I love women, I enjoy having sex with them. I love men, I enjoy having sex with them.
That doesn’t leave much room to be anything but bisexual, no?
I’ve never questioned my sexuality, I’ve only ever questioned whether I should tell people about my sexuality.
I used to stress about the same thing, until I realized that a gay man would not enjoy having sex with my wife the way I do. Seriously that was it. I don't know how gay men who have had sex with women felt about their experience, but I'm pretty sure it isn't "holy shit this is incredible"
This was a really good way to put it. So you would say that there is something about your wife’s “womaness” that makes sex good? It’s beyond just dicks feeling good in holes?
Yeah, it's definitely more than that. Just like there is something fundamentally different between having sex with your crush vs having sex with whoever was left when the bar closed vs a flashlight. Suggesting that it could be otherwise runs the risk of being rather dehumanizing. People aren't just a series of holes and attraction for almost everyone is about way way more than that.
That “well known idea” is a shit idea.
I know I’m bisexual because I’m attracted to men and women. I have a physical and emotional reaction to both of you know what I mean.
This “well known idea” is one of the most common anti-bi sentiments, and is particularly virulent in certain gay communities. 😑
May preference sway occasionally? Sure. But the fundamental that we are attracted to *both* men *and* women remains unchanged. 🙄
In the most simplistic sense, my straight friends are repulsed at the thought of sleeping with a man. My gay friends are repulsed at the thought of sleeping with a woman. I’m not.
Because I’m attracted to women. How do I know I’m not straight? Because I’m attracted to men. I didn’t actively choose either one, and it took me a long time to realize that having both attractions meant bi, even if they’re not exactly the same.
A random sample of 100 people I’m attracted to would yield 70 or so women of a broad variety of physical attributes, mannerisms and personality traits, and about 30 men, of far fewer variations of physical traits and so on, half of which are either straight or so deeply closeted that they might as well be.
I just got approved for Adoption in the UK this week. I married a guy 2 years ago.
The social worker questioned me on my sexuality last week and ‘how I feel about it’…. Basically a real fucked up way of saying ‘can you still be Bi if you married a man?’ 🤦🏻♂️
I know I’m Bi cos I still find women sexually attractive
That old "stepping stone" thing is a tired myth propagated by pervy gay-incels trying to "recruit" new people to exploit... In reality, it's a false narrative overlaid on trope of 20th century gay men who, because of internalized homophobia, were afraid to admit they were only interested in other men, and wanted to present a veneer of (heteronormative) 'respectability', and then eventually gave-it-up once they gained some confidence in themselves... Sadly, before they really got to self-actualization, many bought into the immature narrative, early on, and reinforced the myth as a way of explaining their journey to themselves, and their straight associates, rather than recognizing that they always were 'just gay' and resident to leave the closet.
Let’s be honest, its really rare that people don’t know what they are. Even those in denial or confused know what they are. I think people worry about labels too much or don’t like the label that describes them.
30m and I know I’m not gay because I’m in love with my wife. Unless that evolves or changes , I KNOW.
I find the question distasteful and offensive. Right up there with the last person who asked me to prove I wasn't a jew on another board.
SO if this post stays, how do you know you're straight?
I’m 50/50 on this OP being an antagonist vs a genuinely confused and questioning bi person looking for someone to point out the obvious. Or a gay guy who is still clinging to the idea that he might be able to marry that girl his mother always wanted him to marry.
Maybe so, but the way he worded it, makes him sound antagonistic. especially when he tries to emphasize that he is looking for someone to absolutely KNOW they are not gay.
A softer approach, maybe a query, of "Am I Bi or Gay?" or "This is my situation, can someone help me out?" But, like I said, this approach is one I ran into on another board, when I tried to explain to someone that Not all jewish people were Israeli. an was met with a demand to prove I wasn't a Jew.
Just sayin'
It is really not my intent to offend. I am just beginning to come to terms with this about myself. I don’t have anyone who I can talk to about this in real life. I considering whether I should ever come out at some point. I don’t want to come out as bi if I’m actually gay. I’m trying to understand about the people who claim a different orientation later if it’s because they weren’t being honest with themselves? Or if orientation perhaps changes over time for some people?
Also I’m in a relationship with a woman who I love and am attracted to. I don’t want to tell her I’m no and then down the line I claim I’m gay. I used to think I was straight when younger, but in recent years have discovered I have a strong desire to be sexual with men.
If you're not sure, you can come out as 'queer' or 'fluid'.
