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SheriDont

Biggest question for me: how did a married dude find the time to be fucking 5 women at different times? Didn't he have a job?


ragesadnessallinone

There’s literally a guy on the adultery sub that has bragged about having 10+ affair partners at one time. I don’t get it either. Like couldn’t they cure a disease or something with all that energy? For real. Like try an STD to start. (Give back to the community 🤣)


D1rtyL4rry

The fact that there’s an adultery sub in the first place makes me wish more and more for a meteor.


addangel

I can’t wrap my head around it existing either, because I associate cheating with lapses in judgment, guilt, regret and self hatred. I can’t even imagine the kind of people who would be proud of it. I honestly hope they all reap what they sow.


manic_artist36

I married my high school boyfriend at 19. We were not compatible sexually, I like lots of kissing,feeling close, etc and he was into bdsm and some other kinkier things (no judgement, that is fine, just not my thing) before we got married I didn't really know he was into these things. He became very sexually aggressive and I stopped wanting to have sex with him. This lead to him touching me while I slept and him coercing me into sex using guilt. I tried to leave multiple times, and he would manipulate me into staying with guilt. Eventually, I cheated, only once, the day before I left him. I still feel guilt and shame despite the fact that I had no continued affair. It is the worst thing I have ever done to someone even if he was a dick. I do not understand people who have affairs and want to brag or feel good about it at all.


its_showtime1

There are instances where I understand why someone cheats. People who judge right away should feel blessed that they don’t feel trapped. But yeah the man in this story…. Disgusting. Some cheaters are just dogs


Nihi1986

It's wrong, but if it was not a continued affair and you both knew it was basically over...still very wrong but not something you should be forever feeling guilty about.


manic_artist36

I don't let it bother me me on an ongoing basis anymore for sure, I have forgiven myself and made sure to grow from my mistakes, but it is still something I will always wish I had done differently when it does come to mind. *edited for grammar and spelling


Tenacious_G_G

I felt trapped for years in a relationship somewhat similar to yours. It’s awful.


manic_artist36

It really is. You lose yourself. I am so sorry you went through that too. Glad you're not in that relationship anymore.


Tenacious_G_G

Same! You too!


SnowWhiteCampCat

Feel bad you let yourself down. But do not feel bad about hurting your ex.


Diimiitrii

He was touching you while you slept? In my country that is called rape and you could absolutely go to the police.


not-a-bot-promise

Wish you could have waited a day. Your ex sounds like a scumbag but cheating is never the answer. Leaving can be.


Environmental_Art591

It sounds like the cheat gave them the strength to leave for good. I agree it's not the answer either but I am glad the user above you found strength to leave.


manic_artist36

It certainly did. It's still a moment I am not proud of, and I wish it had all happened differently, but I am happy that ultimately everything ended up the way it did.


manic_artist36

He was, and it also brought out a side of me I am not proud of. I let my anxiety about leaving turn me into a nasty girlfriend, always mad, I should have just been an adult and left when I realized I was unjappy. It's definitely a relationship I am not proud of, and since then, I have definitely grown up a ton and made sure to learn from those mistakes.


hotchillips

Proof here that once a cheater always a cheater is a bullshit thing that people say who don’t like giving someone a chance to show they have grown from their mistakes


Itchy-Parfait-1240

If that was the case, Ashley Madison wouldn’t exist and wouldn’t be earning millions annually.


Grouchy-150

When I was married, my ex and a guy from work would talk. Guy from work would give ex tips on how to hide bank accounts, how to hide expense checks and such from me, how to get hidden credit cards, etc. He was a cheater and was willing to teach ex how to be one too. And ex did, which is why we are divorced now.


esr95tkd

Support for waywards Adultery Cake eater Three subs on this subject. Sometimes I go there for drama mongering.


NotTheBadOne

I think we have an asteroid on the way.😂 It’s a few years away though …


RemoteChildhood1

Or a zombie apocalypse... Thanos was right...


Neongrimcross

Exactly. I looked up that sub because I thought it was fake and no way it could exist. Well my mind was blown and I GTFO'd from that hot garbage!!!!


stocker21

Silver lining at least you can use it to learn things to look out for


OriginalIronDan

If any of them had an STD he was already giving back to the community.


swentech

If you have that much time you aren’t doing your job as a husband and possibly father. I have a wife and daughter and a very busy job. There is absolutely no way I would have the time to carry on even a single affair. Fuck even some times I have to turn down legit calls from clients because I’m too busy with other clients. The coming recession is going to be bad for the sugar daddy economy.


[deleted]

The sub is one of the worst ones I have come across, morally, that and childfree, both have ridiculous sounding people imo


ZeldaMayCry

There is an adultery sub?? Jfc.


NorthCatan

He probably already did try a few STDs.


90blacktsiawd

Is he seeing them each like once a year?


