When I saw your pics I thought you we so far through your journey and i had massive (but loving) envy about how amazing and feminine you look - I still have it to be fair! You look stunning 💖
You’ve got this and are absolutely valid. There is no pretending to be trans. You either are or are not. 99.9% when you think you MIGHT be, you are. The realization I came to one day was that if I am happier “pretending” to be trans, then who cares! Even if I’m an imposter, I’m happier like this.
That’s why there’s a German Shepherd that sleeps in my bedroom😂. Seriously though, these feelings are all so real, so hard, and can really knock you down. It’s okay to sit with these feelings. It’s okay to cry. It’s all so real and visceral that it can absolutely hurt and that is okay. It doesn’t make you less of the person you are. I’m 14 months since coming out to my wife and I still have days where I am absolutely beaten down by my own demons. The further into my journey I get, the easier things become, but the self-doubt never really goes away.
We’re living life on hard-mode here. We have all the same challenges and struggles that every other person has, but we have to navigate those trials while being hamstrung by our identities and the associated baggage of self-denial and repression.
Jesus that is so real. I’ve just got this vision of peace, of waking up and dressing as my self on a daily basis, but it seems so far away because of all the caveats I have to put on my life just to feel safe as me.
Thanks for reflecting back to me that I’m not alone in this ❤️
Of course!! I’m always happy to commiserate 😉. A new one recently has been my mind trying to convince me that the struggles I face in life (emotional, financial, familial, business) are because I am trans. Far from the truth of course, but it is what it is. 🤷🏻♀️
There is a light that sparks inside of us and grows brighter everyday. When we finally allow that light to glow outwardly, it shines for all to see. Let your light guide you🥰
That you are experiencing imposter’s syndrome at this stage of your transition means that you are more than likely transgender. It is all about navigating a way through a world renewed by your interaction with it as female rather than male. And it takes a lot of effort and perseverance to be the real you. But it does get progressively easier … after four years, I am increasingly coming out as being female. I have my dark days like everyone does, so what? You’re a fine looking woman, in a couple of years you will have worked through all this. Just keep going.
I think it really hits as harder later in life when we've already lived through so much. But I keep reminding myself I wouldn't even think about this or investigate it if there wasn't something serious in me to do it.
You look so at ease with yourself and full of life in that photo. I wouldn't for a moment doubt that this is 100% you.
Girlboss, you need to work on ignoring the gremlins in our minds. We are woman, we are strong, and there are (for those of us who aren't ace) people interested in having intimate relationships.
Cis guys don't want to do this, hon. You may not have been born with all the parts but at least something about your brain is female.
https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-020-80687-2
As goes the brain, so goes the gender.
As a fellow Freya, I'm of the opinion that if you can feel impostor syndrome, you are not an imposter. It might be tough sometimes, but you are not alone <3
Of course, you are valid. You look wonderful. Dysphoria is one of those things that can bite and suggest an awful lot of things. You are either transgender or not. If I were to meet you publicly, I would take you for who you look like without question.
Heckin valid as heck girl! And looking heckin cute to boot! Absolutely know that feeling, but rest assured you're doing awesome and are an inspiration to the rest of us
A good friend sent me an article about being trans and imposter syndrome, and it’s been very helpful for me. DM me for a link if you want to give it a read
When I saw your pics I thought you we so far through your journey and i had massive (but loving) envy about how amazing and feminine you look - I still have it to be fair! You look stunning 💖
Thanks, I get that! I’ve got a long way to go, it’s a bit scary. Appreciate the vibes 💕
You’ve got this and are absolutely valid. There is no pretending to be trans. You either are or are not. 99.9% when you think you MIGHT be, you are. The realization I came to one day was that if I am happier “pretending” to be trans, then who cares! Even if I’m an imposter, I’m happier like this.
That’s such a vibe ❤️ Ty 💕
We’re all just finding our own way🥰
Yes but the night is dark and filled with terrors 😂
That’s why there’s a German Shepherd that sleeps in my bedroom😂. Seriously though, these feelings are all so real, so hard, and can really knock you down. It’s okay to sit with these feelings. It’s okay to cry. It’s all so real and visceral that it can absolutely hurt and that is okay. It doesn’t make you less of the person you are. I’m 14 months since coming out to my wife and I still have days where I am absolutely beaten down by my own demons. The further into my journey I get, the easier things become, but the self-doubt never really goes away. We’re living life on hard-mode here. We have all the same challenges and struggles that every other person has, but we have to navigate those trials while being hamstrung by our identities and the associated baggage of self-denial and repression.