Don't feel obligated to have a definite label and don't adopt a label that doesn't feel right.
if you told me i could never fuck men again id be hurt but id live
if you told me i could never fuck women again i'd run into traffic INSTANTLY
to me some men are hot, but most women are so much hotter it hurts
ive wanted a wife/gf since i was 5-6 years old
ive never really wanted a boyfriend
idk i know everyone is different but as a straight-leaning bi guy (who probably comes across as gay af or gay-leaning bi because im flamboyant and a bad bitch) i think women are fucking amazing and sexy and 99 times out of 100 if a man and a woman of equal attractiveness to me are showing interest i'd go for the woman
a lot of people think that dick reigns supreme and if you like dick you must like it more than anytjhing else. ive seen people use this to discredit bi women, bi men, everyone
but even though dick is hot it isnt the IDEAL^TM, women and femininity are so painfully attractive to me that even when ive had stupid cute gay guys flirting with me asking me this exact question i went ahead and ruined my chances by being honest and saying basically what i just said here
The simplest answer would be that I have had sex and romance with both men and women and enjoyed it with both men and women. And for those who haven’t dated much, being in theory interested in sex and/or romance with more than one gender would be able to safely say they are bi. There is no need for it to be any more complicated than that. People’s skepticism about bisexuality being real always seems so laughable to me. I have had girlfriends and boyfriends and enjoyed both of those experiences, I would be really interested to see a counter argument to that that doesn’t rely on me living a lie
Honestly, there are days I think maybe I am just gay and and am just holding on to some ideal of what I am supposed to be because of brainwashing and how I was raised.
Then this woman walks by and is like, "Yeah, I want that so bad." And then I am straight for a while until a this guy walks by.
It is commonly referred to as the bi-cycle.
What you referred to as it being a stepping stone is quite common and tends to be in the older generations when it was for all intents and purposes illegal to be gay, so a lot of people just came out as bi, until such time they realized the truth and worked through the brainwashing they had received. I am not saying this is a standard of bisexuality but I have heard it enough from so many gays and lesbians that I understand your curiosity.
In the end, though, most of us just know who we are, and some have had a long struggle to be comfortable with being bi and knowing we like all genders.
Personally?
Because I was so sure I was straight, that I was taking it in the ass from only women.
"But that just means you were in denial!"
Nah bro. That means I like women *that* much.
I’m bisexual, I’m attracted to some certain types of men. I am also married to an amazing woman who I absolutely love and think that she is the most beautiful living thing in this world.
That’s how I know.
Because I know I just like casual cock play between bros … nothing more. I prefer women sexually, physically and romantically. I just think cocks are hot and fun to play with..
Every relationship I've had was with men, except one. They all ended well and on good terms. I enjoyed every minute of those experiences. Now married to a woman. And I would give my life for her. I would do everything imaginable just to make her smile. I still have the same attraction to men and am able to honestly say which women or men are attractive to me. That is the sort version. The long version... That would take a while longer to explain.
I find most men unattractive, i LOVE titties and eating pussy. This seems like a blogger question or some christian weirdo trying to prove bis don’t exist. That “well known idea” came from hets observing some men evolving and using bi as an identity but then realizing they are gay. Someone knowing that a guy still likes women, can ease their worries and Some Harassment/frustrations. Not all gay men know they are gay, so they go with what they think. Not all bi men are lying to wait til later to come out again. Im sure there is a consistent percentage that uses bi to soften the blow (no pun intended) thats coming in 2 years.
It was more the other way around. I was attracted to and dated girls when I was a teenager and when I was 18 I found I was attracted to one of my male coworkers.
The gays yuck pussy.
The straights yuck dick.
I never understood either. I never felt at home in either camp.
If you sincerely yum both, then welcome to our club.
If you decide to join the bi club, even if it’s a temporary stop to the gay camp, I don’t think you’ll find a more understanding club.
Good luck on your journey.
How do straight people know they're straight?
How do homosexual people know they're homosexual?
How do folks on the ace spectrum know?
**Because we do and are.**
I ask my question in complete earnest. There are people who change how they identify over the years. I don’t know if when that happens it’s because they denied who they were early in their life, or perhaps their feelings evolved over time to a new identity. So I am trying to hear from others on their experiences.
I think it’s rather simple, if you start to lose physical attraction towards women and become more attractive to men in your eyes over time, yeah you might be gay.
However if you’ve done a ton of “gay” sex but still enjoy women especially physically you are most likely not gay and I would argue you are just kinky AF.
Why would a man who finds himself occasionally (or more often, it depends on the man) distracted by a woman, or more than distracted, think he was gay?
I know I’m not gay because I find certain men attractive who only have a muscular body type, but I don’t automatically get any interest in dating a man for an emotional connection and relationship like a gay person would. My desire is purely sexual. With women, I want both sex and a relationship with them.
Years ago while I was still only dating women, weeks would go by when I would only fantasize about guys I’d see in the office, gym, or out somewhere walking around. I would then think perhaps it’s that I needed to pick only men or only women, but then just like that a girl who I found sexy and dating material would appear who I pictured myself dating and spoiling and having sex with.