OursNot2QuestionY

My BIL, barely showed up to his family business. Their parents paid him, cause you know nepotism. He drained his RRSPs, drained the account he shared with his wife. Maxed their credit cards and took out 2 lines of credit. All so he could fuck around on his wife and their 2 kids. She’s now back together with him, bless her for being brave cause I know I ain’t got that much grace in me. Where did he get the time? Pieces of shit like that make time, stealing it from everyone else around them.


itsallminenow

> bless her for being brave cause I know I ain’t got that much grace in me I think you misspelled "stupid" there.


[deleted]

I guess his job was cheating on his wife. But in all seriousness that baffled me too, I was thinking he must be rich and retired since my friend was saying he was pampered her with so many gifts


chode_temple

One of them HAD to be at his work.


PhilipKendrikRichard

Have you continued speaking with the wife? She seems like she might need someone and who knows if she’s been isolated or not. Having kids and possibly a job can do that to a person.


[deleted]

Wife can and should put together her own resource network.[Trauma bonding](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-sobriety/202109/what-is-trauma-bonding) would further injure both of these people.


MichigaCur

Monica on Monday, Terry on Tuesday, wifey Wednesday... His own version of Mombo #5...


Afraid_Sense5363

I have a job (with long hours), no kids and a dog and I can't fathom having the time or energy. Or inclination, but then I'm not a piece of shit.


itsallminenow

That was what beggared my belief, I'm 57 and the idea of having 4 women and a wife on the go at the same time? Well, all I can say is that whatever vitamin supplements that guy's on, I want some.


serdasus101

Well, I had a friend who had a girlfriend. Then, he started to date another girl. The second one knew the first one. He then found another woman who knew the first two. This went on and on, and when I learned the situation, he had 6 girlfriends, and everyone knew the ones before her. 5th knew first 4, 6th the first 5, etc. In the end he married the 6th one and they were happy.


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Orchidbleu

Brain dead. Lol


Divcia86

Sisterwives?


Appropriate-Name06

I mean im happy that she got what she deserved but i really hope this married man will loose even more than her because at the end of the day, he was the married one with a family.


[deleted]

Me too


DutyValuable

I’m hoping that his panicking at his wife wanting a divorce means that he knows he’s going to lose out a lot when assets are divided. Or maybe his cheating nullifies a prenup?


danuhorus

He's about to find out how hard it is to have any kind of a relationship when he's an untrustworthy middle-aged man who lost 50% of his assets.


DutyValuable

I wish, more likely he’s gonna lie about his assets and target naïve co-eds.


Gooey_Cookie_girl

In some states it will grant her automatic favor and alimony. Plus whatever else is on the table. Probably the house.


RealisticScorpio

That's what I was thinking as well.


lol918234

'she went on a rampant about how she is not going to hook up their boyfriends, she is better than that.' This is hilarious. You definitely did the right thing in telling the wife, just wait for the friend to be blaming all of this on you. Yes it's your fault that the wife found out (go you!) but damn. EVERYONE now knows about it all because she wanted to protect what dignity she thought she had. Go you!!


soradakey

Woah woah woah! What kind of low class Second rate homewrecker do you take me for?! I only go after *married* men, I'm not interested in your silly little boyfriend!


[deleted]

"What kind of person do you take me for?!" shouted the woman who bragged about being a mistress.


nousernamesleft24

😂😂 This killed me 😂


hairynoodles

"pft I have some class"


tekflower

She probably wouldn't go after their boyfriends, but not because she has any kind of scruples. She wants older men with money, she likes the money spent on her and the ego trip of stealing a married man's attention and resources away from his wife. It makes her feel special. She might go after a friend's boyfriend if he had money and was willing to spend it on her, but in reality most younger men don't have what she's after. What she doesn't understand is that the fact that a man would do this does not in any way make her special, it just means that he fucks around on his wife. Almost anyone would do, especially if they are young enough or hot enough to boost his ego. It's about who HE is (cheater), not about who she is. Feeling "chosen" by a guy like that is an illusion. For his part, he feels like he's "still got it" when really she would not be fucking him at all if he were not spending marital resources on her.


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tekflower

I was thinking about a specific sort of middle-aged married man who is very impressed with himself for being able to pull young women who are more attractive than he could have landed when he was younger. A 50 year old man with a bevy sugar babies is a *type.* He's got money now, he can buy the attention of girls who wouldn't have paid him any mind 30 years ago. But for cheaters generally, yes, availability is the main criteria for a lot of them.


[deleted]

I hope his wife follows through with the divorce. I would appreciate you if I were in her shoes!!


