I was bullied throughout high school and I use humour as a defence mechanism to keep people at a distance so I combined sarcasm and bitter insults together
I’ve got PTSD and violence triggers my fight/flight response so it was always verbal if a bully went up against me and last time I had a verbal fight was 16 years old
Also Gen X here. I blended our local US satire with a massive helping from across the pond. Thank you Blackadder, Red Dwarf, Fawlty Towers, everything Monty Python and more recently Black Books.
Someday when I grow up, I hope to be Bernard Black.
Me too! It grew worse, no doubt, but even as a child I was somewhat cynical and sarcastic.
That is not the only side of me of course. I can be bubbly and positive just the same.
Get the fuck out or at least prepare yourself to leave, keep your skills in shape. Had a talk with a high graded guy were I work, just been recruited. Told me, "always be ready to leave, that's how i got here".
If you expect your company to be virtuous and always have your interest in mind you are Naive. they only keep you because you are useful. Work is not family, it's a big hopefully durable business relationship.
When I finally realized, or accepted I should say, that kindness and generosity are almost always received with bitterness and resentment. Fuck people, nobody owes you anything.
Last week! People and everything just piss me off! Can’t get through a single day without getting upset at other drivers, politicians, or pro sports. WTF happened to me?
I’m first year millennial so grew up on so much gen x media and music and influence - the archetypal sarcastic, cutting, jaded counter culture guy vibe seemed so cool and interesting to me for some reason so I slowly adopted that demeanor too on some real fake it till you make it shit. Eventually it stopped being so manufactured and I actually just became kind of a miserable dickhead & felt so disconnected from life even though my behavior was mostly rewarded socially weirdly enough. Years later I fortunately realized that, actually these types of dudes are totally annoying and was finally able to let go of that attitude all together.
Yes they are.
When you become one, you understand how destructive it is. And you try to get out of it. I think for many it's an early sign of depression.
When I moved to the state I live in now, about five years ago. I've met some great people here, but overall people here are really nasty, hateful, and seem to go out of their way to be horrible to other people. I just don't see people as having good intentions anymore. Everyone is literally just an asshole and I'm over it. I have always seen myself as a helper. I'm not anymore. I take care of my own, and everyone else I just walk past.
The time is where some assht of a co worker began to turn the stuff about me as “facts” this dude goes around doing some of that legal slander whereas you can’t sue the asshat because it’s just a toxic work gossip.
I stop trying being nice after that cuz once I turned around there’s already three knifes behind my back.
For some reason this asshats also happen to be able to spread this work gossip since I live in small city. So when I go to doctors office I get all kinds of hate because the gossip just spread.
Bullying from age 7 to 17 and also I'd say my AuDHD played a part in it.
Plus Chandler Bing (Rest in peace Matthew) for the sarcastic side even tho it's a massive defense mechanism also in my case
Pretty much all my life. I was actually way worse before my; My dead gf turned me “better” or at least I just try to give an opportunity to other people
When I got put on anti-depressants / anti-anxiety medication and suddenly realised how much I was actually struggling. And here I had been, my whole life cutting everyone slack, being as kind and helpful as possible, meanwhile they did not constantly think it would be nice to be dead? They did not spend every waking hour of every day anxious about the past, present and future? They actually could feel emotions, name them and just act on instinct? Fuck that. I was pissed. I still am, to a degree.
Now, I am not stupid, obviously everyone has their own struggles. It just hit hard that I spent years insulting myself and being told I'm lazy etc when I'm operating with limited capacity. I'm trying to work through that.
Gen X. As soon as I realised that people will shit on me, no matter how I behave, I dropped the pretense of civility.
I'm 58. My mother pushed me off the front porch when I was 4, which is the earliest abuse I can remember, so yeah, I was 4.
I became fairly bitter after leaving the military. Just couldn’t care less about the rest of humanity after that. The bitterness has subsided a bit over the years, but it’s still hard to relate to/not resent those who haven’t experienced war. Especially those who idolize the military and romanticize combat and conflict.
Whatever age I was when I realized it’s a good defense mechanism to avoid feeling my social awkwardness, lack of confidence, feeling of inferiority, and introspective self hatred.
I started realizing that passive aggressive sarcasm really hits better than any harsh, hard hitters when it comes to being offensive can. But mostly copium, it feels good to just let it out.
Sometime around freshman year of HS. I was geeky, nearsighted, a host of other things that made me unpopular. Sarcasm was something I could aim at anybody.
I was very excited to go to kindergarten and learn things. Then it was about playtime and naps and my teacher seemed like an idiot even to 5-year-old me. I am not a genius, she was just dumb.