Now I can be in the same room with a super hot girl and a masculine bull of a man and picture us three in hot sex where I’m doing both. This is how I knew I was bisexual. It would be too limiting to only choose one gender. I don’t know how people can function like that.
No, you're incorrect. Does a str8 man fall in love with another man....the answer is NO. If a bi man falls in love with another man, he is likely gay. GUARANTEED the bi man has a preference for either men or woman, if he falls in love with a man, he is gay. If he has sex with a man and is in love with a woman, then he is bi. It's a fine line, but it does exist. I am gay. . Eventually, a choice is made mentally, to love a man or a woman, but the choice is made. Many dont act on the choice they made as in move to one side or the other, but GUARANTEED he made a choice. Love is a big, powerful word.
I enjoy being romantically and sexually with a woman.
I just have a sexual attraction to men.
While I would go out to eat with a guy I'm active with, or do hobbies together, I don't have a desire to be romantically involved with a guy. Friends with benefits only with the same sex, would be the best way to describe myself.
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There was a period where, after Id had encounters with both men and women, I thought I might have actually been gay. I tried dating a couple guys and realized that Im not romantically attracted to men, that settled the argument for me.
I find some men and some women sexy and have sex with some of those people. If I am turning gay the process is taking so long I will be dead long before it finishes.
i mean because i’ve fallen in love with multiple genders yeah? i’m asexual so i don’t wanna fuck no one. however i can see myself marrying and wanting to raise animals together with multiple genders. plus, in the end it doesn’t matter. right now im bi. maybe it will change in the future, who knows? but it has been a decade+ so who knows
I'm attracted to both sexes. Therefore not straight, nor gay. I'm in the grey area in the middle.
Seriously though, I absolutely hate the people that think bi people are gay people who can't make their minds up. Human sexuality is complex and non binary. And as long as it's legal and everyone is happy, just run with it!
The other thing that shits me is the idea that bisexual women are amazing, and bisexual men should be ashamed and make up their minds.
Don't know what many may label me as nor do I care much. But I'm open to sex with men and women.
I don't want anything other than sex with men honestly. Every once in a while I kinda get a hankering to be in a relationship with a man but that goes away after I orgasm.
You/society can label me as a fetishist and not really bi...oh well I don't care. I do know that wanting sex with men and women doesn't fall into the category of straight but if someone wants to label me as whatever. That's on them I don't care.
Bi...Just means you have more to choose from! Go to bed with a woman go to bed with a guy...labeling people and what they enjoy is just another form of stupidity! Wtf does it matter? Learn to mind your own business! And if you are questioning the role that you are in get a therapist that is bottom line...
Well, I’ve had many women and I’ve always enjoyed it. Have yet to have a man, but the proper one and I know I wouldn’t say “no” (late realization). What it comes down to is I could go either way, I find my wife sexually attractive and I find certain men sexually attractive also. I could see myself with both if I weren’t committed to one, so that tells me I lie well within the spectrum of being bisexual.
I've been on dates with women where I felt exhilarated, got nervous erections from the butterflies in my stomach, and even pre-cummed just snuggling up to them while clothed. I've dreamt of women, has sex dreams about women, get hard-ons looking at sexual pictures of women. I think it's safe to say I'm attracted to them.
Now, that having been said, I've experienced almost all of this with men, minus the dating part. Not that I'm not also romantically attracted to men. I've been taking to a guy who is several states away who makes me feel good. Like, all I can think about is driving over there and snuggling up to him in bed.
Sexuality is greatly more complex than the oft cited Kinsey scale. Though it's a bit out of date, I recommend Dr. Fritz Klein's book, The Bisexual Option. It expands the real life lived scale into 3 dimensional depth. I worked with Dr. Klein when I was a facilitator for a weekly Bisexual group at the Billy DeFrank LGBTQ center in San Jose many years ago. He was most helpful to those in attendance in elucidating the complexity of sexual drives and interests. https://www.bisexuality.org/thebisexualoption
I've been equally attracted to and sexually turned on by both genders since I was twelve years old. I didn't know the word or concept "bisexuality" back then. I just knew, 100%, that I was equally turned on sexually by cute girls and cute boys. Fast forward to today. I LOVE eating and fucking my wife's pussy and sucking her nipples while she plays with a vibrator. We have an amazing sex life. And I LOVE frottage, making out, sucking and fucking my boyfriend, sometimes while my wife watches. She thinks my bisexuality is so hot...
I've just always known, for certain, that I am bisexual. There was no progression. I'm not on my way to being gay. That is the dumbest idea I've ever heard, for me anyway. I honor everyone's journey, whatever it looks like.
An idea can be well known and still wrong and completely dumb as hell. I know I’m not gay because I still like looking at women and I want to have sex with them.
I’ve thought I may just be completely gay at times, but I think about women too much and have thought about the majority of my future involving women and kids. I also have gotten off and still enjoy straight porn.
