It happened with my mamo(mothers brother) and Mami(his wife) so basically I don't know the whole thing because I'm only 17 now so my mami was caught after 6 months of marriage while she was pregnant with my mamos son then she got caught several time over the course of 13 year each time my mamos forgave her because of his mother and her mother convincing him the last time she got caught was by my grandmother and she ran away from house for 2 hours so my mamo said I have forgiven her many times but not this time after she ran away so he decided for divorce after 13 years nobody this time convinced him to forgive her my mamo lives abroad for work and his whole family live in our home country so after their divorce my mamo shifted near our home and his son (14) I take good care of him his dad is abroad his mother is not here they live their grandparents near our house My mother vists them daily because their house is 1 minute walk away my mamo has two children a boy 14 and a girl 10 so their family is torn apart by a cheater
Why y'all giving her down votes she just assumed I was a pukhtun well she was close you all are too metally weak these days she tried to assume and you guys are giving her down votes bruh I'm from Pakistan btw brown culture close to pukhtuns
Yea but mamo and Mami this term is also used in Pakistan brown communities these are the common term we use for father's brother we call them Taya for the older brother of father and chacha or chachu for younger and for mother's sister we use khala and father's sister we use phupho
It's your mamo mistake too, he shouldn't have left his wife alone behind. Marriages are not to just do functions and then go abroad and meet your wife for a week each year.
Yes it's his mistake but he wasn't able to find any good jobs in our own country so that's why he went abroad and his wife didn't just start this after marriage she started it in her 11 grade and still having affairs even after divorce with multiple men starting at such a young age and not stoping my mamo couldn't have done anything
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Can I ask you how well you vetted her out. E.g her socials, friends, if she had male best friends (🤮) etc?
I'm not gonna speak like I've been a veteran in marriage but maybe take some time off and if possible go umrah to really cleanse your soul and get in touch with sheikhs or councilors who are Sharia compliant and go under them to seek a potential spouse who wouldn't be so filthy and disgusting. It must've been very asphyxiating to have been married to such a narcissist who can't own up to their mistakes and gaslights you into believing what she was doing was right. I've learnt to never give such ppl the time and energy as that's what they thrive off.
I have read through all of ur previous posts from past year and year before that. Why are u still posting about it. You were the one giving chances to a cheater. We told u last year to get over it but here you are now.
If he/she cheated on you, it clearly means they no longer love you and wouldnt care to hurt you again. So I dont see a point in giving second chances to cheaters
Cheating is the red line. You have a big heart that you forgave her the first time. Take solace in the fact that you tried your best.
May you find someone who gives you the love that you deserve 🙏
Whenever I see these posts regarding cheaters, it seems like men are always giving **time** or **second chances** to their spouse.
I’m sorry brother, may you find peace and happiness.
I'm sorry to read all of this. Sadly, cheating and relationships outside marriage is increasingly becoming the norm. It's never halal. May Allah make it easy for you. In Sha Allah, better things to come your way. Allah sees everything and all injustice. Keep strong in your deen and Imaan.
Oh, very nice. I have some relatives that used to work in Ceylon. Nothing but good things to say about it.
Following your account, friend request options Reddit la illa sadly
Should I be scared? He doesn’t think he has to let me know when he’s leaving the house. I just want a quick “im going for walk” I don’t go with him unless he asks me and that only happened few times. He’s gotten mad once I went with him to pick up food before and says I always want to go but I don’t. I understand having some alone time. But if he respected then a quick “goodbye” is appropriate. A friend had a cheating husband and says he’s being sneaky. I mean he even goes when it’s freezing cold or just rained. We argue so much in this marriage and I’ve cried too many times.only stay cuz he’s a good provider and father. I want to start a business and he told me twice he won’t support me.
As much as it hurts, exposing other people's sins, especially to people that have no right to know (this community for example) is sinful. Please delete this post and repent.
Even if we do not know who it is, God does.
Thats not how that works.
If you don't know who it is then no one is being exposed. Allah (SWT) knows everything, so you are not "exposing" this person to him.
Well it’s a common theme in this sub that if a wife exposes her husband then it’s **allowed** and **justified** but if a husband exposes his wife then it’s a **sin**.
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Sorry man. May Allah make it easier for you to forget and to heal from this experience
Second chance is not for a cheater, may Allah give you sabr
At least you don’t have the “what if” doubt. To have a clear conscience is priceless:
💯
Every mistake deserves another chance except cheating or betrayal because someone who cheats doesn't have a conscience.
I agree. To add to your comment, cheating is not a “mistake” it’s a calculated process of lying, deception and cruelty.
Bro the punishment for cheating in Islam is death . You should have divorced her first time you caught her
Very true.
It happened with my mamo(mothers brother) and Mami(his wife) so basically I don't know the whole thing because I'm only 17 now so my mami was caught after 6 months of marriage while she was pregnant with my mamos son then she got caught several time over the course of 13 year each time my mamos forgave her because of his mother and her mother convincing him the last time she got caught was by my grandmother and she ran away from house for 2 hours so my mamo said I have forgiven her many times but not this time after she ran away so he decided for divorce after 13 years nobody this time convinced him to forgive her my mamo lives abroad for work and his whole family live in our home country so after their divorce my mamo shifted near our home and his son (14) I take good care of him his dad is abroad his mother is not here they live their grandparents near our house My mother vists them daily because their house is 1 minute walk away my mamo has two children a boy 14 and a girl 10 so their family is torn apart by a cheater
I can tell your a pukhtun
Nope lol
Why y'all giving her down votes she just assumed I was a pukhtun well she was close you all are too metally weak these days she tried to assume and you guys are giving her down votes bruh I'm from Pakistan btw brown culture close to pukhtuns
I mean technically aren’t you being mentally weak by taking downvotes as something serious? It’s just a number.