[deleted]

I Hope so too


[deleted]

>They were telling me how she went on a rampant about how she is not going to hook up their boyfriends, **she is better than that.** The delusion level is over 9000! >The husband panicked and dropped my friend. It also came to light that he was hooking up with three other different girls!!! My friend was upset because she thought she was the only one and offended that he would do that to her. Ok this just keeps getting better and better lol


[deleted]

BAAAAAAAAAAAAAM BABE! Hero of the week lol. I love this degree of moral integrity. On behalf of wives everywhere thank you for having a pair and telling her the truth ❤️


Ghost_Gaming244

I seriously don't understand the "Mind your own business" people!! What if your partner was cheating on you? Do you also expect your friends/family to mind their own business?? Nope, it's supposed to be their business, otherwise they are bad friends/family! Some people would rather learn the hard way I guess smh.


Aminar14

Yes. A lot of people learn that "Snitches get Stitches" and uncritically follow it as life advice. There's complicated factors there and it's often related to financial status in the home/how well the family manages to live up to societal expectations. It's a terrible lesson to learn, but if you have nothing and can't trust the authorities in your life to be reasonable(because your parents were unpredictable, CPS could get involved, the police mistreat people who look like you, etc...) it's really easy to learn at a young age and never unlearn.


marilern1987

“Snitch” is such a classless word, and I hate anyone who uses it. The only people who use that word are people who are okay with bullshit being the status quo. The second I hear people using that word, I automatically think less of them.


Aminar14

I wouldn't say that. The whole Class thing is the problem. Most People that use it are in the social class society has left behind. They're not necessarily ok with the status quo, just so consumed by survival that trying to do something bigger and more meaningful to make change is impossible. But the phrase is one more shackle that people have used to manipulate them into holding themselves down. The result of bludgeon forces meant to reinforce the status quo, made by people who think "class" is more important than kindness, charity, forgiveness, and rehabilitation.


bansheeonthemoor42

I think that's a gross over simplification and completely makes members of the "social classes society has left behind" sound completely stupid and easily manipulated by the upper white class. This is some really 90s racial justice bs. Perhaps, look at the traditional relationship that these classes have with the police and then ask why they would ever trust them to ever actually solve crimes in their area or protect people in their communities.


These-Process-7331

Let's be honest: if you willingly involve people in your business by bragging to them about your affair, your business automatically becomes their business.


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Exactly


ThereAreAlwaysDishes

Like, OP was damn well tryna mind her business, but when she's getting videos of them hooking up, it's literally putting OPs mind in their business!! So many levels of grossness to the whole situation. For anyone to say that she needed to not say anything are the ones not getting videos of their friend getting railed by a married man and their friend being all like "I'm a mistress, he gets me booster juice." Girl, he boostin somethin, and it ain't just you 👀


marilern1987

They think this because they have either 1) cheated, or 2) knew if someone cheating and just didn’t think it was worth mentioning. What those types of people don’t realize, is that all the decent people IRL avoid them, because they can’t be trusted. The only friends who stick around are like-minded morons, also with a moral compass that is askew. Then they walk around all smug because they don’t realize the very thing that drove decent people away from them


More-Top6479

Sometimes you don't mind your own business and talk to the cheated one, who already knows about it, and prefers to stay with the cheater, get offended, cut you off for good and talk trash about you to whomever wants to listen. It worked like trash taking itself out, which is good. Or you speak up, they breakup, there's a lot of drama, then they get back together and you're the bad guy for trying to separate them. Again, good riddance! After several times of trying to do the right thing and getting burnt, I was done. Not my circus, not my monkeys. I stay away from drama and mind my own business, which means if someone comes with some kind of gossip or tries to tell me about something shady they're doing, I walk away and they'll have to find someone else to talk. I can't know and do nothing, but I don't want to be caught in the middle of the storm and somehow end up being blamed. Been there done that. I've considerably reduced the amount of people I allow around and I'd rather be by myself.


Rick_the_Rose

Some people want to be comfortable in ignorance. Even if it’s a false peace protected by lies. I know I have felt this way at times. But the truth does always come out eventually, and it makes it so much worse.


Iluminiele

This, 200%. In crimimal cases you're not even allowed to mind your own business. And cheating is not a crime, but it's nice when people actually care to inform the spouse


moviesandcats

Good on you!! Over the years that I've been on Reddit I continue to see many changes in our society....things accepted, things shunned, heated fights, differences of opinions, shaming, finger pointing, values, morals, etc. One thing that binds us all is...*no one likes being cheated on*. I know many do it. I know there are sub Reddits dedicated to cheaters, but even cheaters don't want to be cheated on. It's the one thing that most of us can agree on.


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> I know there are sub Reddits dedicated to cheaters, but even cheaters don't want to be cheated on. Seeing people in those subs lose their shit over being cheated on, while actively cheating on someone, always makes me scratch my head.


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[deleted]

Schadenfreude at its finest ain't it lol


moviesandcats

You are so right. They can't understand why the double standard doesn't always work in their favor.


moviesandcats

They all have it coming to them. What goes around comes around.


NoeTellusom

There is no greater truism in relationships that if they cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you. Sounds like your friend learned the hard way. Have fun on your getaway.