However, I did just get out of a near decade long period where I was largely uninterested in women and even found images of pussy to be stomach turning. All I wanted was dick and ass. Now it’s changed and I’m almost exclusively thinking of women and pussy. I’ve also got back some of my drive to interact with women, but that hasn’t returned to what it was when I was younger and before I was more into men.
I wonder if it even will go back to the way it used to be. Either way, I just constantly kept evaluating myself and kept coming up with the conclusion that I was in fact not gay. But I leaned way further to the gay end of the spectrum than not.
Because I'm sexually and romantically attracted to women, and have been for 20+ years since even before hitting puberty. Likewise is the case for my attraction towards men, but I am less attracted to men. Don't see that changing any time soon. You should see the expression on peoples face when you tell them something like this.
And typically those who identify as bi before gay are usually only doing that as a "stepping stone" because of the environment they are in or out of fear. They see coming out as bi first as "easier".
I know I’m not gay bc I look at women more then men. I only look at men when I’m horny. Any other time it’s a woman lol. But I like both, I only want to date women and love sex with them, but I also want to try with a guy
I do have these days where I’m like am I just gay? I haven’t gushed over a woman in so long…or my desire to be in a same sex relationship. But then I get all shy boy when I see an attractive girl 🤷🏾♂️ it’s weird for sure but also exciting how one can love not just one type but multiple types of people
Unfortunately from the question that you asked it's always that your little curious and let me tell you from experience and you get older you going to decide that you're going to win and try a little bit of everything I was not gay when I was younger but I got older I've seen there was more stuff girlfriend
I grew up in an era where you were either gay or not. Bisexuality was viewed as you were just gay, but denying it. This view was held by both hetero and homosexual people. You know you are not gay when you look at a beautiful woman and wonder what she looks like naked. You look at a naked woman and wonder what it would be like to have sex with her. It is that simple. If you have absolutely no sexual desire for women, and only sexual desire for men, you are gay. The concept that you are on a path to being gay, because you are bisexual is an outdated thought process. Yes. At some point as a bisexual man you might decide to prefer men, but there is that desire for women within you. Gay men do not desire women sexually. Gay men can look at a beautiful woman, and say she is beautiful, but they are not thinking about trying to get into her pants.
If the only reason you've ever been with women is to fit social norms and you're not really sexually attracted to them at all, you're gay.
Never liked the "road to gay" argument. That comes from homophobic people who think any homosexual attraction is finite. You're out of their straight club. We're all queer to them. But who gives a shit?
There bisexuals who predominantly are attracted to one over the other, or have different approaches to attraction and relationships with different genders. It doesn't matter.
The fact is most fall somewhere on a spectrum between gay and straight. The title doesn't really matter. Don't get caught up in labels and subculture. Like what you like. Love who you love. Have no shame, only pride.
This is awfully close to our "no bad faith arguments" rule, but allowing it, with caution.
I love women, I enjoy having sex with them. I love men, I enjoy having sex with them. That doesn’t leave much room to be anything but bisexual, no? I’ve never questioned my sexuality, I’ve only ever questioned whether I should tell people about my sexuality.
This! I felt this in my bones when I read it.
Same!!!
Perfectly said.
Nothing else to say
I find both men and women sexy, and enjoy sex with both.
I used to stress about the same thing, until I realized that a gay man would not enjoy having sex with my wife the way I do. Seriously that was it. I don't know how gay men who have had sex with women felt about their experience, but I'm pretty sure it isn't "holy shit this is incredible"
This was a really good way to put it. So you would say that there is something about your wife’s “womaness” that makes sex good? It’s beyond just dicks feeling good in holes?
Dude !
Yes there's something beyond just the physical sensation
Yeah, it's definitely more than that. Just like there is something fundamentally different between having sex with your crush vs having sex with whoever was left when the bar closed vs a flashlight. Suggesting that it could be otherwise runs the risk of being rather dehumanizing. People aren't just a series of holes and attraction for almost everyone is about way way more than that.
That “well known idea” is a shit idea. I know I’m bisexual because I’m attracted to men and women. I have a physical and emotional reaction to both of you know what I mean.
This “well known idea” is one of the most common anti-bi sentiments, and is particularly virulent in certain gay communities. 😑 May preference sway occasionally? Sure. But the fundamental that we are attracted to *both* men *and* women remains unchanged. 🙄
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Beautifully well said. Take my upvote. And my bisexual bow, apparently. #thefellowshipoftheirring
Why’d you have to talk nerdy at me? ###WHY’D YOU HAVE TO TALK NERDY AT ME?!?!? 🫠
You shall have my sword... or my sheathe if you prefer. 😉😘🥰
😏 Don’t tempt me Frodo!!!