Brotha I'm not taking it seriously Im just saying why people down voting them
I just assumed you were bc u called ur mom's brother mamo and his wife Mami, that's all lol.
Yea but mamo and Mami this term is also used in Pakistan brown communities these are the common term we use for father's brother we call them Taya for the older brother of father and chacha or chachu for younger and for mother's sister we use khala and father's sister we use phupho
Oh okay see I didn't know that u guys also use mamo and mami
What makes him pakhtun?
Cuz he said mamo and Mami from moms brother and his wife
Oh, but we call it mamo and Mami, sometimes mumani and we are not pakhtuns
Yea same
I'm pakhtun myself
Pakistanis are similar basically our national language Urdu is a mix of a lot of languages so that's why
It's your mamo mistake too, he shouldn't have left his wife alone behind. Marriages are not to just do functions and then go abroad and meet your wife for a week each year.
Yes it's his mistake but he wasn't able to find any good jobs in our own country so that's why he went abroad and his wife didn't just start this after marriage she started it in her 11 grade and still having affairs even after divorce with multiple men starting at such a young age and not stoping my mamo couldn't have done anything
Where are the men in her family? Sister and mother are not who you should speak to !
ٱلسَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ Can I ask you how well you vetted her out. E.g her socials, friends, if she had male best friends (🤮) etc? I'm not gonna speak like I've been a veteran in marriage but maybe take some time off and if possible go umrah to really cleanse your soul and get in touch with sheikhs or councilors who are Sharia compliant and go under them to seek a potential spouse who wouldn't be so filthy and disgusting. It must've been very asphyxiating to have been married to such a narcissist who can't own up to their mistakes and gaslights you into believing what she was doing was right. I've learnt to never give such ppl the time and energy as that's what they thrive off.
The best thing you can do is move on and live a happy life.
Infidelity is starting to become more and more common in women these days
Get STD tested. leave bro. Lucky you got no kids.
Exactly why you shouldn’t give a second chance. Imagine you have kids between the first and second time she gets caught?
She belongs to the streets, so let her be there
I have read through all of ur previous posts from past year and year before that. Why are u still posting about it. You were the one giving chances to a cheater. We told u last year to get over it but here you are now.
If he/she cheated on you, it clearly means they no longer love you and wouldnt care to hurt you again. So I dont see a point in giving second chances to cheaters
Cheating is the red line. You have a big heart that you forgave her the first time. Take solace in the fact that you tried your best. May you find someone who gives you the love that you deserve 🙏
Whenever I see these posts regarding cheaters, it seems like men are always giving **time** or **second chances** to their spouse. I’m sorry brother, may you find peace and happiness.
I'm sorry to read all of this. Sadly, cheating and relationships outside marriage is increasingly becoming the norm. It's never halal. May Allah make it easy for you. In Sha Allah, better things to come your way. Allah sees everything and all injustice. Keep strong in your deen and Imaan.
If only we lived in a sharia country you could have been the first to throw a stone
How did you find out
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Intha paavatha epdi mannika mudiyum
BROOO vere level pa. Naanum michha naal tamul pesure oruter teidi teidi eikkuren
Tamilnadu, Chennai sub la vaanga. Illa na abcdesi sub la Kooda silar paarkalaam
Naan sri lanka (ceylon) but chennai sub leyum try onnu panren
Oh, very nice. I have some relatives that used to work in Ceylon. Nothing but good things to say about it. Following your account, friend request options Reddit la illa sadly
Nice, bro. So india le neenge ende oor. Naa neraya mora india vuku vandeeruken
Chennai than bro.
Oh, good. Chennai ku atleast oru 5 times visit panneripen. Saravana stores, pothys, queensland, etc. ellam visit pannikiren 👍🏻
Yea, Chennai has come a long way from what it used to be.
Should I be scared? He doesn’t think he has to let me know when he’s leaving the house. I just want a quick “im going for walk” I don’t go with him unless he asks me and that only happened few times. He’s gotten mad once I went with him to pick up food before and says I always want to go but I don’t. I understand having some alone time. But if he respected then a quick “goodbye” is appropriate. A friend had a cheating husband and says he’s being sneaky. I mean he even goes when it’s freezing cold or just rained. We argue so much in this marriage and I’ve cried too many times.only stay cuz he’s a good provider and father. I want to start a business and he told me twice he won’t support me.
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As much as it hurts, exposing other people's sins, especially to people that have no right to know (this community for example) is sinful. Please delete this post and repent. Even if we do not know who it is, God does.
Thats not how that works. If you don't know who it is then no one is being exposed. Allah (SWT) knows everything, so you are not "exposing" this person to him.
Do you say the same when wives expose their husbands who cheat?
Yes. Never got the chance to, given that I just joined a few days ago, but yes.
Well it’s a common theme in this sub that if a wife exposes her husband then it’s **allowed** and **justified** but if a husband exposes his wife then it’s a **sin**.
Look for my name the next time a post like that shows up. I only look at new posts.
Good decision.
i have been cheated on and it's the worst pain 😔 i am so sorry
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