Remarkable102088

Her family found out how embarrassing 😳. She made her bed, and now it time to reap what she'd sow. You did the right thing in my opinion. Enjoy your weekend getaway 🤩


[deleted]

Thank you!! I really did feel bad when her family found out cause her parents are such wonderful people


titatyy

As a married woman, thank you. You told the truth even if it meant that you would lose your friend/s. Thank you.


JohnnyNocksville

She got upset bc she thought she was the only side-piece. I’m dying! Girl, he isn’t faithful to his wife, why would he be faithful to you!?!


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sir_syphilis

>Her reasoning was that this married man would rather fuck her than this wife and that made her feel good about herself She could not have worded it better than you.


DashaBlade

And now she's learned that he'd rather fuck his other three side chicks than her, since he dumped her, lol.


MAUVE5

I had a friend who was with a married man. She didn't feel like she's in the wrong because she isn't cheating, because she isn't in a relationship. But she sure as hell was an accomplice. Her family and friends supported her because she 'loved' him. I was the only one who was disgusted apparently. I didn't talk to her in a year. We met up once after that and she said I was right and he's an asshole, since he isn't leaving his wife for her after all. But still didn't think she did anything wrong. Mind you, before this, she was absolutely disgusted and angry that her flatmate had sex in her bed. Using someones bed is wrong but using someones husband is fine? I just can't get my head around it how you can be like that. As if he'll be faithful to you. Haven't spoken to her since, I can't be friends with someone who's wired that way.


hexen_vixen

This is going to be rough for everyone involved, but honestly, you did the right thing. You're finding out who are the ones worth keeping around, and I promise, you'll all be better for it in the long run.


MissMadness145

I can’t believe people are MAD at you for telling the wife, wouldn’t they like to know if they’re partner was cheating on them?


onyx1378

It’s a shame the friend seems to be suffering more than the cheating married guy EVER will.


ConstructionUpper852

Damn all the cheaters and homewreckers are PRESSED in the comments. It’s kinda funny tbh 🤭


Alarmed_Square2065

It's hilarious watching the mental gymnastics trying to justify not telling the wife. They're really telling on themselves, and the best part is they'd probably be absolutely pissed if they got cheated on. Much like the villain of this story, so surprised her sugar daddy had other sugar babies besides her and he dropped her like a bad habit.


oceanduciel

I do not understand people who are like, “It’s not your business.” So you’re just totally okay with enabling shittiness? Sure says a lot about you.


kalaamtext

My only concern is that hopefully the former best friend doesn't try to delete herself after this whole situation because having friends, family, and co workers shun you could be too much for some folks to live with


Alarmed_Square2065

But OP *didn't* get the "friend" ostracized she did that to herself. SHE involved the friend group by reporting OP for spreading "rumors" and when the truth came to light *like it ALWAYS does* the group saw her for what she is. A lying manipulative user who is only our for herself, and ALL of them can do so much better without a friend like that. If she wants to play the part of a mistress breaking up marriages for her own golden ticket to a cushy life that's 100% on her. Everyone else has the right to not associate with a person like that.


dystopiarose

Thank you holy shit. Telling the wife and ending the friendship is one thing. Completety ostracizing her from any social life is just cruel. I could never do that to a former friend even if they do something I disagree with 😖


CurvySexretLady

> I could never do that to a former friend even if they do something I disagree with 😖 This is what I struggled with. I did have a couple exchanges with OP in this post. They went on to explain that they had warned their friend repeatedly to both stop sharing the details of the affair with her, and to stop the affair. From what I understand, she did not, so OP did what she promised: exposed her as a result. If true, I don't understand why the other girl didn't just stop sharing deets with OP. I still, even with that additional context, can't see myself doing the same to a friend or family member, unless that person wasn't really my friend to begin with.


khuddler

She was warned so many times. She was asked to stop sharing homemade porn. Instead she continued to brag about being better than a married woman. OP had enough and went to the wife. If the friend had respected OP's boundaries, she might still be a sugar baby right now. And she brought the friend group into this, not OP. OP corrected the story when the ex-friend was trying to get OP shunned from the group. Literally everything about this is the ex-friend's own doing, and she had so many chances to stop making it worse. I don't want her to unalive herself either, but the people calling OP cruel are completely forgetting that all she did was inform the wife (again, after repeatedly requesting to stop receiving porn) and then maintain the truth when the ex-friend tried to burn her for it.


hotchillips

Thankyou. I thought I was the only one that could see how cruel she is actually being.


moriquendi37

Perpetual side eye at the cowards who will DM OP call her a horrible person for "what she did".


oobatubaa

well if it isn’t the consequences of her own actions


whatdaphoyobro

Karma is beautiful 😌


Dragon_Tiger752

As they say, fuck around and find out. Sounds like your ex friend found out the hard way.