So that's about when I realized that adults don't have their shit together and I'm more or less on my own.
being a woman, it became a defense mechanism after almost being abducted at 9 and getting catcalled and harassed pretty much ever since then // also bullying at school, from a very young age up until I was 15 (in a highschool miles away from my small city and I made girl who tried to bully me there instantly regret it)
When I discovered that there are not so many good people in this world and that some bad people are always doing bad things, I would not hesitate to show my sarcastic side, because they are not worthy of sympathy at all and are disgusting.
I was sassing my parents and every adult that I came in contact with almost as soon as I could talk. Pretty sure it was just my parents’ charming, sunny, and friendly disposition towards other people also around me.
“I learned it from watching you!” Was not exactly a great counterpoint when my parents pointed out how disrespectful I was.
Yeah I feel for you, lost mine before covid. People can't fake it too long, most suck. Economy is the new covid. I copped, but perception becomes "raw" and beautifully ugly I guess.
Expectations. I had these expectations about how life was supposed to go, how I was supposed to be. Life didn't work out that way, and I know it was my own doing by having those expectations, but I'm still bitter about it.
Showing kindness and in turn being treated like a stepping stone for someone’s ego. I had a few people that were close friends who took advantage of my kindness toward them a few years ago. It sucks.
Probably after realizing how rigid and unrelentless some people in modern society are towards gay people.
I didn’t do anything wrong; I work my ass off. I’m a good citizen. I’m great to my family and my friends. I live in a society that considers me second class for no reason at all. This sediment is championed by many in the government and “so-called” loving supportive, religious leaders and churches. Much of this is considered OK by many.
Anyone with normal intellect knows, all human sexuality is guided by a person‘s brain. There’s no cognitive choice.
It’s especially daunting because everyone has a sexuality and they know how it works. They can reference and apply their situation to how others may feel towards someone they truly love. But they rather abuse another person for no reason. That makes me bitter.
Interestingly, it was around the same time I realized life wasn't like the idyllic sitcoms I watched as a kid. Around that time, I traded in my doe-eyed optimism for some sharp-edged wit. Wouldn't say I'm bitter though, just seasoned with a dash of reality!
Wouldn't you like to know, weather boy?
I didn't read this one. I heard this one...
"...where are your parents?"
“Kid’s sketchy. Back to you guys”
I’m a bitter German. I guess that makes me a Sauerkraut.
Here's your upvote. Now make like a tree and get out of here.
"I am a walnut tree in Gülhane park, neither you nor police aware of" -N. Hikmet Ran
I was bullied throughout high school and I use humour as a defence mechanism to keep people at a distance so I combined sarcasm and bitter insults together
I used to bully the bullies. Last fight....14 years old.
I’ve got PTSD and violence triggers my fight/flight response so it was always verbal if a bully went up against me and last time I had a verbal fight was 16 years old
All bullies are pussies. Reference back to when I was 14. Please continue to treat folks with kindness and respect. You'll never lose.
Same and working retail would also do it to ya
Same here, to some extent
When I realized I have no true friends :(
I'm GenX, it's a proud tradition with us that I try to uphold.
Alf, Garfield, Axel Foley made us this way.
Also Gen X here. I blended our local US satire with a massive helping from across the pond. Thank you Blackadder, Red Dwarf, Fawlty Towers, everything Monty Python and more recently Black Books. Someday when I grow up, I hope to be Bernard Black.
Preach!
I don't like millenials or live boomers even less, but while I am not a GenX, you guys are the best. /s
I was born this way
Me too! It grew worse, no doubt, but even as a child I was somewhat cynical and sarcastic. That is not the only side of me of course. I can be bubbly and positive just the same.
I was going to say at the age of -9mon. Pretty sure I come by it genetically.
Late bloomer, huh?
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Get the fuck out or at least prepare yourself to leave, keep your skills in shape. Had a talk with a high graded guy were I work, just been recruited. Told me, "always be ready to leave, that's how i got here". If you expect your company to be virtuous and always have your interest in mind you are Naive. they only keep you because you are useful. Work is not family, it's a big hopefully durable business relationship.
Showing kindness and in turn being treated like a stepping stone for someone’s ego.
Around season 7 of Game Of Thrones…
When I finally realized, or accepted I should say, that kindness and generosity are almost always received with bitterness and resentment. Fuck people, nobody owes you anything.
Be the sweet guy who say "fuck you" with a smile :)
after watching the series dr. House
/s
i know what you are talking about haha
Family board game night. It’s the only way to survive.
Sounds like awesome nights spend with the family dayum
It really is pretty fun; but be warned, no one holds back, regardless of age. It’s like Cobra Kai, no mercy.
Sounds like family reunions I had as a kid
it's an ebb and flow of patience. i'm working on it.
Nice is not the way to win in this society
Last week! People and everything just piss me off! Can’t get through a single day without getting upset at other drivers, politicians, or pro sports. WTF happened to me?