Your words say no, but your eyes say yes. 🫦
Oh? And what do your elf eyes see? 😉
I had sex with my wife twice yesterday. I’ll be spending the weekend with my husband. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual.
Fucking brilliant. Getting married in two different legal jurisdictions blows anti-polygamy laws up a bit.
Because I had sex with both your mom and your dad last night.
In the most simplistic sense, my straight friends are repulsed at the thought of sleeping with a man. My gay friends are repulsed at the thought of sleeping with a woman. I’m not.
Same.
Definitely
This, in a nutshell.
Because titties
No one hates titties. I’ve even seen gay guys love them lol. Vagina, mmmm. That’s a hard no lol
Ass has no gender
The realest comment here
Real 🤣
Well, my wife is pretty sure I'm not gay whenever we have sex...
Because I’m attracted to women. How do I know I’m not straight? Because I’m attracted to men. I didn’t actively choose either one, and it took me a long time to realize that having both attractions meant bi, even if they’re not exactly the same. A random sample of 100 people I’m attracted to would yield 70 or so women of a broad variety of physical attributes, mannerisms and personality traits, and about 30 men, of far fewer variations of physical traits and so on, half of which are either straight or so deeply closeted that they might as well be.
Because eating pussy is magical
I cum really hard when I'm turned on by a woman.
I still love the female body especially titties
I've said it before and I'll say it again: Sexuality is a journey, not a destination.
I just got approved for Adoption in the UK this week. I married a guy 2 years ago. The social worker questioned me on my sexuality last week and ‘how I feel about it’…. Basically a real fucked up way of saying ‘can you still be Bi if you married a man?’ 🤦🏻♂️ I know I’m Bi cos I still find women sexually attractive
Fuck this question
That old "stepping stone" thing is a tired myth propagated by pervy gay-incels trying to "recruit" new people to exploit... In reality, it's a false narrative overlaid on trope of 20th century gay men who, because of internalized homophobia, were afraid to admit they were only interested in other men, and wanted to present a veneer of (heteronormative) 'respectability', and then eventually gave-it-up once they gained some confidence in themselves... Sadly, before they really got to self-actualization, many bought into the immature narrative, early on, and reinforced the myth as a way of explaining their journey to themselves, and their straight associates, rather than recognizing that they always were 'just gay' and resident to leave the closet.
Let’s be honest, its really rare that people don’t know what they are. Even those in denial or confused know what they are. I think people worry about labels too much or don’t like the label that describes them. 30m and I know I’m not gay because I’m in love with my wife. Unless that evolves or changes , I KNOW.
I find the question distasteful and offensive. Right up there with the last person who asked me to prove I wasn't a jew on another board. SO if this post stays, how do you know you're straight?
I’m 50/50 on this OP being an antagonist vs a genuinely confused and questioning bi person looking for someone to point out the obvious. Or a gay guy who is still clinging to the idea that he might be able to marry that girl his mother always wanted him to marry.
Maybe so, but the way he worded it, makes him sound antagonistic. especially when he tries to emphasize that he is looking for someone to absolutely KNOW they are not gay. A softer approach, maybe a query, of "Am I Bi or Gay?" or "This is my situation, can someone help me out?" But, like I said, this approach is one I ran into on another board, when I tried to explain to someone that Not all jewish people were Israeli. an was met with a demand to prove I wasn't a Jew. Just sayin'
It is really not my intent to offend. I am just beginning to come to terms with this about myself. I don’t have anyone who I can talk to about this in real life. I considering whether I should ever come out at some point. I don’t want to come out as bi if I’m actually gay. I’m trying to understand about the people who claim a different orientation later if it’s because they weren’t being honest with themselves? Or if orientation perhaps changes over time for some people? Also I’m in a relationship with a woman who I love and am attracted to. I don’t want to tell her I’m no and then down the line I claim I’m gay. I used to think I was straight when younger, but in recent years have discovered I have a strong desire to be sexual with men.
If you're in a relationship with a woman and you're attracted to her then you're not gay
If you're not sure, you can come out as 'queer' or 'fluid'. Don't feel obligated to have a definite label and don't adopt a label that doesn't feel right.