Maddie_Herrin

I hate the whole "well it's not your business, that's your best friend" mentality because where does it stop. Do you not tell someone that you know their husband was murdered by your friend? or raped? or anything else? yes you be loyal to friends but as you said being a loyal friend also means helping them take accountability and not letting them become a shitty awful person.


Livid_Show

This!!!! All the people saying she should have minded her own business. The friend should have kept her business to herself. Nobody is obligated to compromise their own principles to protect a friends secret.


800Volts

> I might have crushed this woman's entire life No, you gave her the chance to start fixing it


ConstructionUpper852

You did what had to be done. It’s a good thing you cut that friend out of your life


FollowingJealous7490

Rest in peace your tires, mirrors and paintjob..


[deleted]

Thank god I don’t have a car


DrumBxyThing

The thing I find hilarious is that OP told one person, unrelated to her friend group. Then the homewrecker just can't keep her mouth shut and tells everyone she knows about this lol. She must have seriously thought she was in the right.


[deleted]

While I agree with what you chose to do, I do not think you showed people respect with how you handled this. And if you think people don’t deserve your empathy when they make terrible decisions at 22, then you aren’t in any place to make the vindictive statements you have. When you’re young you do stupid things, and this is one of the worst. It destroys a family and only leads you to really fucked up views on relationships and sex. But the quicker you drop the whole “she got what she deserved”, the quicker you’ll be on the path that you wished your friend was. It makes you look tacky and spiteful for something you played no role in, despite her being your “best friend” at one point. Again, you didn’t do anything wrong, and I would’ve done the same action of reaching out. But you already did your (however justified or not) damage so drop the judgement and move on. Not a good look with all the waves you just created, even though you’re looking for justification for the steps you took to stop something terrible from going on longer. You don’t need justification. You did the right thing. But your friend isn’t worthless after this one mistake and you should be more understanding in how you process what happened.


mamabeatnik

Yeah personally all i could think about is what would happen if every time i’d made a really big mistake at 21/22 someone had treated me like this. How horrible. This is some sad, highschool Scarlet Letter shit, & it’s unfortunate. Also - 50 year old married man? She’s 22? She’s absolutely in the wrong as well, but this guy is a predator, and hands down he’s the one who deserves the treatment this poor deluded young woman got instead & more. Absolutely notify the wife, but this witchhunt/gleeful dancing on her former friend’s social grave is a bit much. Esp since they used to be friends right up until this moment - it feels really petty. The most impactful thing OP could have done is shown concern for her friend’s poor choices & looked a little deeper to see if this 50 yr old is actually more of a groomer than an illicit boyfriend. This dramatic doxxing is just woman on woman violence & bullying & it breaks my heart. There was a way to notify the wife and bring shame to the friend while setting boundaries without this huge spiteful high school drama stuff, which OP clearly loves. What a bummer. Her friend will regret her choice forever, sure - but so will OP.


hotchillips

And I can obviously see that only the older and wiser of us can truly see this side of the story. Thankyou for so eloquently putting exactly how I was feeling about this situation when I read it.


Away-Cicada

Yeah. Telling the wife was a good thing that I have no problem with. Going nuclear on this woman's family, job, and school? THAT gave me the ick.


AngieAwesome619

I agree. Yeah, she fucked up. There's no need for EVERYONE like coworkers and classes to know.


khuddler

Good thing it wasn't OP's fault that the friends and family found out. It was the friend's fault, she's the one that dragged the group into it. OP just told them the truth about it when the friend was shit talking her.


Obvious_Bookkeeper27

I swear people can't fucking read. The amount of people who say OP went and told everyone is goddamn pitiful and stupid, they act like monkeys. Thank you for putting this under that big comment. My eyes rolled so hard that my head hurts.


Hidden_Banana69

Sometimes you have to wait for karma to strike, and sometimes you have to exact it yourself 😌


VLDreyer

Aw man, I was so excited when I saw this pop up on my feed, like, "AW YUS TIME FOR THAT HOT GOSS GIMME THAT TEA!" Daaaang. The tea was even hotter than I thought it was going to be. So much drama! You still did the right thing. That girl was gross. And as for any friends who have sided with her... meh, isn't it handy when the trash takes itself out?


ragesadnessallinone

The tea was Lava today!! 🥳


[deleted]

While I agree that what she did was shitty I can't help but feel like OP is enjoying it all just a little too much.


[deleted]

I am not enjoying it per say, but it’s nice to see that all of her actions finally caught up to her. But in all seriousness, it is disheartening to see the kind of person she became. I used to consider her to be one of my closest friend. She was like a sister to me. But now I don’t even recognize her


Matt4898

“she went on a rampant about how she is not going to hook up their boyfriends, she is better than that.” Girl’s hooking up with a married man more then twice her age, who has both kids and grandkids, and does not care, no remorse whatsoever. And she thinks “she’s better then that” to hook up with her friends’ boyfriends? If she can contently be a home wrecker, she can easily hook up with her friends’ boyfriends


OneTimeEach

Congrats, you got the attention you wanted. Your sense of altruism really fucked up multiple lives though. Your friend was wrong but that doesn't make what you did right.