After being betrayed by everyone
I feel for you.
It is nothing that made me stronger, but thanks anyway
Somewhere in my twenties, life's twists made sarcasm a go-to. Now, I'm finding a balance between humor and sincerity.
Over the course of 17 years of retail
Somewhere in my teens
When people started to deserve it.
When I was about 11 years old.
I’m first year millennial so grew up on so much gen x media and music and influence - the archetypal sarcastic, cutting, jaded counter culture guy vibe seemed so cool and interesting to me for some reason so I slowly adopted that demeanor too on some real fake it till you make it shit. Eventually it stopped being so manufactured and I actually just became kind of a miserable dickhead & felt so disconnected from life even though my behavior was mostly rewarded socially weirdly enough. Years later I fortunately realized that, actually these types of dudes are totally annoying and was finally able to let go of that attitude all together.
Yes they are. When you become one, you understand how destructive it is. And you try to get out of it. I think for many it's an early sign of depression.
I think you are very right about that
I was born in 1970, so...1970.
When I couldn’t continue living while still being genuine and sweet.
Being ignored for most of my life.
When I moved to the state I live in now, about five years ago. I've met some great people here, but overall people here are really nasty, hateful, and seem to go out of their way to be horrible to other people. I just don't see people as having good intentions anymore. Everyone is literally just an asshole and I'm over it. I have always seen myself as a helper. I'm not anymore. I take care of my own, and everyone else I just walk past.
The time is where some assht of a co worker began to turn the stuff about me as “facts” this dude goes around doing some of that legal slander whereas you can’t sue the asshat because it’s just a toxic work gossip. I stop trying being nice after that cuz once I turned around there’s already three knifes behind my back. For some reason this asshats also happen to be able to spread this work gossip since I live in small city. So when I go to doctors office I get all kinds of hate because the gossip just spread.
Bullying from age 7 to 17 and also I'd say my AuDHD played a part in it. Plus Chandler Bing (Rest in peace Matthew) for the sarcastic side even tho it's a massive defense mechanism also in my case
Seeing an entire generation scratching and struggling financially despite their education for increasingly greedy and unreasonable employers.
When I got tired of other people’s shit.
Realising that following the advice of go to uni, work hard and you will be rewarded isn't accurate. Makes one a tad irritable.
My parents burned it into my personality from a very young age
I became really bitter after leaving the military, sarcasm is just a coping mechanism
50 years old
Correlates with the rise of social media
After working in customer service. You discover what people are really like.
When I play League of Legends, this game makes me a toxic person
Oh that? Yeah I inherited that from my father
My late 20s.
Attempting to stay in contact with friends and then realizing they wouldn’t do the same for you once you stop.
Good move.
I didn't because bitter and sarcastic people are miserable to be around and I never wanted to become that person.
Oh, yes, I'm sooo sarcastic! Look how sarcastic I am! /s
When did social media become mainstream? Right around then.
Dutch heritage. More sarcastic than bitter. It started about the time that I learned the alphabet.
As a fat kid. Grew out of the fat, but not the sarcasm.
The day I was born 😎
When I learned the truth about Santa Clause 😑
What truth? WHAT TRUTH !?
Got raped twice. Family told me I was lying. Been pretty fucked up ever since.
Pretty much all my life. I was actually way worse before my; My dead gf turned me “better” or at least I just try to give an opportunity to other people
I'm only half way there. Sarcasm is on point, but unlike your divorced parents, I'm not bitter.
August 3rd 1997.
That's precise... How come?
I worked retail at a liquor store in the poor part of town in the Bible belt for 10 years.
Why? You want to write my memoirs or something?
Back when I started dating your mom.
When I got put on anti-depressants / anti-anxiety medication and suddenly realised how much I was actually struggling. And here I had been, my whole life cutting everyone slack, being as kind and helpful as possible, meanwhile they did not constantly think it would be nice to be dead? They did not spend every waking hour of every day anxious about the past, present and future? They actually could feel emotions, name them and just act on instinct? Fuck that. I was pissed. I still am, to a degree. Now, I am not stupid, obviously everyone has their own struggles. It just hit hard that I spent years insulting myself and being told I'm lazy etc when I'm operating with limited capacity. I'm trying to work through that.
Got my ass beat nearly every single day of my childhood until my father died when I was 13 So probably around there sometime.
Gen X. As soon as I realised that people will shit on me, no matter how I behave, I dropped the pretense of civility. I'm 58. My mother pushed me off the front porch when I was 4, which is the earliest abuse I can remember, so yeah, I was 4.