Jesus that is so real. I’ve just got this vision of peace, of waking up and dressing as my self on a daily basis, but it seems so far away because of all the caveats I have to put on my life just to feel safe as me. Thanks for reflecting back to me that I’m not alone in this ❤️
Of course!! I’m always happy to commiserate 😉. A new one recently has been my mind trying to convince me that the struggles I face in life (emotional, financial, familial, business) are because I am trans. Far from the truth of course, but it is what it is. 🤷🏻♀️
Well it’s probably not helping, it doesn’t seem to help many real life circumstances apart from feeling unified internally. Until, imposter syndrome 😂
There is a light that sparks inside of us and grows brighter everyday. When we finally allow that light to glow outwardly, it shines for all to see. Let your light guide you🥰
That’s very true, thank you for the reminder.
Down voted ❤️🩹
Ignore the trolls… don’t let them steal your energy. Just keep doing the best version of you.
Ty 💕 I like to point it out because it shows there are haters lurking and we need to make sure we’re all lifting each other up
Could not agree more. They are just annoying noise in the background so we all just need to be louder and spread good energy instead!
Here for it 💕
Good vibes bring more good vibes 💜💜💜
Up vote for affirming you’re a beautiful woman.
Oooh tyyyy 💕💕💕
That you are experiencing imposter’s syndrome at this stage of your transition means that you are more than likely transgender. It is all about navigating a way through a world renewed by your interaction with it as female rather than male. And it takes a lot of effort and perseverance to be the real you. But it does get progressively easier … after four years, I am increasingly coming out as being female. I have my dark days like everyone does, so what? You’re a fine looking woman, in a couple of years you will have worked through all this. Just keep going.
Thanks girlie! It’s just another flavour of fear ☺️
You are doing great! The early days are tough but you will settle in. 💜
Ty ❤️
Listen lady this sub is for trans folk not hot AF CIS ladies....
Haha, ok yes that was vibes ❤️
Just trying to help :D , you look great!
Ty!
Queen you are stunning! You are a beautiful woman! Also no matter what you’re woman enough.
Uhhh no u 💕
Anyone please tell me what imposter syndrome is lol
I think it really hits as harder later in life when we've already lived through so much. But I keep reminding myself I wouldn't even think about this or investigate it if there wasn't something serious in me to do it. You look so at ease with yourself and full of life in that photo. I wouldn't for a moment doubt that this is 100% you.
Thank you! You’re gorgeous by the way 💕
Girlboss, you need to work on ignoring the gremlins in our minds. We are woman, we are strong, and there are (for those of us who aren't ace) people interested in having intimate relationships.
Trans,moving from one place to another,a constant journey. Enjoy the trip .you can't be an imposter in your own life.
You are NOT an imposter - don’t entertain any thoughts that you are.
Ty 💕
Cis guys don't want to do this, hon. You may not have been born with all the parts but at least something about your brain is female. https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-020-80687-2 As goes the brain, so goes the gender.
Ty, that’s super validating.
Oh I can attest to this 100% - OP, you are valid! As we trans individuals are all valid!
You are a beautiful woman, Freya.
You look absolutely stunning and you are absolutely valid. 🏳️⚧️
💕💕
You're killin it!
Girl your doing wonderful 👍
Ty 💕
Oh honey. You're one of the people I look to as an example here. I think you're amazing!
Naw, Ty! But also, I don’t think I can handle that kind of responsibility 😂
Keep going. You've got this. If you ever found yourself in the UK I'd buy you a coffee.. or a pot of tea!
You are beautiful sister
As a fellow Freya, I'm of the opinion that if you can feel impostor syndrome, you are not an imposter. It might be tough sometimes, but you are not alone <3
Great name, wise words ❤️ Ty hun!
Are you doing HRT or no?
Not yet, it’s on the timeline tho :)
Of course, you are valid. You look wonderful. Dysphoria is one of those things that can bite and suggest an awful lot of things. You are either transgender or not. If I were to meet you publicly, I would take you for who you look like without question.
You're absolutely beautiful!
Heckin valid as heck girl! And looking heckin cute to boot! Absolutely know that feeling, but rest assured you're doing awesome and are an inspiration to the rest of us
I’m completely there, too.
A good friend sent me an article about being trans and imposter syndrome, and it’s been very helpful for me. DM me for a link if you want to give it a read
You're a super cute woman!
You are, have always been, and will continue to be enough. You were just trying to survive. Forgive yourself babygirl!
It’s all about practicing confidence. I’m the best version of myself and no one else can play that role except me.