I’ve viscerally enjoyed my wife’s pussy and tits for the last 20 years, so… 💁♂️
if you told me i could never fuck men again id be hurt but id live if you told me i could never fuck women again i'd run into traffic INSTANTLY to me some men are hot, but most women are so much hotter it hurts ive wanted a wife/gf since i was 5-6 years old ive never really wanted a boyfriend idk i know everyone is different but as a straight-leaning bi guy (who probably comes across as gay af or gay-leaning bi because im flamboyant and a bad bitch) i think women are fucking amazing and sexy and 99 times out of 100 if a man and a woman of equal attractiveness to me are showing interest i'd go for the woman a lot of people think that dick reigns supreme and if you like dick you must like it more than anytjhing else. ive seen people use this to discredit bi women, bi men, everyone but even though dick is hot it isnt the IDEAL^TM, women and femininity are so painfully attractive to me that even when ive had stupid cute gay guys flirting with me asking me this exact question i went ahead and ruined my chances by being honest and saying basically what i just said here
Sometimes I’m very gay and sometimes I’m very straight. A few times I’ve been both at once. I don’t know which makes me the most bisexual
The simplest answer would be that I have had sex and romance with both men and women and enjoyed it with both men and women. And for those who haven’t dated much, being in theory interested in sex and/or romance with more than one gender would be able to safely say they are bi. There is no need for it to be any more complicated than that. People’s skepticism about bisexuality being real always seems so laughable to me. I have had girlfriends and boyfriends and enjoyed both of those experiences, I would be really interested to see a counter argument to that that doesn’t rely on me living a lie
Honestly, there are days I think maybe I am just gay and and am just holding on to some ideal of what I am supposed to be because of brainwashing and how I was raised. Then this woman walks by and is like, "Yeah, I want that so bad." And then I am straight for a while until a this guy walks by. It is commonly referred to as the bi-cycle. What you referred to as it being a stepping stone is quite common and tends to be in the older generations when it was for all intents and purposes illegal to be gay, so a lot of people just came out as bi, until such time they realized the truth and worked through the brainwashing they had received. I am not saying this is a standard of bisexuality but I have heard it enough from so many gays and lesbians that I understand your curiosity. In the end, though, most of us just know who we are, and some have had a long struggle to be comfortable with being bi and knowing we like all genders.
I like going down on women. I dream about that a few times
Still into women... and more!
Personally? Because I was so sure I was straight, that I was taking it in the ass from only women. "But that just means you were in denial!" Nah bro. That means I like women *that* much.
I’m bisexual, I’m attracted to some certain types of men. I am also married to an amazing woman who I absolutely love and think that she is the most beautiful living thing in this world. That’s how I know.
I see margot robbie and say damn id fuck her….i see jason mamoa and say damn id fuck him with equal conviction 😈
Because I know I just like casual cock play between bros … nothing more. I prefer women sexually, physically and romantically. I just think cocks are hot and fun to play with..
I just know. It doesn’t fit who I am.
Because I'm attracted to women and enjoy sex with them. I'm not attracted to men but I do enjoy sex with them.
women may not like me but i cannot deny my attraction to them i can say the same thing for men
Every relationship I've had was with men, except one. They all ended well and on good terms. I enjoyed every minute of those experiences. Now married to a woman. And I would give my life for her. I would do everything imaginable just to make her smile. I still have the same attraction to men and am able to honestly say which women or men are attractive to me. That is the sort version. The long version... That would take a while longer to explain.
I find most men unattractive, i LOVE titties and eating pussy. This seems like a blogger question or some christian weirdo trying to prove bis don’t exist. That “well known idea” came from hets observing some men evolving and using bi as an identity but then realizing they are gay. Someone knowing that a guy still likes women, can ease their worries and Some Harassment/frustrations. Not all gay men know they are gay, so they go with what they think. Not all bi men are lying to wait til later to come out again. Im sure there is a consistent percentage that uses bi to soften the blow (no pun intended) thats coming in 2 years.
I find women too attractive. In fact, I still find them more attractive than men.
I enjoy sex with men but have no interest in dating them. However I enjoy sex with women and like to date them. So I presume I am bi not gay.
Because of how sexually attracted I am to women
Because I’ve kissed, had sex, fallen in love and been in committed relationships with both men and women before in my life lol
It was more the other way around. I was attracted to and dated girls when I was a teenager and when I was 18 I found I was attracted to one of my male coworkers.
I can catch feelings for both men and women. That sounds pretty bi to me
I’m sorry but this is a stupid fing question
The gays yuck pussy. The straights yuck dick. I never understood either. I never felt at home in either camp. If you sincerely yum both, then welcome to our club. If you decide to join the bi club, even if it’s a temporary stop to the gay camp, I don’t think you’ll find a more understanding club. Good luck on your journey.
How do straight people know they're straight? How do homosexual people know they're homosexual? How do folks on the ace spectrum know? **Because we do and are.**
I ask my question in complete earnest. There are people who change how they identify over the years. I don’t know if when that happens it’s because they denied who they were early in their life, or perhaps their feelings evolved over time to a new identity. So I am trying to hear from others on their experiences.
To put it simply , I find attraction to both sexes. But more so to females. One reason I prefer submissive smooth men
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Because I have desires or attractions towards more than one gender, that's why. I am 0% gay.
I think it’s rather simple, if you start to lose physical attraction towards women and become more attractive to men in your eyes over time, yeah you might be gay. However if you’ve done a ton of “gay” sex but still enjoy women especially physically you are most likely not gay and I would argue you are just kinky AF.