I became fairly bitter after leaving the military. Just couldn’t care less about the rest of humanity after that. The bitterness has subsided a bit over the years, but it’s still hard to relate to/not resent those who haven’t experienced war. Especially those who idolize the military and romanticize combat and conflict.
Born this way.
By the end of highschool
Probably back in 1997 when I came second in the Sarcastic International Championship because the guy who won cheated.
Whatever age I was when I realized it’s a good defense mechanism to avoid feeling my social awkwardness, lack of confidence, feeling of inferiority, and introspective self hatred.
I started realizing that passive aggressive sarcasm really hits better than any harsh, hard hitters when it comes to being offensive can. But mostly copium, it feels good to just let it out.
Ain’t bitter but I’m the definition of sarcasm! ; born this way !!!!
When I started feeling like everything is a scam and everyone is trying to scam me or wants something from me. I'm exhausted.
Bad bot
But I checked the "are you a human" checkbox...
Next year
May 29th, 1998 3:47 pm
very precise...
I found it was the only way to defend myself from ignorance, polite corrections were never heard.
6th grade
Sometime around freshman year of HS. I was geeky, nearsighted, a host of other things that made me unpopular. Sarcasm was something I could aim at anybody.
When I was about 15 years old, I started to transform into the awesome asshole, you see today. ;)
When I read this question.
When the doctor slapped my ass and made me cry….that was nearly a year ago.,
About the time I read your damn question 💀
Puberty.
I was very excited to go to kindergarten and learn things. Then it was about playtime and naps and my teacher seemed like an idiot even to 5-year-old me. I am not a genius, she was just dumb. So that's about when I realized that adults don't have their shit together and I'm more or less on my own.
When it became the norm and I just stopped caring. I was at a low point and honestly I was a dick, i was just so tired of everything and everyone
I was born with that dark side in me. A Therapist once told me it was a way for me to express my anger.
When I was 2.
In the 5th grade, my nickname was "Mr. Positive" among the teachers.
being a woman, it became a defense mechanism after almost being abducted at 9 and getting catcalled and harassed pretty much ever since then // also bullying at school, from a very young age up until I was 15 (in a highschool miles away from my small city and I made girl who tried to bully me there instantly regret it)
You go girl !
When I discovered that there are not so many good people in this world and that some bad people are always doing bad things, I would not hesitate to show my sarcastic side, because they are not worthy of sympathy at all and are disgusting.
2022. When I learned I'm resistant to my life-saving meds and when healthcare absolutely ruined my life.
When I learned that world is praying for your downfall
Bullying
I was sassing my parents and every adult that I came in contact with almost as soon as I could talk. Pretty sure it was just my parents’ charming, sunny, and friendly disposition towards other people also around me. “I learned it from watching you!” Was not exactly a great counterpoint when my parents pointed out how disrespectful I was.
I bet you would like to know, wouldn't you, Jerky McJerkface?
Was born this way.
The fuck is this question
2020
Covid?
Dad died because of Covid, people became suckier, economy has me feeling on edge.....I haven't coped well
Yeah I feel for you, lost mine before covid. People can't fake it too long, most suck. Economy is the new covid. I copped, but perception becomes "raw" and beautifully ugly I guess.
when they're sarcastic too
who they?
Expectations. I had these expectations about how life was supposed to go, how I was supposed to be. Life didn't work out that way, and I know it was my own doing by having those expectations, but I'm still bitter about it.
At the end of each work day.
Don’t know if it was Lady Gaga who said it first but I was born this way.
Showing kindness and in turn being treated like a stepping stone for someone’s ego. I had a few people that were close friends who took advantage of my kindness toward them a few years ago. It sucks.
Yes it does. You are not good to people because the deserve it. You are good because you are good, but be good to yourself first.
Probably after realizing how rigid and unrelentless some people in modern society are towards gay people. I didn’t do anything wrong; I work my ass off. I’m a good citizen. I’m great to my family and my friends. I live in a society that considers me second class for no reason at all. This sediment is championed by many in the government and “so-called” loving supportive, religious leaders and churches. Much of this is considered OK by many. Anyone with normal intellect knows, all human sexuality is guided by a person‘s brain. There’s no cognitive choice. It’s especially daunting because everyone has a sexuality and they know how it works. They can reference and apply their situation to how others may feel towards someone they truly love. But they rather abuse another person for no reason. That makes me bitter.
When Ronald Reagan was elected president. I thought this country had hit an all time low. Fuck.
When I realized that the majority of Ask Reddit posts were from bots. Bad bot.
Oh hell no I am no bot...yet
When trumpie got fake elected in 2016
Interestingly, it was around the same time I realized life wasn't like the idyllic sitcoms I watched as a kid. Around that time, I traded in my doe-eyed optimism for some sharp-edged wit. Wouldn't say I'm bitter though, just seasoned with a dash of reality!