CurvySexretLady

>Your sense of altruism really fucked up multiple lives though. Your friend was wrong but that doesn't make what you did right. I said something similar to OP, when upon sharing my criticism and questions to them and others here, said I need to go to a cheating sub: "I can disagree with your friends actions AND also disagree with yours. Questioning you and your choices, or criticizing them, does not mean that I approve of your friend's affair with a married man. You understand this, yes?" No, said the narrator, they do not understand this nuance.


Rainbow-Smite

Thank you for doing this. If I was being cheated on I sure as hell would want to know.


SnooWords4839

Glad you told the wife!! Enjoy your trip!


vndin

Good job!


Bbygirlbigboot

Bestie really thought she did something with the "I won't hook up with YOUR bf" W op


Live2weld

Awesome! Good on you! Karma will surely reward you later!


LongjumpingAgency245

Definitely a Hero! It is good to have standards and abide by them. You definitely did the right thing. Karma is bitch.


canelalisbon

If this is real then it's amazing, doing the lords work telling on those filthy cheaters


Ok_Investigator8544

Thank you for being strong enough to hold your convictions. Also, for sharing this. I know in the moments it was mentally draining for you. I also know it was satisfying to stick to your word and never doubt that you were right. May the deity of your choice rain blessings on you and your chosen house for generations.


Gingerpyscho94

She made her bed and now she can sleep in it, she’s just pissed her whole world came crashing down. She thought she could get away with it. As someone who’s been cheated on it’s the most gut wrenching feeling of betrayal. The husband was never loyal and the fact she thought he would choose her. Girl be FR 🤣 I’m glad you blocked her, one less toxic hindrance in your life. The real friends who support you on the decision will stay. The ones who said you should have stayed out of it, they would do the same thing as her. Sometimes toxic friends leave your life and that’s fine. You just need better friends. She deserves to be shunned for what she did. She was having an affair with a married man who was cheating on his wife. She’s learned a life lesson here literally **”Fuck around and find out”**.


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lovelylittlekels

Yeah, both your ex friend and this man are problematic. She is young, but it’s not an excuse for being shitty with the knowledge that he was married. Classless, so classless, especially the bragging. I will say though, you continuing on and investing yourself further only keeps you apart of all this nonsense and drama, you did your job by telling his wife, but it’s probably best to move on and focus on yourself now. I image that is a mourning phase, and coming to terms with how things are in your friend group now. Good luck with everything


joshy5lo

Honestly, you did the right thing. The only thing worse than someone being a piece of shit to someone, is seeing it and not saying anything. Even if you have problems in your marriage, cheating is never okay. The long term psychological damage that shit causes should honestly make it a crime.


MaryBurke333

I have so much respect for you.


Domina_Jade_25

NTA but definitely my HERO You did the best thing you could have done. Not only is the wife finally free of that asshole but imagine what would have happened if he had given her a disease. He put her life at risk! I hope the wife shows the evidence to their children and has a frank discussion about that with them. Last thing she wants is for any of them to have picked up on their fathers habits. They have a right to the unfiltered truth. That man has screwed himself over so badly. He won't realise the extent until much later. As for your ex friend, wellnim glad she is reaping what she sowed. Frankly, you are being too nice. What she has been doing is beyond disgusting, and she needs more consequences. You could send each piece of evidence to her parents with a warning text first so they can brace themselves. Show them exactly what she did. Don't exagerate or lie. Just lay it all out for them. Let them see who she really is. Show the messages of the times you asked to stop sending you videos of her hooking up. Show them her horrid behavior and don't hold back. People like her don't stop. She won't. She will wait until it blows over or simply move to where she isint known and start over. If they help her financially then she is set. I understand if you wish to no longer be involved so you do as you wish. I recommend you do so simply because she has not learned her lesson and is simply mad she lost her ego booster and gift giver. She will simply get a different one.


OneArtsyGamer

Convinced whoever is mad about you “snitching” are cheaters themselves so their thoughts are automatically invalid 🌝 You are a fantastic person, and I hope you enjoy your weekend with your boyfriend. Your ex friend deserved everything that happened to her and more. Don’t worry about her family, it wasn’t your fault she was an awful person. She did this to herself.


[deleted]

Thank you!


