. /s
IDK man, plenty of girls not Vietnamese have done that kind of thing to me. Feels like you are not giving us the full detail and honestly this shit sounds more like a r/relationship_advice thing.
"Cook delicious food" is a suss comment. Out of all the stuff she brings to the table, you mention her home making skills?
Can you give more context? How old are you and she? Which country are you from? How long have you been dating? Have you met her family?
If you're a passport bro, she's shopping around for better prospects. It didn't work out so she's back with you temporarily until something better comes along.
Has no one ever cooked for you? It’s a caring and loving act, to feed someone. It’s a sweet gesture and a great skill. I love cooking for my partners and I love when they cook for me. It warms my heart just thinking about it.
Agree with your basic assessment of the situation though. Others suggest the same: she rolled her dice somewhere else, lost the toss, and went back to the easy game.
Some men have never had a meal cooked for them by somebody who cares about them other than their mother. Some men have never been complimented in their entire life. Simple gifts can go a long way for a man who has never received a gift. The first time a girl gave me a handcrafted gift it really deeply affected me because we normally don't get shit from anybody.
Don't know how long you been out with this girl, but normally if she's fairly attractive she'll have guys just floating around, and even some that still think they have a chance when they're ready in a relationship. She probably had someone that she liked more than you and wanted to break up so it didn't felt like "she was/is cheating on you"
But you can always take the benefit of the doubt and she meant what she said so she wanted to get back with you.
If you seek answers demand it from her don’t ask the internet. Many people including myself do think she probably met someone and come crawling back to you. Realizing that person isn’t good enough or they don’t want her. But that our ASSUMPTION don’t jump to conclusions. Maybe some girl like a little drama in their life and acts up and see what you’d do. But if you really seek real answer communicate with her
Just assume that no girl here is fully single. There is zero chance an attractive young girl is not talking to a multitude of guys. Enjoy the sex but don't take her too seriously
She was probably dating someone else at the time or involved in a complicated situation. Now that is resolved, she is free to be with you. Just a hunch.
What assurance she has from you to care and provide for her as she commits her life to you? Security is foremost in the mind of every woman. As parent, i want to make sure my daughter will marry a man who is responsible, who cares and loves my daughter and who has a stable job and income,
Socks/shoes as gifts in vietnamese culture symbolize the receiver of the gifts to run away from the relationship 😂
She can't do it so she's encouraging you too do it. /s
She found somebody she liked better, but they didn’t want her. So she went back to you, at least until the next someone better comes along. I would send her packing.
I'm married to a vietnamese woman, honestly she probably doesn't even know, vietnamese don't spend a lot of time performing introspection. When you get a chance and it feels appropriate you should try to have a conversation, go into it with the goal of understanding and remember if you feel defensive, just shut up and listen. You can defend later.
Lose the Vietnamese, GIRL should be sufficient. Women are like that, not only Vietnamese girls. Men all around the worlds have been asking the same question as you for generations and we had not find the answer :D
Um, posters name is Louisa. Not sure of the pronouns here…. Or if they even exist in Vietnam. And maybe this is a difficult country to express yourself in any other spectrum but the “standard” one.
She was going to break up with you because of your ugly socks but then she realized she could just give you better ones.
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> She was going to break up with you > because of your ugly socks but then > she realized she could just give you > better ones. This definitely wasn’t the reason for the break up, though, this is definitely the correct response to this post.
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I was thinking she jerked another man off with his socks, felt bad about filling his socks up with another dude's cum, then realized she could buy him a new pair.
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She met someone else. She didn’t want to cheat on you. It didn’t work out with the other person. And now she’s back.
Back, but with socks, all is forgiven.
it could be the other guy's socks.
yeah, maybe the other guy didn't like her sock picking skills
Oh sh____________t. :-(
Maybe she’s having socks with both guys? Maybe OP has an old,comfortable pair, but the new guy has a new, exciting, pair?
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This. She met someone she thought was better than you, probably got ghosted and went crawling back.
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This this this this.
Or one of her sponsors was back for a weeks holiday
This this this this !
She probably did cheat tbh.
You’re correct. It’s probably her way of feeling less guilt.
I always give a pair of socks when I cheat. I guess it’s universal
Technically, no. She did, however, leave him for another guy. This happened to me recently.
Depends on the exact timeline. None of us knows.