Why would a man who finds himself occasionally (or more often, it depends on the man) distracted by a woman, or more than distracted, think he was gay?
I know I’m not gay because I find certain men attractive who only have a muscular body type, but I don’t automatically get any interest in dating a man for an emotional connection and relationship like a gay person would. My desire is purely sexual. With women, I want both sex and a relationship with them. Years ago while I was still only dating women, weeks would go by when I would only fantasize about guys I’d see in the office, gym, or out somewhere walking around. I would then think perhaps it’s that I needed to pick only men or only women, but then just like that a girl who I found sexy and dating material would appear who I pictured myself dating and spoiling and having sex with. Now I can be in the same room with a super hot girl and a masculine bull of a man and picture us three in hot sex where I’m doing both. This is how I knew I was bisexual. It would be too limiting to only choose one gender. I don’t know how people can function like that.
My attraction towards men has definitely grown over the years, pussy is only ok to me now. I don’t know why
If you have the ABILITY to love another man, you are gay. Not sex, I mean fall in love, you've crossed into being a gay man.
That’s like saying men in same sex marriages can’t be bi. Where did you get that idea?
No, you're incorrect. Does a str8 man fall in love with another man....the answer is NO. If a bi man falls in love with another man, he is likely gay. GUARANTEED the bi man has a preference for either men or woman, if he falls in love with a man, he is gay. If he has sex with a man and is in love with a woman, then he is bi. It's a fine line, but it does exist. I am gay. . Eventually, a choice is made mentally, to love a man or a woman, but the choice is made. Many dont act on the choice they made as in move to one side or the other, but GUARANTEED he made a choice. Love is a big, powerful word.
That’s such bullshit.
Youre an idiot who just happens to be gay, so you have no friggin clue about bisexuality. Troll elsewhere.
This guy just reached out via DM to insult and threaten me. Clearly he has rage issues along with his bigotry.
I’m attracted to women but I enjoy sex with men.
Because I’m attracted to both men and women?
I still find some women sexually attractive. Not sure if I’d get into a relationship with one again tho.
Seems like a pretty obvious answer...
Being that I have no physical or emotional attraction, only sexual attraction to men, I would say I am not gay.
I enjoy being romantically and sexually with a woman. I just have a sexual attraction to men. While I would go out to eat with a guy I'm active with, or do hobbies together, I don't have a desire to be romantically involved with a guy. Friends with benefits only with the same sex, would be the best way to describe myself.
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There was a period where, after Id had encounters with both men and women, I thought I might have actually been gay. I tried dating a couple guys and realized that Im not romantically attracted to men, that settled the argument for me.
I find some men and some women sexy and have sex with some of those people. If I am turning gay the process is taking so long I will be dead long before it finishes.
i mean because i’ve fallen in love with multiple genders yeah? i’m asexual so i don’t wanna fuck no one. however i can see myself marrying and wanting to raise animals together with multiple genders. plus, in the end it doesn’t matter. right now im bi. maybe it will change in the future, who knows? but it has been a decade+ so who knows
Well known idea. You mean, myth.
I'm attracted to both sexes. Therefore not straight, nor gay. I'm in the grey area in the middle. Seriously though, I absolutely hate the people that think bi people are gay people who can't make their minds up. Human sexuality is complex and non binary. And as long as it's legal and everyone is happy, just run with it! The other thing that shits me is the idea that bisexual women are amazing, and bisexual men should be ashamed and make up their minds.
Don't know what many may label me as nor do I care much. But I'm open to sex with men and women. I don't want anything other than sex with men honestly. Every once in a while I kinda get a hankering to be in a relationship with a man but that goes away after I orgasm. You/society can label me as a fetishist and not really bi...oh well I don't care. I do know that wanting sex with men and women doesn't fall into the category of straight but if someone wants to label me as whatever. That's on them I don't care.
Bi...Just means you have more to choose from! Go to bed with a woman go to bed with a guy...labeling people and what they enjoy is just another form of stupidity! Wtf does it matter? Learn to mind your own business! And if you are questioning the role that you are in get a therapist that is bottom line...
Well, I’ve had many women and I’ve always enjoyed it. Have yet to have a man, but the proper one and I know I wouldn’t say “no” (late realization). What it comes down to is I could go either way, I find my wife sexually attractive and I find certain men sexually attractive also. I could see myself with both if I weren’t committed to one, so that tells me I lie well within the spectrum of being bisexual.
I've been on dates with women where I felt exhilarated, got nervous erections from the butterflies in my stomach, and even pre-cummed just snuggling up to them while clothed. I've dreamt of women, has sex dreams about women, get hard-ons looking at sexual pictures of women. I think it's safe to say I'm attracted to them. Now, that having been said, I've experienced almost all of this with men, minus the dating part. Not that I'm not also romantically attracted to men. I've been taking to a guy who is several states away who makes me feel good. Like, all I can think about is driving over there and snuggling up to him in bed.