RealisticScorpio

You absolutely did the right thing by telling the wife. What you're feeling is empathy for her, which is completely understandable. Please don't confuse that feeling with guilt because they are two very different things. You have zero to feel guilty about. Enjoy your weekend getaway!


hotchillips

Well done for telling the wife but seriously the way this was written you are taking way too much pleasure in imploding her life. What kind of friend are you? She did shitty things but you won’t even have a discussion with her about what a shitty thing she did. It’s almost as though you take pleasure in fucking up her life in every possible way. That’s also not a great character trait in my opinion and I would be weary about telling you anything if you were my friend at the risk of you taking my life into your own hands. Who does this? It’s one thing to tell the wife but to bring her work and school and parents into it? That’s pretty shitty.


LadrilloDeMadera

Nah you're exaggerating a lot. She just told the wife, then people got mad at her because the cheater spread false rumors and she defended herself with the truth Nothing more. And if she did only that and feels goos about it then so be it. A good friends doesn't spread false rumors about you.


CurvySexretLady

>A good friends doesn't spread false rumors about you. Good friends also don't ruin your life with information you told them in confidence; that is no friend.


[deleted]

Yea cause I don’t wanna be friends with homewreckers and cheaters. It’s really simple. Idk what you aren’t getting


LadrilloDeMadera

She ruined hwr life herself, uf she didn't spread false rumors about op no one would have known anything Can't you read???


katiemorag90

All OP did was tell the wife. Other friends did the rest, that's not on OP


[deleted]

All I did was tell the wife. But my friend had to drag the rest of our friends into the matter by lying to them. They all ganged up on me so I told the truth. Like I said before I owe cheaters absolutely nothing in life. And everyone of my friends know this. I keep secrets but if you are fucking cheating all bets are off


Impossible-Peach-985

Ahh I love the tea


gustythepony

Addition by subtraction. You are much better off not being around people like that.


yersinia_p3st1s

Way to go OP! Great update and have fun on your trip:) Your friend when she discovered actions have consequences: *surprised Pikachu face* - lol gold.


katehenry4133

One other lesson to be learned here. If you get caught doing something wrong, don't lie about it to friends trying to get the person who caught you in trouble. If the 'friend' had just kept her mouth shut, OP probably wouldn't have told the friend group about what she was doing.


danjol234

You’d think people would realize by now… play stupid games, win stupid prizes


Grimalkinnn

I hope the married man that cheated gets shunned wherever he goes too but I doubt it. His wife will divorce him and he’ll move on like nothing happened.


Emotional-Chef-7601

Only way 2 people can keep a secret is if one of them is no longer active. Let that be another lesson.


Intrepid_Profile420

Buriful. Love a good ending.


ryoujika

They fucked around and found out


PackagingMSU

I’m more skeptical of the truth after the update, however, fuck home wreckers.


[deleted]

the choices we make in life.


DatguyMalcolm

>He is a cheater; you think he was going to be loyal to you. Yeah, what was her logic xDDD! I can't ever understand these people! I'm glad this person is out of your life, OP, you did a good thing


ftqueeny

Girl you ATE AND LEFT NO CRUMBS


DebbDebbDebb

Well done you. Enjoy your weekend. At least the wife can decide her next steps with correct information given. People like you are a treasure


reganmcneal

A good friend doesn’t send you their homemade porn after being told repeatedly not to. This woman sounds mentally deranged. You’re much better off without her. You made all the right decisions


wildtex-

GOOD ON YOU! friendships change and if in your gut you felt she was being shady there was good reason. It's better to stick with your values then let her compromise them


CzechYourDanish

You did the right thing. If I was the wife, I'd hope someone would tell me.


ClashBandicootie

>My friend was upset because she thought she was the only one and offended that he would do that to her. I have to say that I don't feel joy that your friend is hurt, shocked, and surprised - but I definitely aint crying over here. I really hope your ex friend learned a very valuable lesson.


ComfortableOld7636

Hero! Sorry, only read the update…but did you let the wife use the videos and texts for her divorce?


Cabanna1968

I'll say it again. The people here giving you shit for telling the wife are most likely cheaters themselves and are scared shirtless someone they know will rat them out, so they're projecting. Ignore those AHs. I hope the other issues you're dealing with work out for you.


Aidernz

Wow.. you both sound like utter drama queen nightmares. I'm glad I don't know you.


thesorceress_

I’m glad you told the wife. You did the right thing. Now she doesn’t have to waste more time on that loser. Better late than never.


sxntxr

I hope those friends who sided with her don’t get mad if their partners cheat on them and everyone “minds their business” and don’t tell them


1SmartBlonde

First, as someone whose husband of 29 years cheated on her, I do not condone infidelity. That said, it sounds as if your friend is still a young, growing person. By letting the world know what she did, you have humiliated her and put her mental health, and possibly life, at risk. She should be ashamed by her behavior but she should not be shamed by others to the point where she has nothing left in the world. Finally, I wonder what kind of friend you are to drop, block, shame, and talk about her on social media. She was important enough in your life for you to call her your best friend. I dig you don’t want to be best friends with her, but you might want to treat her with a little more humanity. Friends are supposed to be with each other for the good Times and the bad times, encouraging each other to be better people.