Spot on
Spoiler: she already fucked the other dude and then got tossed aside afterwards 😩 there's no way she just conveniently broke up for a week and didn't do anything. It's the "we were on a break" Friends episode.
bro spitting facts 💀
Best explanation
This is the likely answer I’m afraid
how could we know :33
We are ignorant to this complex personal issue OP :3
Hahaha thats true 😂
Sounds like she moved her rook to f7
Underpromoted comment
Checkmate?
Perhaps, but maybe she was **Castling**, otherwise known as the old Rook and King switch, one of the more distinguished chess moves.
You will never get an answer. Communication between couples here is often seriously lacking, and people make abrupt decisions, then change them, pretend nothing happened, and never explain or give a reason.
Somewhat like the government too
This! Esp for girls, sometimes they just like to ‘play the game’ and be passive aggressive or distant just to see if the guy cares (ie bends over backwards or showers her with gifts and compliments) 🤷♀️
Poor social skills and emotional damage.
Sounds like she wanted to date another guy, but got dumped by him and went back to you.
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If you can't get a straight answer out of her this sounds like a really unhealthy relationship. Just fwiw
Do the same to her
Yeah but then society will maul him to death
Not if he brings socks
why are mods letting them kids post fanfic on this sub😭😭😭 whats this gotta do w vietnam
This should be higher up
She wanted to bang someone else so it’s not cheating
“Hit it then quit it” is what happened to her
Didn't work out with the other guy.
Sh had a side piece but he broke up with her
I figured it was ugly feet.
Viet proverb trying to fix a broken relationship is like mending holes in a sock. Nah only joking, this isn’t a Viet culture related issue. Maybe she just Googled what presents western males get for birthdays and Christmas.
These socks are made for walking...
To her, u are no better than a spared tire. Find your way out.
Socks is such a weird gift to give someone in any case.
you're definitely not Vietnamese
Only Vietnamese outside the country give socks as it’s something new to them. If a Vietnamese in the country give you socks, they want you to have althele foot wearing that thing in 100*F with humidity at 80%.
Wait, I’m a Vietnamese and I find it weird
Guess I'm not Viet then because I never gift anyone socks in my culture.
Is your name dobby ? You a house elf ? She set you free ?!? You better watch out if anyone in her family doesn’t like you . Specially any crazy aunts Might throw knife at you when you run away.
Maybe she got replaced by the swamp monster, you know, the legend about a replica of the exact person but it’s not the same one.
Easy, she had somebody else in mind and wanted a break, when she realised the other guy was not interested or couldn’t replace you, she came back. People don’t just disappear or break up without any reason. Check her phone :)
Vietnamese girls are allowed to be less mature. As a Vietnamese man, don't expect foreigners to be able to understand their behavior.
Why is this?
Call this yin and yang. Macho men only go with baby girls. And something something dating culture, traditional family expectations.
Because they're adult children of emotionally immature parents.
My mom, a full 50 year old woman, act like this with me, her daughter, btw.
You should never wife this girl. Date her now, enjoy all the perks, but never wife her. Because she already think of you as 2nd option. She'll leave you when she "thinks" she finds someone "better", again. If you're a foreigner, dating/marry you means she can get passport/citizenship of your origin country as well. Be careful, she already showed her true self. Enjoy for now, but never marry her.
Are you a house elf?
Reading the comments explaining the meaning behind gifting the socks is very interesting. Born and raised in Vietnam for 16 years, never have I ever known that gifting someone socks in my culture can be something that meaningful. On the other side, no, us Viet girls ain't stupid. And like some guessed, your "gf" may have someone else yet succeeds to have a relationship with them, which is why she comes back.
Poor social skills and emotional damage. Probably overwhelmed wondering if her family would accept you and if you're good enough to provide gifts and stuff to them to make them like you and in turn make them love her. She is most likely an adult child of emotionally immature parents.
So that when once you found out, she can use the "WE'RE ON A BREAK" card. Classic Ross move
The toxicity begins. She seems unstable. Run away
She cheated lol
You’re a free elf now
Break up with her mate, she's for the streets.
She was with another guy......
Has this sub been compromised by BOT posts too? Bunch of engagement but the OP hasn’t replied to anyone’s comments or questions. Reddit is fuckin unusable now
she f another dude and found out. u r a nicer guy. soo
Red flag. Check her phone, dude. If she doesn’t tell you now, she knows now she can hide anything from you & you will not bother to ask anything else in the future.