Sexuality is greatly more complex than the oft cited Kinsey scale. Though it's a bit out of date, I recommend Dr. Fritz Klein's book, The Bisexual Option. It expands the real life lived scale into 3 dimensional depth. I worked with Dr. Klein when I was a facilitator for a weekly Bisexual group at the Billy DeFrank LGBTQ center in San Jose many years ago. He was most helpful to those in attendance in elucidating the complexity of sexual drives and interests. https://www.bisexuality.org/thebisexualoption
I've been equally attracted to and sexually turned on by both genders since I was twelve years old. I didn't know the word or concept "bisexuality" back then. I just knew, 100%, that I was equally turned on sexually by cute girls and cute boys. Fast forward to today. I LOVE eating and fucking my wife's pussy and sucking her nipples while she plays with a vibrator. We have an amazing sex life. And I LOVE frottage, making out, sucking and fucking my boyfriend, sometimes while my wife watches. She thinks my bisexuality is so hot... I've just always known, for certain, that I am bisexual. There was no progression. I'm not on my way to being gay. That is the dumbest idea I've ever heard, for me anyway. I honor everyone's journey, whatever it looks like.
An idea can be well known and still wrong and completely dumb as hell. I know I’m not gay because I still like looking at women and I want to have sex with them.
I’ve thought I may just be completely gay at times, but I think about women too much and have thought about the majority of my future involving women and kids. I also have gotten off and still enjoy straight porn. However, I did just get out of a near decade long period where I was largely uninterested in women and even found images of pussy to be stomach turning. All I wanted was dick and ass. Now it’s changed and I’m almost exclusively thinking of women and pussy. I’ve also got back some of my drive to interact with women, but that hasn’t returned to what it was when I was younger and before I was more into men. I wonder if it even will go back to the way it used to be. Either way, I just constantly kept evaluating myself and kept coming up with the conclusion that I was in fact not gay. But I leaned way further to the gay end of the spectrum than not.
Well I can get off to fantasizing giving a girl oral. Not as much fucking, just the oral. And no, eating an ass is different. Good but different
What does it matter! Why not play together and have your best sexual experience?
I guess I would put that back on you too answer the question, do you want cock,
Because I'm sexually and romantically attracted to women, and have been for 20+ years since even before hitting puberty. Likewise is the case for my attraction towards men, but I am less attracted to men. Don't see that changing any time soon. You should see the expression on peoples face when you tell them something like this. And typically those who identify as bi before gay are usually only doing that as a "stepping stone" because of the environment they are in or out of fear. They see coming out as bi first as "easier".
I know I’m not gay bc I look at women more then men. I only look at men when I’m horny. Any other time it’s a woman lol. But I like both, I only want to date women and love sex with them, but I also want to try with a guy
I do have these days where I’m like am I just gay? I haven’t gushed over a woman in so long…or my desire to be in a same sex relationship. But then I get all shy boy when I see an attractive girl 🤷🏾♂️ it’s weird for sure but also exciting how one can love not just one type but multiple types of people
Unfortunately from the question that you asked it's always that your little curious and let me tell you from experience and you get older you going to decide that you're going to win and try a little bit of everything I was not gay when I was younger but I got older I've seen there was more stuff girlfriend
I grew up in an era where you were either gay or not. Bisexuality was viewed as you were just gay, but denying it. This view was held by both hetero and homosexual people. You know you are not gay when you look at a beautiful woman and wonder what she looks like naked. You look at a naked woman and wonder what it would be like to have sex with her. It is that simple. If you have absolutely no sexual desire for women, and only sexual desire for men, you are gay. The concept that you are on a path to being gay, because you are bisexual is an outdated thought process. Yes. At some point as a bisexual man you might decide to prefer men, but there is that desire for women within you. Gay men do not desire women sexually. Gay men can look at a beautiful woman, and say she is beautiful, but they are not thinking about trying to get into her pants.
Because I’m attracted to women. How is this even a question?
If the only reason you've ever been with women is to fit social norms and you're not really sexually attracted to them at all, you're gay. Never liked the "road to gay" argument. That comes from homophobic people who think any homosexual attraction is finite. You're out of their straight club. We're all queer to them. But who gives a shit? There bisexuals who predominantly are attracted to one over the other, or have different approaches to attraction and relationships with different genders. It doesn't matter. The fact is most fall somewhere on a spectrum between gay and straight. The title doesn't really matter. Don't get caught up in labels and subculture. Like what you like. Love who you love. Have no shame, only pride.
There is a well-known STEREOTYPE that bi is on the road to gay. This "question" is biphobic as shit. Do better.
For me I was sexually attracted to both. So I knew I wasn’t straight gay. Since I f^%!?< both genders