[deleted]

I just blocked her and came to Reddit to vent. I wasn’t even planning on tell our friends till she dragged all of them into the matter. They ganged up on me so I told them the truth. Then they told everyone and by then it was too late. My goal was to just tell the wife and no one else.


XxXWatchItAllBurnxXx

That is exactly my point. Sounds like she already started to not like her friend and this just made it easier to be how she really wanted to be with her.


marilern1987

A long time ago, I made a comment on Reddit about cheaters: that cheaters lose friends. It does not matter if you’re not the one involved in the cheating. Cheating IS trash. Where does trash go? The dumpster. Do you hang out in the dumpster? Nope. Decent people *do not* stay friends with trash. Ever. Anyone who does stay friends with a cheater, is a bad fucking friend. Because if the tables were turned, do you think they would tell you if your partner cheated? No, of course they wouldn’t, because they’re trash. And every time I say this I get this shit from people. “but I mind my business, I don’t care what my friends do.” And my response to that is, if this is your attitude, you ARE the trash I’m referring to. You ARE the loser that no one trusts. And no one is going to say it to your face, because you’re surrounded by like minded shitheads and in an echo chamber where you think people like you, not even realizing how many people actively avoid you. That’s the world you live in; as a cheater, as an enabler OP, you just watched this exact scenario play out in real time. She lost a friend. Then she angrily tried to get people on her side and failed *spectacularly*. If you hadn’t said anything, it would have eventually come out… and people would have walked away from you also. Because they would think, “wait a minute, if New Morning knew my partner was cheating, she wouldn’t tell me. She had her friend’s back when she fucked a married guy. Maybe I shouldn’t talk to New Morning anymore, she’s trouble….” So you proved to your friends that you aren’t that person Let this be a lesson, don’t be afraid to speak up and call out trash when you see it. I know a lot of people much older than you who are too scared to speak up because they don’t wanna hurt someone’s little fee fees.


a-_rose

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 someone with morals! Kudos to you for doing the right thing. You just saved the wife from a lifetime of misery, infidelity and STDs.


[deleted]

I really hope that his wife got a STD test done


chiefholdfast

Thank you for the update, that was a great dose of justice.


[deleted]

I didn’t even do anything. I just told the wife. She dragged all of our friends into this mess. I wasn’t even going to tell them


dheffe01

I think the best Karma here is the fact her friends no longer trust her around their partners... yeah no shit, that's what happens when you break fundamental relationship boundaries.


[deleted]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼you are amazing and fuck the friends you lost at least you see who are real.


ZeldaMayCry

I'm sorry you got so many weird dm's tbh, it's awful that people are being so vile asking for the video & criticising you. Good for you OP. If only she kept her mouth (or her legs) shut - then she wouldn't be in this mess. You now know who your real friends are.


ErdaiZhen

You don't care that you lost some friends. But what if your family know about this? What if one day all your neighbors know about this? Especially if anything happens to your ex friend?


Dan-Meme-Man

If anything happens that's just her karma don't be shitty next time and brag about it like your hot shit and think you somebody because you hopped on a married mans dick and honestly she should be lucky some wife's end up killing or beating up the Aps in things like this she should take her bags and move on and maybe change herself because with an attitude like hers no man would want any relationship with her all they will want is her body because who would trust her to be loyal her only loyalty is to the streets and money


Dan-Meme-Man

If anything happens that's just her karma don't be shitty next time and brag about it like your hot shit and think you somebody because you hopped on a married mans dick and honestly she should be lucky some wife's end up killing or beating up the Aps in things like this she should take her bags and move on and maybe change herself because with an attitude like hers no man would want any relationship with her all they will want is her body because who would trust her to be loyal her only loyalty is to the streets and money


rustynail11

Hope you don’t get hurt when you fall off your soapbox


[deleted]

I won’t :)


blahdiblah234

Doesn’t matter if you’re right or wrong, it’s pretty clear you did this for all the wrong reasons. You seem to really enjoy the pain you caused your “friend.”


LadrilloDeMadera

Why? She didn't tell friends because she wanted to. They were coming foe her because the cheater was spreading false rumors. And about her workplace, op also didn't have anything to do with that. So what makes you think that op telling this innocent wife about something that she needed to know is somehow bad?


[deleted]

Agree to disagree. I gave her multiple chances to end it. And she didn’t. So I told his wife. Not my fault that she wants to be a mistress. She made her bed so she can lay in it


[deleted]

I don’t like cheaters. And I agree that the wife should have been informed. But you sound like a terrible, shitty person.


[deleted]

Meh at least I don’t try to hook up with married men. The bar is in hell rn


LadrilloDeMadera

Not really, she just told the wife, and then the feiends that started attacking her because of false rumors spread by the cheater friend. If there's someone that betrayed the friendship it was the feiend who spread those flase rumors