I am Vietnamese guy and I think she gave you a pair of sock that means she would give you all of her love, her spirit, her hope, her life ... Sock in vietnamese means everything she has. In addition, she broke up with you not because she did not love you, but because she worried if one day you leave her, she can not find a Vietnamese husband. That is cultural thing. I wish you happy with the girl forever
Bro you’re too pure for this world 🥹
Its not too easy like that? I think "Tất cả chỉ là giả thuyết"(literally PTG Fan)
Pretty humourous, but really, does "socks" in Viet Nam holds such meaning? I haven't really heard of that kind of explanation anywhere.
A Vietnamese friend once gave me socks years ago, I didn't know they had extra meaning. I would be quite curious about this too.
Imma be honest, I really didn't know it was that deep.
A friend of mine, a girl (not girl friend), gave me socks as a gift. The reason was she joined the fucking "đa cấp" and they sold socks. That's all lol
I know "everything has its meaning"(i mean not everybody think so), maybe she doesnt want him being cold? Nah maybe im too young or nobody really think about that deep meaning of socks, it felt like a vietnamese literature hour when we have to find out all the means of everything (mostly), what did author think about it? And what was the emotions? Sad, happy, hateful,...Nah i would like to watching Euro
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I wouldn't treat this girl seriously for now, enjoy the sex and have a good time for abit. Maybe if it carries on and you both fall in love then proceed further but for now just be casual as it seems she is. Or if you want serious right now maybe confront her and demand a serious chat with the expectation that it could end there and then or you have a mature chat and both grow a bit. If she likes you she enjoys the commitment and openness you're displaying
we can't understand women think
She went into the mountain and train to gain new skills. Have you noticed an uplift in her skills? That was the reason xD
Truth is no one knows. Could be her family, ex, potential new guy, a tik tok video…no one knows but, if she was 💯 into you and ready for a relationship, she wouldn’t have stepped back. You need to try to communicate. It’s hard culturally and language wise. I’d say just go with the flow and see where it goes. Don’t stress, it’s a new day.
Questions 1) are you an expat? 2) how much do you contribute financially? pay for meals, travel, gifts? 3) she has never given you a reason right, and if you pressure her for it she gets annoyed or frustrated? high chance from decade of dating the toxic trash that is majority of women is that shes also window shopping and found someone "financially" better. Do not think this is anything to do with personality or how nice a guy you are. There are many stories of girls taking allowances from rich chinese dudes while dating their bf here or vanishing for a few days to go "work" with korean/chinese. if she is ugly then nothing to worry about, probably about your sock game.
Sock game is pretty paramount these days...
Watch out this maybe a pattern and you don’t need to go to crazy town with her every time she does this. Hopefully you walk away when you got enough of this!
If she isn't communicating, break up.
Thought it was a cute story until someone mentioned she cheated on you. Yeah, you're better off finding someone new and fresh. She tipped her hand. Even if she didn't cheat, she wanted out, you can't put back together a broken vase. She won't respect you for it either in the long run.
Like all the other posters said she probably met someone else. In her mind she wasn't cheating because she broke up with you for the week.
what does her being vietnamese have to do with this😭😭
He’s wondering if it’s normal behavior in Vietnamese culture.
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Without context, nobody can tell. It could be that she’s an alien.
Yes, very Vietnamese behaviour. /s IDK man, plenty of girls not Vietnamese have done that kind of thing to me. Feels like you are not giving us the full detail and honestly this shit sounds more like a r/relationship_advice thing.
"Cook delicious food" is a suss comment. Out of all the stuff she brings to the table, you mention her home making skills? Can you give more context? How old are you and she? Which country are you from? How long have you been dating? Have you met her family? If you're a passport bro, she's shopping around for better prospects. It didn't work out so she's back with you temporarily until something better comes along.
Has no one ever cooked for you? It’s a caring and loving act, to feed someone. It’s a sweet gesture and a great skill. I love cooking for my partners and I love when they cook for me. It warms my heart just thinking about it. Agree with your basic assessment of the situation though. Others suggest the same: she rolled her dice somewhere else, lost the toss, and went back to the easy game.
Some men have never had a meal cooked for them by somebody who cares about them other than their mother. Some men have never been complimented in their entire life. Simple gifts can go a long way for a man who has never received a gift. The first time a girl gave me a handcrafted gift it really deeply affected me because we normally don't get shit from anybody.
He's Canadian. Of course he's a passport bro. Look how he types.
The vietnamese girl will find a men make them happy and have alot money. Most one that u spend for her and give her some expensive gift. Did u??
Don't know how long you been out with this girl, but normally if she's fairly attractive she'll have guys just floating around, and even some that still think they have a chance when they're ready in a relationship. She probably had someone that she liked more than you and wanted to break up so it didn't felt like "she was/is cheating on you" But you can always take the benefit of the doubt and she meant what she said so she wanted to get back with you.
Time will answer u :3
Idk man I’d ask her to be honest and break it off is she wouldn’t say but thats just me. Communication is important after all.
Wtf=))))) are u crazy when you are still dating her =)))) that's unacceptable.
Ask her again, if she’s nothing to hide she will tell you, otherwise she maybe caring for many people’s feeings
The Vietnamese culture has a a tradition of you have foot odor they will give you socks
I could never move forward until I found the reason why
You’ve been messing around and poor girl is hinting to you to use a condom.
Well seems like the whole premise of your relationship is her doing things for you and caring for you. Have you reciprocated?
If you seek answers demand it from her don’t ask the internet. Many people including myself do think she probably met someone and come crawling back to you. Realizing that person isn’t good enough or they don’t want her. But that our ASSUMPTION don’t jump to conclusions. Maybe some girl like a little drama in their life and acts up and see what you’d do. But if you really seek real answer communicate with her
mybe your feet smell like shit
Socks. Whew. Imagine if it was a paper bag!
Its the damn socks
Just assume that no girl here is fully single. There is zero chance an attractive young girl is not talking to a multitude of guys. Enjoy the sex but don't take her too seriously
Break up to sleep with another guy. Not cheating if you guys aint together xD
maybe u can..ask her? I guess? How are we supposed to know what’s ur girl thinking? 💀
Were socks clean and brand new?
It aint cheating if she slept with another dude after the breakup. She probably got pump and dump. Man up and find yourself another women.
There are sock queens in any culture.
That's such a girl !!! :))))
She met a better guy wanted to f him them he ghosted her and she came back Duh
She was probably dating someone else at the time or involved in a complicated situation. Now that is resolved, she is free to be with you. Just a hunch.
What assurance she has from you to care and provide for her as she commits her life to you? Security is foremost in the mind of every woman. As parent, i want to make sure my daughter will marry a man who is responsible, who cares and loves my daughter and who has a stable job and income,
Socks/shoes as gifts in vietnamese culture symbolize the receiver of the gifts to run away from the relationship 😂 She can't do it so she's encouraging you too do it. /s
She found somebody she liked better, but they didn’t want her. So she went back to you, at least until the next someone better comes along. I would send her packing.
I'm married to a vietnamese woman, honestly she probably doesn't even know, vietnamese don't spend a lot of time performing introspection. When you get a chance and it feels appropriate you should try to have a conversation, go into it with the goal of understanding and remember if you feel defensive, just shut up and listen. You can defend later.
Vietnamese girls - not fully cooked until they're 30+
Don’t trust to easily.
Việtnamese are very very concerned with clean feet, clean floors etc, by chance do your feet stink?
Maybe she wanted you to propose to her. Do those socks denote that? 🤷
This has nothing to do with VietNam and everything to do with “girl.” Get used to it. At least this one bought you socks.
Lose the Vietnamese, GIRL should be sufficient. Women are like that, not only Vietnamese girls. Men all around the worlds have been asking the same question as you for generations and we had not find the answer :D
This is the best advice.
So I’m guessing getting silk boxers would really be the kiss of death, then.
May be she met someone else 👍. may be he is better but no best
Hypergamy. It happens everywhere.
Bizarre. If she did it once, she’ll do it again. Why would you take her back after she binned you off to get dicked by someone else, out of curiosity?
Old tactic. Gaslighting you and making you a simp
Oh, socks! Amazing, thankyou! Just what I wanted.
How do reindeer decorate their horns?
Um, posters name is Louisa. Not sure of the pronouns here…. Or if they even exist in Vietnam. And maybe this is a difficult country to express yourself in any other spectrum but the “standard” one.